OatsAndHall Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 Weird how that seems to be a lot of people's experience. It's only happened to me maybe a couple of times, and I've matched and messaged with a lot of women from dating apps/sites. If I'm into the convo and it seems like it's flowing, I usually ask to exchange numbers and ask them out without fail. This can happen after a few to a dozen or so messages and on the same day (sometimes the next). It's about a 50/50 deal for me and it's generally a tell-tale sign as to whether they've done a lot of dating via OLD. They'll generally want to "chat some more" over text before committing to a date if they haven't used OLD much. I know a lot of guys who will gladly text back and forth with them in the hopes of getting a date but I don't. When I first started using OLD, I had a woman tell me I was being "pushy" after I asked for meet during the first conversation. All I did was ask for a date, they stated they wanted to talk via text some more, I let them know that messaging was hard for me as my sense of humor doesn't translate well to text, that I'd like to meet up and suddenly, I'm being "pushy". I thought I had committed some OLD sin by asking them out on a date before they "could get to know me" so I spent too much time after that "chatting" via text without setting up a date. It just became frustrating and a waste of time so I learned the hard way to nail down a date quickly.
LivingWaterPlease Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 I prefer organic conversation style of getting to know each other online too dom. one of my biggest pet peeves with men online (and actually I have dealt with this from a guy offline too) is 21 questions interview/interrogating style. "whats your favorite color" "whats your favorite food" "what are you looking for in a relationship". thats not conversation. I try to answer in a way that encourages conversation though. many people are in their heads and dont know how to date by just being normal lol. but I have my own ways of being socially akward myself so I try to be forgiving lol. This! Don't we all? Some more than others...
Andy_K Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 The 'Interview' is perfectly justifiable for women. OLD isn't real life. They're going to have more matches and messages online than they can possibly engage with, therefore it's necessary to filter some out as efficiently as possible. If she's looking for kids or marriage, why waste her time chatting or meeting to check the chemistry, if you're not looking for the same future in the first place? Much easier to ask 'do you want kids', and ignore all the guys who are scared off or turned off by the question. It's a filter mechanism to reduce the time wasted meeting the wrong people for dates. 1
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