Author SunShineAngels Posted April 2, 2019 Author Posted April 2, 2019 I wanted to visit his place and him, if he wasn't there I wouldn't be there alone.
emeraldgreen Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 You expected him to stay in orbit while you controlled the game and, when he didn't play the role you wrote for him, it started your hamster wheel spinning. Let it be. 2
toomanyquestions123 Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 What i see here is that he also, didn't reciprocate any interest. You didn't like him in those 2 years then the day came when u visited his city, he thought that would be fun. He took you on a date, didn't really like you, he then made excuses that he has work. If he was interested, trust me, he would have seen you on DAY B AND DAY C. This happened to me 1 year ago when i was living abroad for a while in another country, and i already met an Italian guy 3 months before. The Italian guy said he wanted to visit me, and the moment he came, we went on a date and then i discovered that i cant like him and its impossible i can waste more time with him for 2 more days. I told him where to go for events and places alone and then excused myself that i am so busy at work and i cant make it. He was staying at the same hotel of mine, barely saw him twice. I just couldn't. If i were you, i wouldn't really dwell on it, let it go, i hope you enjoyed your time anyway regardless.
Versacehottie Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 Listen you need to get over yourself. He doesn't "owe" you anything. When he told you he was free A, B, C days, it could have meant to see you any of those days NOT ALL of those days. In other words you could work it out, figure it out which of the days. Not only that--be real--if you are changing the deal, then things don't proceed like it's all fine and you guys are kind of dating or care romantically about each other and you see each other the next two days. That's not how life works. I think he could tell that you weren't interested and he probably wasn't that interested either. Sounds like he agreed to meet you out of friendship type vibes and if something more happened he was ok with the possibility or was open to see if HE was still interested. Let's be really real--you having using tendencies and don't like to be held accountable for your "stuff". Life's not like that--it's not always going to go your way. Stop using people. 1
stillafool Posted April 2, 2019 Posted April 2, 2019 I wanted to visit his place and him, if he wasn't there I wouldn't be there alone. This contradicts what you said here: Actually I was quite interested in his place, but not so much into him. So I said ok I can go to visit. Plus you had the other guy there so you could have toured the city with him. I don't think this guy is very keen on you anymore so therefore didn't feel like making the effort. Basically he was feeling about you what you were feeling about him. You should have went out with the other guy again since you didn't have much interest in the first guy. Here's a thought, don't travel to see a man you have no interest in when you want to see a new city. Go with your girlfriends to explore the city. You'll have more fun. 1
Author SunShineAngels Posted April 2, 2019 Author Posted April 2, 2019 Thank you everybody! Yes there wasn't spark between us! I was just not happy he told me he will ping me when finish work but he didn't. If he could told me earlier it was totally fine. Well The day A date went well yes. And I still think probably he liked me. And I might like him somehow. (I still don't think I used him because there are other guys wanted to hang out explore the country, or show me around, and they are happy to do that. I think I can provide some value to them. But if this guy is serious, then I must be the one hurting his feeling. ) I have issue about this guy, which is my age, this age difference makes me feel distant' too. I'm 8 years older than him I just couldn't say that, he is 23 and I'm 31. He asked my age and he said even I'm 50 he wouldn't care. I said I'm not 50! On the date I mgiht gave him lots of pressures. He asked alot questions. Like my career, what do my parents do, if I live alone, what is my room like. And he mentioned again to come to my country to see me, when I said it would be really great he said but not sure when.. When I asked what his parentds do he said just nothing special normal people. At dinner he thought my dish didn't look good, he said your dish may not look good but probably it taste good... He looked shy. When I mentioned about a movie I like he found it from youtube and show me his favorite Sceen. He also apologized his stories may not be fun. I liked his stories though. He might be very nervous or insecure. But also very sweet. I dun know. I asked if he lives with his parents after finishing this job he said yes, and immedeately said but he plans to move out. I also asked him what will he do after he finished this short term job he said he will be back to previous job. I said you don't think to try something else? He said no he will back to army. Then he said' you are a business woman. Last time when we met you were in travel.' I said yes. We have nothing in common. When we walked back he asked me if I'm cold. I said yes I am then he said come on and hugged and kissed me. He said' you are so beautiful'. as he said two years ago. I didn't invite him into my room but I thought if we'd meet again probably we would have more sparks and I could tell him my age. But didn't happen. Now he is apologizing saying he did maximum he could. His work is horrible. I don't know if it's true or he is lying. When I saw him apologize I felt kinda pain, so I may not not like him at all but just we have nothing in common and no future. So I wanted a short term three days dating it didn't happen.
Author SunShineAngels Posted April 2, 2019 Author Posted April 2, 2019 stillafool Thank you and you are right I will go with my girlfriends next time:) And the new guy I met was very sweet. We hanged out all the time and hugged saying good bye. We said it was so nice to meet there and made a really good trip. Since he is from my company( we have around 60000 ppl around the world it's amazing we met abroad) he found me internally and said hi today. Though I feel just friend with him( and so does he) it was amazing. I think I was too expecting to the first guy.
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