Thedubman Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 Let me start off that I just started dating January 1st at the age of 28, it was a New Years resolution. Been out with 8 different women. Well 2 weeks ago I met this amazing women that I fell very hard for and she fell very hard for me. For the first week we would text and FaceTime all day and both of us loved every second of it. It was going so well we both decided to delete our apps and just focus on each other and see where things would go. We met up 7 days into talking and it went so well, it was magical!. 3 days later I noticed things were slowing down a little bit so I decided to redownload OKcupid, big mistake. She was on there to claiming she was only on there to make sure I deleted mine, I swiped right on her and she freaked. We talked it out and she gave me a second chance. Went out again with her 3 friends to the shore Saturday. All she talked about is how her ex ( more her ****buddy from a month ago, she was seeing in January) was trying to become friends with her and she agreed but he freaked out when she would not go over his house. Well this made my blood boil that she would even entertain this guy, a guy she was just basically ****ing for a month and a half. Saying this stuff right in front of me. I kept it cool the rest of the beach trip but when I got home I went straight to this other girls house I met in January and we had sex, an old connection, revenge sex. Woke up and freaked out on her over her talking about her fwb infront of me. I freaked out and told her it was over between us. Now I’m feeling so heart broken because we really connected and bonded over those two weeks. Did I jump the gun ending this? I know how I went about it was so wrong but did I dodge a bullet. She said she was completely loyal the whole time
d0nnivain Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 You jumped a couple of guns. A relationship takes time. App deleting prematurely causes problems. You best not do stuff like that until you are ready for exclusivity. At the 1st sign of trouble you went right back. You have little patience. Then in the face of more trouble, her conversation about her EX, you added fuel to the fire. All in all you & her are better off apart. You need to slow down & take things at a more sedate pace. There is no such thing as instant relationship.
kendahke Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 Yes, you did jump the gun--and you reached first for a very immature, very damaging, very vindictive way of retaliating/punishing her/ getting back at her FOR NOTHING. Unless you two had a talk about exclusivity and she'd agreed to be your girlfriend, you have nothing to base your vindictive actions on other than immature jealousy. When she finds out (and she will because the truth never stays buried--it surfaces when the cheater can least afford for it to surface)... yeah, you blew this one.
preraph Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 You jumped the gun of getting to know her. You let your emotions take over in no time at all. Once you actually met, you started seeing more of who each other was and that you weren't the "ideal person" each of you hoped the other would be. But don't feel bad. That's what dating is for. You date simply to get to know a person. You don't date going into it assuming this is your perfect mate and then get mad when they aren't the imaginary person in your head. 1
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