Was he interested in seeing me again?

[SunShineAngels]

There was a one night stand happened to me recently and I'd like to ask if this guy wanted to see me again.

 

We met at a night club, I ran against him( I'm not a native English speaker I hope my English make sense) as I was looking back.

Then I said sorry and turned around.

Surprisingly he grabbed my arms and said 'Why you ruining way from me'

 

I was like 'I don't know you why you grab my arms.'

He said because he wants to buy me drinks.

 

He was extremely tall and good looking. dressed well, totally my type, but I wasn't interested in talking to strangers at a night club.

We had some smalll talks was nice, then

I said I need to find my friend, then he locked my body in his arms didn't let me go.

 

I was like what this guy is scary, I said' I have to go', then he grabbed my hair and kissed me suddenly.

Whaaat...

Usually this kind of behavior could be creepy but he wasn't at all.

 

Kiss was really good I felt hit by lightning or something, he was surprised' too, he looked down on me for a moment like what-ta hell happened?

And we kissed again.

 

The feeling was just so amazing like we knew each other for long.

 

He was such a good kisser and so good looking, his attitude was like no one can resist him, when he said he want me to go back to his place I thought about it.

But as I'm not one night stand type, I said I cant then tried to leave.

 

Then he locked my body again saying ' don't go', I haven't seen any guys could be this aggressive.

But it wasn't creepy at all.

I don't know how to explain.

 

Then I was like well one night, he is super hot, he wants me, why not.

So I went to his place.

 

He asked my name etc I just didn't tell because I thought not necessary.

Sex was good he was very confident and tough.

I could tell he thinks he could get any women he want.

 

After that I was like wanted to leave right away because I wasn't use to stay at a stranger's place.

 

But he was like sat besides me started to talk to me, ask me questions and talk about him-selves.

He told me really personal stuffs I was like how could he tell me these things we just met.

 

I was all thinking about leaving, so I said' can I leave?'

He seemed surprised, and said' It seems we are not meeting each other again?'

I said' yes we don't.'

I could see he was kinda disappointed.'Then I wish you meet somebody great'

 

Before I leave he asked me if sex was really good, I thought probably he hasn't had experience like women leave but not want to see him again.

 

'I said yes ' and kissed him.

He was like'Yes it was really good, thank you...'

 

After several days I started to re-think probably we could meet again, like if he wanted.

He was beautiful and confident.

 

And I found he is a friend of mine. I just found him from facebook accidentally. Surprisingly. Small world.

 

Do you guys think this guy actually was interested in me?

I'm not brave enough to contact him.

Edited April 3, 2019 by SunShineAngels

[ExpatInItaly]

His behavior suggests he is very well-versed in bringing women home.

 

He might want to see you again, but probably just for sex. If that's what you're looking for, have at it. I personally think you would be best to avoid him, though, since his behaviour was so practiced and has "player" written all over it.

 

But girl, please be more careful in the future. Yes, you have since discovered you "know" him online, but you had no clue who this man was when he asked you to go home. You were taking a gigantic risk there, especially considering how aggressive he was even in public and the fact that you had been drinking. That's not romantic or sexy; it's plain creepy and should have sent you scurrying away. He knew you'd be an easy target when you didn't tell him to bugger off. You were lucky this time, but do remember this is often how women get seriously hurt or vanish - or both.

[SunShineAngels]

His behavior suggests he is very well-versed in bringing women home.

 

He might want to see you again, but probably just for sex. If that's what you're looking for, have at it. I personally think you would be best to avoid him, though, since his behaviour was so practiced and has "player" written all over it.

 

But girl, please be more careful in the future. Yes, you have since discovered you "know" him online, but you had no clue who this man was when he asked you to go home. You were taking a gigantic risk there, especially considering how aggressive he was even in public and the fact that you had been drinking. That's not romantic or sexy; it's plain creepy and should have sent you scurrying away. He knew you'd be an easy target when you didn't tell him to bugger off. You were lucky this time, but do remember this is often how women get seriously hurt or vanish - or both.

 

You are right ExpatItaly, thanks for your comment.

I think just leave it as it is and meet good man for a relationship.

[fred123]

There was a one night stand happened to me recently and I'd like to ask if this guy wanted to see me again.

 

We met at a night club, I ran against him( I'm not a native English speaker I hope my English make sense) as I was looking back.

Then I said sorry and turned around.

Surprisingly he grabbed my arms and said 'Why you ruining way from me'

 

I was like 'I don't know you why you grab my arms.'

He said because he wants to buy me drinks.

 

He was extremely tall and good looking. dressed well, totally my type, but I wasn't interested in talking to strangers at a night club.

We had some smalll talks was nice, then

I said I need to find my friend, then he locked my body in his arms didn't let me go.

 

I was like what this guy is scary, I said' I have to go', then he grabbed my hair and kissed me suddenly.

Whaaat...

Usually this kind of behavior could be creepy but he wasn't at all.

 

Kiss was really good I felt hit by lightning or something, he was surprised' too, he looked down on me for a moment like what-ta hell happened?

And we kissed again.

 

The feeling was just so amazing like we knew each other for long.

 

He was such a good kisser and so good looking, his attitude was like no one can resist him, when he said he want me to go back to his place I thought about it.

But as I'm not one night stand type, I said I cant then tried to leave.

 

Then he locked my body again saying ' don't go', I haven't seen any guys could be this aggressive.

But it wasn't creepy at all.

I don't know how to explain.

 

Then I was like well one night, he is super hot, he wants me, why not.

So I went to his place.

 

He asked my name etc I just didn't tell because I thought not necessary.

Sex was good he was very confident and tough.

I could tell he thinks he could get any women he want.

 

After that I was like wanted to leave right away because I wasn't use to stay at a stranger's place.

 

But he was like sat besides me started to talk to me, ask me questions and talk about him-selves.

He told me really personal stuffs I was like how could he tell me these things we just met.

 

I was all thinking about leaving, so I said' can I leave?'

He seemed surprised, and said' It seems we are not meeting each other again?'

I said' yes we don't.'

I could see he was kinda disappointed.'Then I wish you meet somebody great'

 

Before I leave he asked me if sex was really good, I thought probably he hasn't had experience like women leave but not want to see him again.

 

'I said yes ' and kissed him.

He was like'Yes it was really good, thank you...'

 

After several days I started to re-think probably we could meet again, like if he wanted.

He was beautiful and confident.

 

And I found he is a friend of mine. I just found him from facebook accidentally. Surprisingly. Small world.

 

Do you guys think this guy actually was interested in me?

I'm not brave enough to contact him.

 

i bet you have done one night stsnds before.

wow you just confirmed its not creepy if s guys hot

[SunShineAngels]

Do you guys think really that creepy?

[stillafool]

He asked my name etc I just didn't tell because I thought not necessary.

Sex was good he was very confident and tough.

I could tell he thinks he could get any women he want.

 

So it's necessary for you to have sex with a stranger but not necessary for him to know your name? Both of you seem rather creepy.

[SunShineAngels]

So it's necessary for you to have sex with a stranger but not necessary for him to know your name? Both of you seem rather creepy.

 

Eh whats the difference telling name but saying good bye after it's done with telling name then never meet again..

[stillafool]

Oh, so you had no interest in seeing him again. If that is the case I can see why he didn't need to know your name. Did you need to know his?

 

Do you guys think this guy actually was interested in me?

I'm not brave enough to contact him.

 

This contradicts your statement, doesn't it. You do that a lot.

[SunShineAngels]

Oh, so you had no interest in seeing him again. If that is the case I can see why he didn't need to know your name. Did you need to know his?

 

 

 

This contradicts your statement, doesn't it. You do that a lot.

 

No not a lot.

I didn’t feel necessary at first but afterwards I started to think I may want to know him more.

[elaine567]

Do you guys think really that creepy?

 

Just imagine if he hadn't been tall, good looking and well dressed, but short spotty and dressed like a tramp, then imagine how creepy his actions were?

He basically sexually assaulted/harassed you, but you gave him permission so it was all OK..

Had the short, spotty undesirable guy done the same, you would have called on management to sort him out... at least...

[fred123]

Just imagine if he hadn't been tall, good looking and well dressed, but short spotty and dressed like a tramp, then imagine how creepy his actions were?

He basically sexually assaulted/harassed you, but you gave him permission so it was all OK..

Had the short, spotty undesirable guy done the same, you would have called on management to sort him out... at least...

thats why its only sexual harrasment if a guy is ugly.

 

i do want to ask OP what would be her reaction if an ugly guy did that and asked her to come bak to his for a one night stand?

[SunShineAngels]

Well it’s the same as if a smocky hot woman kissed you and asked you to come to her bed would you call police like she s harrassing you?

Looks does matter, otherwise why there aren’t much normal looking ppl in hollywood, and why ppl pay for strip shows to see beautiful ppl but not trump dancing naked..?

 

Imagine if Janes Bond is super ugly. Who s gonna watch that movie he making out with so many pretty women?

What if the Bond girls look like grandma next door?

[SunShineAngels]

BUT I admit why I wanted to go home was because I felt he acted arrogant.

 

Then later I was kind of felt like I knew him before, very weird connection feeling never happened before, not because he s hot, I have been with other hot guys.

This is quite weird.

[Wallysbears]

Be grateful you didn't end up a statistic on the news? Be grateful he wasn't a serial killer?

 

This was about as unsafe as you could have been. But hey, if you had fun and enjoyed it that's all that counts?

[elaine567]

... I felt he acted arrogant.

Then later I was kind of felt like I knew him before, very weird connection feeling never happened before, not because he s hot...

 

My guess he is has a manipulative personality or he is even the dreaded narc...

Be careful.

Ordinary decent guys do not act like this in night clubs.

[JuneL]

thats why its only sexual harrasment if a guy is ugly.

 

i do want to ask OP what would be her reaction if an ugly guy did that and asked her to come bak to his for a one night stand?

 

Well the ugly guy wouldn’t even get to that point. By the time he grabbed the OP’s arm, she would be screaming “get the hell out of my way, you ugly creep!”

[Wallysbears]

My guess he is has a manipulative personality or he is even the dreaded narc...

Be careful.

Ordinary decent guys do not act like this in night clubs.

 

This guy was looking for an "easy target" to take home and screw. He found it.

[SunShineAngels]

This guy was looking for an "easy target" to take home and screw. He found it.

 

Wow you are so kind saying something like this to me...such a great lady.

[Versacehottie]

Oh, so you had no interest in seeing him again. If that is the case I can see why he didn't need to know your name. Did you need to know his?

 

 

 

This contradicts your statement, doesn't it. You do that a lot.

 

Agreed^^^ There are other things in this story where she contradicts and a lot of game playing. Basically the part where he asks if they will see each other again and though she has just slept with him, likes him etc, tells him no.

 

I will just say to the OP that if you are trying to play the game where you resist and then just can't because the connection between you two is just TOO strong, this is a tragic fail. Also you might be reading too many romance novels, watching too many romantic movies, believing too much in your own melodrama. I'm not saying this because you are not an english speaker. I just think you think much too highly of yourself and play games that won't get you what you want. You cause confusion.

 

About the guy: i think he sounds like a player that was attracted to you that night. Who knows what will happen in the future. He could try to see you again but I don't know if either of you have good communication skills for a relationship, i.e. there might be problems if you did get to that far.

[Wallysbears]

You went home with a man that was aggressive to you and disrespectful in a club and didn't know his name and he didn't know yours.

 

Life isn't a romantic comedy or 50 Shades of Grey or whatever.

 

Do you really think you were the only woman in the bar/club that he tried to pull this on? Or do you think perhaps, just perhaps, you are the one that allowed him to get away with it?

 

Now ask yourself why. And realistically look at what COULD have happened to you. I'm not being mean when I say that...I'm being a good woman for telling you to be careful and realize that this wasn't just some cosmic moment, this was a guy playing very aggressively and looking to get laid. Movies and stuff that make this sort of interaction out to be sexy are not reality. What you described is potentially flat out dangerous. It is the stuff that gets women raped when they say 'no' and realize that they're in a bad situation.

 

You felt like you had to ask this man if you can leave? Does that not terrify you somewhere inside yourself?

[Lorenza]

A woman is as crazy as she is ugly. And a guy is as creepy as he is ugly. It has always been like this and not going to change anytime soon, unfortunately... I wish people would be more reasonable and not think with their private parts, cause this cause so many problems and double standards in society. My biggest problem is women saying "no" while they actually mean yes and are turned on by the power struggle. It gives a wrong idea and many men think they just have to turn up the level of persistence cause women are just playing with them.

Answering to your question, OP - he probably did want to see you again, for some more easy sex which he is used to get on a whim.

On the other hand, finding him on the social medias and knowing who he is while doesn't even know your name is also a bit creepy.

[SunShineAngels]

Thank you for all your comments and I fully understand.

 

I do want a real relationship.

 

I think I should stop seeing or texing any guys and spend my own life with girl friends for while.

 

Thank you everybody.