c1nderella Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 (edited) Hey guys so I’ve posted about this guy before and somehow he’s still around. Things are very weird between us.. I havnt seen him in over a month. Last week my friend who goes both ways told me that as he was on Ok Cupid, this guy was on his list which could only happen if he was searching for men as well. I called him that night drunk and asked him about it and he basically denied that he likes guys and said he thought it was weird why the app was set up like that. I cried over the phone and poured my heart out to him that night and told him I wanted to be with him but that if he didn’t feel the same I can move on. He told me he didn’t want me to move on that he liked me. I tried to get all the questions to my answers and just try to find out what was going on... still after the talk I was left wondering. I have his charger so he kept saying that we will continue talking when he gets it. After that I have stopped initiating and he has been the one to reach out to see if we could hang out. The thing is, he says he can accommodate his schedule so we can meet but that didn’t happen this week. He was hanging out with his friends this past weekend and while he was out told me he missed me but whole week was kinda just breadcrumming me sending me pictures of the kids at the school he works and such. I reached out to him today telling him I was going to be around his way doing errands and that I could drop off his charger at his mailbox. I have never been to his house but I know the area where he lives. He asked me around what time that he was still in bed. I told him that he didn’t even have to come out to say hi that I knew he needed his charger and I was just trying to be nice and have even offered to mail it to him. He told me that it wasn’t necessary for me to bring it to him that he was going to be around my way this week and he will get the charger then. I know there are wayyy too many flags with this guy. He might be bisexual and is hesitant to tell me and he just acts very weird and dissappears on me. I know it’s all to keep me hooked and maybe the charger is his excuse? Is he using me in a way to try to hide/figure out his sexual preferences? I’m just so confused. Edited April 1, 2019 by c1nderella
preraph Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 He isn't interested in you. No matter what he said when you called crying and begging to get you to stop. He may see the potential to keep you in reserve for booty calls since he knows you like him, but if he really was interested, none of this would be happening. 1
Author c1nderella Posted April 2, 2019 Author Posted April 2, 2019 (edited) He isn't interested in you. No matter what he said when you called crying and begging to get you to stop. He may see the potential to keep you in reserve for booty calls since he knows you like him, but if he really was interested, none of this would be happening. I know he doesn’t feel the same way I can feel it, I can see it... he doesnt look at me like I look at him. But I rather a guy tell me straight up to my face that he doesn’t give two shyts about me instead of stringing me along and lying to me just to get me to stop crying. Why do guys do that? It’s like keeping a person thats laying in bed basically a vegetable connected to a machine “alive”. It’s hard for me to move on when someone gives me a small sign of “hope”. If this guy is gay I would appreciate him coming out to me and I know that it’s not easy if that’s the case. It’s hard enough accepting it to yourself. But if someone is romantically involved I couldn’t do that to them. But I guess that’s just me. I’m an effin wreck. I just messaged him after a bottle of wine .saying that I missed him so much and he replied saying “I miss you too babe” I told him he obviously didn’t or else he would make time for me. That I knew he didn’t feel the same way for me and that was ok. He replied “I don’t like when you talk this way....” then I went on about how if he didn’t see a future with me he had to let me go. That I knew he was just stringing me along and it wasn’t fair. That he can get his charger and after that it will be like nothing happened. It’s midnight here and he hasn’t opened the message yet on Facebook messenger but.. after this week I’m hoping for me to finally move on and stop wasting my time with people that don’t appreciate me and waiting for them to change their mind. I could be with my perfect match if I wasn’t wasting my time with this guy. Edited April 2, 2019 by c1nderella
smackie9 Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 You need to cut yourself of from his drug (him). It's unhealthy. With a little patience you will meet someone who is on the same page as you. You will be happier than you have ever been. This guy is a waste of energy my friend.....block delete, move on. 1
preraph Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 He is not interested in being in any serious relationship with you, and that is why he doesn't even want to have emotional talks -- because he's not emotional about you and isn't in a relationship with you, so he doesn't see why he should have to sit still for all this drama when he isn't in and doesn't want a relationship with you. I'm sure he feels bad that you feel bad, but you shouldn't have contacted him. You can't cry someone into wanting you! You're just pushing yourself on him at this point for no reason. He doesn't care enough to even want to deal with you. You say you know that, but it hasn't changed your behavior. It's time to accept reality and leave him alone! Have some dignity and develop some self-discipline and move on when someone doesn't want you. It's never fun being rejected, but it is part of life and you will be a happier person if you learn to accept you're not right for each other if he doesn't want you (with everyone) and move on and try someone new and different. 1
NuevoYorko Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 Ugh, stop. There is little to nothing between you. He doesn't need to be on the receiving end of your drunken tears. It doesn't sound like he's "stringing you along." It sounds like he's not in your life and you are practically stalking him. How you feel about whether he's bi or not is really not something he needs to be concerned about. It's sure not his responsibility to lay things out for you in a way that you'll accept it. He just wants to make it stop, so he's saying whatever he can to that end. He probably already has a new phone charger. Move on. 1
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