Tagalz Posted April 5, 2019 Posted April 5, 2019 (edited) Hey! I have posted a thread about meetup on my profile as I was not sure if I wanted to go or not. Today I decided to go. The meetup was located in the city and nearby one of Oslo's best kebabs. Also the university was very close too. First time I went there I was sitting alone just to feel the vibe and look around (Without making people uncomfortable of course) and I notice that people there knew each other and that is because they are regulars so they have established a friendship with almost everybody. I could also see that some people bring their friendgroup to have fun and be social. last but not least since the university is close some people that were there studies at the uni and was there to hang out with friends and some went there alone. In summary: I did not like the vibe and I felt left out because most people who was there is regulars and some had friend group with them. But the girls who studies at the university was hot. I think I was attending the wrong meetup and I would not go there alone next time. If I go there I would bring my friends to play billiard, ping pong etc... (They have billiard, ping pong and table tennis) The next meetup I will attend is: "board games meetup" which I saw people playing last time when I was at that gaming event. I'll take all the advice I can get! I really need to go out more an be social because staying home is not good for me Edited April 5, 2019 by Tagalz
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 The board games meet up is a good idea. I used to go to one not enough to be a regular but it was easier to break the ice. To go to one & sit by yourself sends a message that you want to be left alone. It's hard to be the guy who is offering his hand first to introduce yourself to a new group but when you go to meetups that don't have an organized agenda you have to do this. 1
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 Board games meetup sounds fun! I don't do any Meetups anymore, but the first one I ever went to was a baby shower, and I knew nobody lol, even the pregnant mama. It was a single moms Meetup group. Everyone was really welcoming, but that was a little different....nobody was trying to meet anyone to date!
Gretchen12 Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 I also go to a board game meetup. You can also start your own meetup, you know. I would start a singles meetup group and fix people up. 1
Author Tagalz Posted April 7, 2019 Author Posted April 7, 2019 The board games meet up is a good idea. I used to go to one not enough to be a regular but it was easier to break the ice. To go to one & sit by yourself sends a message that you want to be left alone. It's hard to be the guy who is offering his hand first to introduce yourself to a new group but when you go to meetups that don't have an organized agenda you have to do this. At first I tought It was great that people there are regulars because then I could get to know most of them but when I tried to communicate with them I got a feeling that they didn’t really care to «get to know me» and was all about having fun with people that they already knew. The same thing applies to people from the university bringing their friend group. Altough I’ve tried.
Cersei Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 I am in Western Canada and have never heard of a meet up before. What exactly is it? Do you just go there to meet people? Who puts it on?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 Meetup.com - there are groups for just about anything you can think of. 2
Cersei Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 Meetup.com - there are groups for just about anything you can think of. Oh thanks! I never knew this existed. Lol 1
d0nnivain Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 The "regulars" who ignore the newbie miss the whole point of these things. We are all human & humans like predictability. It's hard to be the newbie but in groups every member has a responsibility to welcome the new comers. In well run groups certain members are assigned this task. In any group it's easier to break the ice when you have a purpose . . the purpose of playing a game is sufficient.
Author Tagalz Posted April 7, 2019 Author Posted April 7, 2019 I am in Western Canada and have never heard of a meet up before. What exactly is it? Do you just go there to meet people? Who puts it on? You aren't the one bro! Attended my first meetup two days ago and I didn't like it. In general most people are willing to engage to get to know you, but it all depends on the meetup really. The one I went to was awful. People didn't even want to engage. tell me you're experience Cersei!
Cersei Posted April 7, 2019 Posted April 7, 2019 You aren't the one bro! Attended my first meetup two days ago and I didn't like it. In general most people are willing to engage to get to know you, but it all depends on the meetup really. The one I went to was awful. People didn't even want to engage. tell me you're experience Cersei! I have no experience with meetups at all. Until I read this thread I had never heard of them. I dont know if they exist in Canada. In my city they certainly are not talked about.
SunShineAngels Posted April 8, 2019 Posted April 8, 2019 Hey! I have posted a thread about meetup on my profile as I was not sure if I wanted to go or not. Today I decided to go. The meetup was located in the city and nearby one of Oslo's best kebabs. Also the university was very close too. First time I went there I was sitting alone just to feel the vibe and look around (Without making people uncomfortable of course) and I notice that people there knew each other and that is because they are regulars so they have established a friendship with almost everybody. I could also see that some people bring their friendgroup to have fun and be social. last but not least since the university is close some people that were there studies at the uni and was there to hang out with friends and some went there alone. In summary: I did not like the vibe and I felt left out because most people who was there is regulars and some had friend group with them. But the girls who studies at the university was hot. I think I was attending the wrong meetup and I would not go there alone next time. If I go there I would bring my friends to play billiard, ping pong etc... (They have billiard, ping pong and table tennis) The next meetup I will attend is: "board games meetup" which I saw people playing last time when I was at that gaming event. I'll take all the advice I can get! I really need to go out more an be social because staying home is not good for me I think you'll get use to the vibe if you go more. But I feel kinda the same way too many people partying is slightly annoying..
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