Swan89 Posted April 6, 2019 Posted April 6, 2019 I told my recent partner to never bottle things up and that she could talk to me if she ever had concerns about the relationship, multiple times. Yet lo and behold, I get dumped out of the blue for her "not being ready for a relationship" and I'll never know the real reason why because of that lack of honesty and mature communication. If she had just talked to me, maybe it wouldn't have come to breaking up. Frustrating. There's only so much one person can bring to the table, we can't fix their shortcomings. Have you ever lost somebody because they refused to open up and be honest about what they want or what they're unhappy about even though you tried your best to be good to them?
Cersei Posted April 6, 2019 Posted April 6, 2019 I have and it sucked. But it taught me to choose better men going forward. 1
basil67 Posted April 6, 2019 Posted April 6, 2019 Swan is this the same woman who was a poor communicator from the start? If a person can't communicate well early on, there are not going to become a communicator within the relationship.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 I find that if someone is not communicating with you about what's bothering them, it's often because they're not invested enough to find a solution. Being good to them is usually not the issue. 2
samjam7 Posted April 13, 2019 Posted April 13, 2019 Yes. Such people bottle up things and build resentment against you. They can't resolve conflicts. I can assure you that you couldn't change anything.
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