DaddyDom Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 These days I feel like more women are taking on the role of the pursuer. They hand out their number without being asked, initiate bringing up plans, etc.. Now some guys reading this will probably think "I wish I had beautiful women asking me out" etc.. But as an old school man nothing turns me off more. Example - Today I contacted a drop dead gorgeous hottie on OKC. She writes back asking if I am real because of all the fake profiles. I joke back with "Bodies that hot are usually Photoshopped so I should be asking you. ;)" She replies back with cute emojis and says "We should grab a drink" and drops her number. To me this was an instant turn off and I unmatched her on the spot. Unlike some I know exactly what I want. So I make who I am and what I am looking for very clear in my profile. So it bugs me when women don't take the time to read it. I mean maybe I should have been born in s different era. But I enjoy pursuing, courting a woman, and having to work for it a bit. A woman that wants me to take what I want and make her mine. To me that is super hot. 1
Tamfana Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 To each his own. Thank heavens everyone has different taste.
BaileyB Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 Today I contacted a drop dead gorgeous hottie on OKC. I joke back with "Bodies that hot are usually Photoshopped so I should be asking you. ;)" But as an old school man nothing turns me off more. As an old school woman, I like a man who will pursue. So, we would get along well until you make comments like these, at which point I would drop you on the spot. I like a man who pursues but also respects a woman for more than her drop dead gorgeous hottie body. But, that’s just me... 2
Author DaddyDom Posted April 2, 2019 Author Posted April 2, 2019 Just curious, how old are you? It's funny because I am 38 so still part of Gen X. However i was raised in more of a traditional household with structure. My dad was the breadwinner, my mom was stay at home, etc.. I honestly believe that is why I grew up so well and had such awesome values instilled in me. But my ways of thinking on romance, women, etc tend to clash with modern feminism, etc.. The main reason why I caved with online dating is because living in CA, all the women I'd approach IRL, were really progressive, super liberal, and strongly feminist. 1
Author DaddyDom Posted April 2, 2019 Author Posted April 2, 2019 As an old school woman, I like a man who will pursue. So, we would get along well until you make comments like these, at which point I would drop you on the spot. I like a man who pursues but also respects a woman for more than her drop dead gorgeous hottie body. But, that’s just me... Realistically when a guy doesn't know you, he has nothing else to go on initially. Who you are as a woman, your spirit, your personality, sense of humor, past history, etc is all learned over time in person. That is what makes respect for who you are grow and appreciation of it develop. However romance is also playful and fun. It is supposed to be light hearted, a bit sexually charged, etc.. So if a playful comment throws you that much off your axis, then you'd be too serious for me anyways.
Cersei Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 Interesting. I am one of those girls that try to make it easy for men to know if I am interested or not interested. So I am indeed one of the girls you mention above. I mean I don't grab a guys crotch or anything but I try to be clear that I am interested. That just helps avoid the silly does he/she like me or not stuff. No complaints so far.
preraph Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 A lot of men from my generation (older than you!) like the chase, and generally I've noticed that the easier it is for them to get women, they more they appreciate the rare one they can chase who doesn't just pile onto them. 1
BaileyB Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Who you are as a woman, your spirit, your personality, sense of humor, past history, etc is all learned over time in person. That is what makes respect for who you are grow and appreciation of it develop. However romance is also playful and fun. It is supposed to be light hearted, a bit sexually charged, etc... Don’t disagree, at all. Just saying, I’m a “traditional girl” and if that is what you are seeking, sexually charged comments before even meeting for coffee may not be well received. Personally, I love the subtlety of sexual inuuendo because to me, that shows intelligence and wit. Anybody can make a rather crude comment about a hottie body... it doesn’t particularly take intelligence or wit. Show me that you have the intelligence and social skills to use some subtle sexual innuendo and that will draw me to you like a fly to honey. But again, there is a time and a place, and making suggestive comments before even meeting would put you in my “creepy online dating” file... just saying. Take that advice for what it’s worth. 3
alphamale Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 dude if you've got hot chicks breaking doors down to go out with you then take advantage of it. If you don't I will have to nullify your man card. 3
emeraldgreen Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Depending on your aesthetic tastes, you might be better off pursuing women from backgrounds where traditional gender roles aren't seen as the evil patriarchy and where masculinity isn't toxic. Thai and Filipina girls, for example.
frus69 Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 You only have her number you dont have her yet. You still need to chase and do all the work. lol she's far from yours yet 2
RecentChange Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 (edited) You are free to choose.... but not whine You messaged her, she reciprocated interest too aggressively for your liking so you blocked her. Man I bet she was confused by that one! Are you saying that she should have read your profile, then changed her normal way of interacting to appeal to you even more (you messaged her, so she must have appealed to you). And I agree with Bailey, if you want women to be demure and follow your lead - you need to adjust your approach and behave more like a gentleman. Imagine you are talking to her with her father sitting next to her - would you be so direct and casual, or would you pay her a bit more respect? Just curious- with these traditional values, why are you unmarried at 38? Are you currently in a financial position to take on a stay at home wife and support a family? Own a house big enough for a family and all of that jazz? It’s wonderful if that’s what you want, and are ready to offer - but I agree with you, finding single women in CA who are interested in that sort of lifestyle may be harder to find, but they are certainly out there. My sister is a stay at home mom, as are a few friends. Their husbands make considerable amount of money - because well that’s what you need to do out here with the cost of living. Edited April 3, 2019 by RecentChange 3
elaine567 Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 You only have her number you dont have her yet. You still need to chase and do all the work. lol she's far from yours yet BUT she asked him out. The OP has a kink, Daddy does the choosing and the asking and his "little girl" eventually complies and loves her Daddy... Confident adult women who know what they want and are independent and see such "parental" type male dominance as something to be avoided, are not his desired target. BUT hot early 20 somethings as per his preference, are pretty confident these days... hence the rant. 6
frus69 Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 haha okay, well he is not rich or hot enough for hot 20s 2
LivingWaterPlease Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 DaddyDom, I have sons who are your age and could have written your post.
Gretchen12 Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 You don't seem to have a problem. We all choose according to our own preferences. I have my own preferences and I never expect nor want all men to be that type. I don't even discuss it with girl friends because there is no issue. Those women you feel are "aggressive and impatient", are simply not for you. Why is that bothering you? 1
SunShineAngels Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 I agree with you DaddyDom If men and women are equal to pursue a partner, then why there are way more women asks questions online like, 'Is he interested in me?' 'I slept with him and now he disappeared, I feel used' 'I have this anxiety if he is really interested cuz I was too aggressive' 'I thought I didn't want anything serious and now I can't find any good men left' 'Why he left me?' 'How can I get him commit?' If they can be really like a man why they'd bother? They just act like a man but they are not. Biologically and mentally women are different. If men chase women choose, they won't get this confused. That's why there are so many dating coaches on YouTube making money from women these days. I know a lot of happy couples either married or not, they all started from men chasing, and after marriage, their husband still remembers they won a prize. I also know women never get guys serious towards to them because they are too aggressive. They get used, as alphamale said, he will take advantage on it. Men have time to waste women don't, at the end of the day these women stopped playing around, they are single without any good men around. 1
chillii Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Yeah personally although they aren't that aggressive here thank god because it really turns me off too, l just find that sort of thing really tacky . l'm old school myself too , but 50s, and only ever went for the same in a woman. 1
elaine567 Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Where does marriage come into it? Where does ordinary dating and relationships come into it? Here, we have a Daddy Dom looking for very young submissive women to satisfy a kink... Each to his own, but to suggest this is the "norm" and that "women" in general are getting it all wrong, is missing the point surely? 1
stillafool Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Well Daddy Dom what do you think of women who you meet and have sex with the same night you meet them? There's a lot of women having one night stands too. I think men had better get used to aggressive women because women want sex too and are going after it. 2
SunShineAngels Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Well Daddy Dom what do you think of women who you meet and have sex with the same night you meet them? There's a lot of women having one night stands too. I think men had better get used to aggressive women because women want sex too and are going after it. I think lots of women use men for sex' too but they can't be really cool like them. Otherwise there won't be way more women questioning why he dissapared after sex but not men.. They just wants to be cool..
stillafool Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Who wants to be cool? The women? I think they just want sex that will evolve into a relationship, not to be cool.
SunShineAngels Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Who wants to be cool? The women? I think they just want sex that will evolve into a relationship, not to be cool. Yeah I know, that probably would be hard sometimes I think.
Wallysbears Posted April 3, 2019 Posted April 3, 2019 Funny, you want women to play by old school dating "rules" where they let you ask first...and the last post you wrote here, you asked a woman out on a Thursday night for a Friday date. If you were playing by the same dating "rules" then you would have asked her out by Wednesday for a proper Saturday evening date. Not the night before. (And then you got a little upset because she was busy and you saw it as a 'test') You either want to play by old school dating rules or you don't....which is it? Or do the "rules" just apply to the women? 5
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