DaddyDom Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 I get that women enjoy games and s*it tests during initial stages of dating especially. But I just refuse to play them. I only give women interest that have common courtesy and that respect my time. A great one happened recently. Few good messages and an awesome phone call Thursday. I ask her out for Friday. She stresses she is excited but a work project may keep her at work later than usual. So she'll let me know during the day tmrw (Fri) what time she will be off. As of 5pm still nothing. So when my buddy reaches out to hang I accept. I shoot her a text saying I accepted an invite from a buddy to hang out because we never firmed up plans. But we can raincheck some other time. An hour later she texts "That is completely fair! I just finished my workout anyways" with a sexy gym selfie attached. Now obviously this was a s*it test to see how I'd react to being flaked on and to get validation over how good she looked. But I didn't even respond. The second she demonstrated no respect for my time, it was "Next" in my mind.
FMW Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Maybe you're meeting the wrong kind of women. I don't play games, I don't s*it test. I also don't send selfies. So please don't put all of us in her category 1
thepeopleschampion Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Good job man.. next is a good way of thinking.. how old is this young lady ?
Normm Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Maybe she's not playing a game. Maybe you're seeing something that isn't there. Maybe she's busy at work and under a lot of stress and simply lost track of time and/or a guy she hasn't even met yet simply isn't high enough on her scale of priorities. You look for the negative, you're going to find it. 1
basil67 Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Why do you think this was a test rather than just poor behaviour on her part? 1
elaine567 Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Seems to me some guys find sh*t tests everywhere... How is this a sh*t test? She told you she was working late, so what really was the problem? Sounds like she dodged a bullet. Women who have to work late don't really want some guy champing at the bit and getting all annoyed when all she is doing is working... 2
chillii Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Geez dunno man. Maybe she wasn't,maybe the work thing was legit, and she sent you a nice piccie and said it was fair enough and all. Maybe she rushed off to the gym straight after and was still getting back to you. Personally l would've still stayed open to another time. But eh , l'm not up with all that crap , l could be wrong. When l was single there was no bs and the type l go for wouldn't be into any either. l'd have stayed open to that one though personally. 1
basil67 Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Seems to me some guys find sh*t tests everywhere... How is this a sh*t test? She told you she was working late, so what really was the problem? Sounds like she dodged a bullet. Women who have to work late don't really want some guy champing at the bit and getting all annoyed when all she is doing is working... But she had actually finished work and gone to the gym, all without touching base to confirm the date. It's not a test, but surely rude behaviour on her part. 1
Gretchen12 Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 If you were upset that you hadn't heard from her at 5pm, why did you text her saying you can raincheck another time, as if it didn't bother you? And if you were really fine trying to see her another time, why are you now not responding to her text? If this was a test (I don't think it was), then you failed at honesty. Don't pretend you're cool with rude behavior when you're not. Don't pretend to be ok when you're upset. If a guy told me he'll let me know day of, I'd say lets try another day or in special circumstances I'd tell him to let me know by a certain time, say by noon. And if he goes missing I'd call him out on it. You allowed her to put you on standby, you waited, then you texted to let her know you didn't mind, then you go quiet. That's not what women find attractive. 1
smackie9 Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 If you didn't hear from her during the day, you should have just written her off, and carry on with your life. There was no need to take a stab at her with a text, s*it test or not. IMO if you get anything but a yes, ditch them. Any woman that is truly interested would be in contact with you and making sure the plans are set. I know, even with working late, I would have set a time because not too many work past 7pm on a Friday night. My boss would kick me out of the office by then. So with her at the gym, it was all bull s^&ty anyways. She's just being a bag. You dodged a bullet.
emeraldgreen Posted March 30, 2019 Posted March 30, 2019 Play the game, but set the rules and be the prize.
Normm Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 If you were upset that you hadn't heard from her at 5pm, why did you text her saying you can raincheck another time, as if it didn't bother you? And if you were really fine trying to see her another time, why are you now not responding to her text? I wouldn't have handled it the way he did, however I get why he got annoyed AFTER his text about the raincheck because at the time he sent the text he wasn't aware she had already left work and went to the gym.
Curiousroxy86 Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 Hm me personally if a guy says he is going to let me know about plans and never does..... I won't punish him by ignoring his contact. I would make plans with another suitor if it arises. But I will respond if he contacts. If I'm talking to multiple people anyway before exclusivity then it wouldn't bother me if he fail to make plans. I'm going to make plans with or without him. Now I will ignore a guy who said they will call but don't. At the end of the day focusing on suitors who don't flake will naturally take focus off of the ones who do. No need to purposely ignore them. Not ignoring them give them chance to correct. And if they don't correct well they will take themselves out or you will end up naturally ignoring them because your talking to other people who show more interest and is escalating whatever y'all got going on. But that's just me.
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