BJP1991 Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 If you met someone from a dating app one week ago, then are taking them out for dinner and an activity + drink the next week, is that too much too soon? We have had limited physical contact, just a hug on the first date. I plan to change that on the second date, but I’ve heard others say that you shouldn’t take a girl out to dinner unless they’ve earned it, and only so easy dates early on like drinks or coffee. Link to post Share on other sites
clia Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 If you met someone from a dating app one week ago, then are taking them out for dinner and an activity + drink the next week, is that too much too soon? We have had limited physical contact, just a hug on the first date. I plan to change that on the second date, but I’ve heard others say that you shouldn’t take a girl out to dinner unless they’ve earned it, and only so easy dates early on like drinks or coffee. What do you mean unless she's "earned" it? Why does she have to "earn" dinner with you? To answer your question, yes, dinner is fine for a second date. Coffee is only appropriate for a first meet, if even that. Drinks and appetizers (happy hour type thing) would be fine also for a second date, if it has to be on a week night, and you are crunched for time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 Yes absolutely. Dinner is totally appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
Gretchen12 Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 Do you intend to romance her or caffeinate her? It doesn't need to be expensive, but you need to be able to talk without everyone at Starbuck's being able to hear you getting to know each other. With a guy I dated online, we went to an event and just ate on a park bench with food from a foodtruck, it was fine. It's not a question of spending money. Afterall, you're not trying to buy something. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 Dinner, but an inexpensive one. Like don't go over 20 bucks on her. It's a second date that could pan out nothing. I remember the expensive dinners and having to say no to another date...awkward. I think a nice pub dinner is kool and casual for a second date. Gives you a chance to talk. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BJP1991 Posted April 2, 2019 Author Share Posted April 2, 2019 Dinner, but an inexpensive one. Like don't go over 20 bucks on her. It's a second date that could pan out nothing. I remember the expensive dinners and having to say no to another date...awkward. I think a nice pub dinner is kool and casual for a second date. Gives you a chance to talk. Yeah I do plan on more of an informal date. The place I’m thinking is actually one where you generally split one menu item with another person (shared portions), which should keep cost down and make it nice and casual as well. After eating, my plan is to take her to this mini golf/other game and activity place as an activity. There’s a brewery in the same venue as well, which allows us to grab a drink afterwards. Sound decent? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 It's about the cost not the activity. You don't want to go broke entertaining a new person. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author BJP1991 Posted April 2, 2019 Author Share Posted April 2, 2019 It's about the cost not the activity. You don't want to go broke entertaining a new person. I agree, first date we split the bill, which was just a couple drinks each. Dinner won’t be expensive, and I’ll pay for it, and if she offers to split dinner, I’ll just tell her she can by me a drink at the next place we go to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 Dinner is fine and an activity. Just don't go so overboard that you look desperate or make her feel obligated, which will scare her. Just a moderately priced sitdown dinner somewhere, maybe like a cheap italian place or taco place, somewhere you can talk. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Iris The Butterfly Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 I don't think it's too much too soon. I want a guy I'm dating to put in the effort. My bf paid for our tickets in advance to a Halloween event, and after the event paid for a light dinner at a nice restaurant...for our second date. It showed me he liked me and was taking the initiative to impress. Major points!! I think that it's relative to each person, but it goes a long way in my book. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 2, 2019 Share Posted April 2, 2019 if you have the funds to take her out for a $150 dinner on your 2nd date then by all means do so. personally I would take her to chipotle and let her get whatever she want... Link to post Share on other sites
mightybop Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 personally I would take her to chipotle and let her get whatever she want... Dang you must have serious game if you can pull off a chipotle dinner. Has it worked? Link to post Share on other sites
frus69 Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 nothing turns me off more than a guy who is cheap. dinner is very appropriate 3 Link to post Share on other sites
manfrombelow2 Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 It doesn't matter what you do, but what you MAKE HER FEEL. Basically, if you handle your game right, you can do whatever you want, fancy dinner or not, it doesn't matter as long as you make her feel sexual attracted about you. I would however avoid fancy dinner with candle though, because it is a bit too "heavy" for a second date, and most importantly, it doesn't sound like FUN. I'd find some place that is FUN, RELAXING, CASUAL for a second date. For example, you can take her to play bowling, and if you two get hungry during the games, just grab some fast food there. Who cares? Bowling is fun. And women love to have fun. And I notice one mistake you did in your first date. You said you "hugged" her. You either kiss her or you do NOTHING, because "hug" is for friends, buddy. I learned this the hard way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Dang you must have serious game if you can pull off a chipotle dinner. Has it worked? I was just making an example of him taking her to a cheaper place for date 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
manfrombelow2 Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 I don't live in the USA so I really don't know what "chipotle" is but who cares? As long as it's a fun-filled environment where the two of you - especially the girl - can eat, talk and laugh, you'll be fine. I have seen countless of betas trying to "bribe" girls by taking them to fancy dinner or buying them expensive gifts with a false hope that these girls are gonna let them f**k them. Big mistakes. Girls disgust weak betas the same way we disgust being forced to look at a pile of sh*t while having dinner. I was just making an example of him taking her to a cheaper place for date 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Simple Logic Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Dinner is kinda boring. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 Dinner is kinda boring. Only if one of the parties is a poor conversationalist. Or you don't like food. Link to post Share on other sites
Cersei Posted April 3, 2019 Share Posted April 3, 2019 And I notice one mistake you did in your first date. You said you "hugged" her. You either kiss her or you do NOTHING, because "hug" is for friends, buddy. I learned this the hard way. I don't agree with this at all. It's great to get a hug at the end of a 1st date. My bf did that the first date and left me wanting more. I got a good sniff of his scent and felt his hard chest. It's a good way to see how receptive she is to possibly more than a hug. I think the hug was appropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
hercules22 Posted April 5, 2019 Share Posted April 5, 2019 I always did dinner first date Link to post Share on other sites
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