Anello Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 (edited) A childish situation here. This is written by a girl A to a boy B...about her opinion on his friend boy C. Both like the girl. Boy C has allegedly "professed" to her. But her attitude previously was unfriendly due to some misunderstanding. This was what she recently wrote. Could someone make out of this, if she is interested in Boy C? lol letter: Hey...there is something I would like to ask. Has your friend...been writing to me the last few days? I cannot be sure because it's a bit of a sudden for me. And I felt that my reaction wasn't exactly the nicest. I have been thinking about it these days and I felt really bad, in a way. I wasn't receptive to what he had to say. Perhaps I have misunderstood him earlier, so I'm really sorry. Anyway. I noticed him 2 years ago when he first came over for exchange. I never met him before but I liked the way he talked. I felt this guy was different and very interesting. I think I would like someone like that, even as a friend. And after he came over, I did notice him around but we were pretty much worlds apart so I didn't think too much about it. Besides I didn't like to be seen out of my place too often. He's got character. A very unique one for someone coming from that society. That makes him very special and gives his personality a lot of charm too. I really can't be sure if he said those stuffs the last few days. But anyway, here's how I really see him. If you want, you may forward it to him, but please don't send to everyone lol Thanks to you too. Edited March 26, 2019 by Anello
PinkPampies Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 This is really hard to follow - could you explain what’s going on in layman’s terms?
Author Anello Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 Yes she is interested in Boy C. No wonder Boy B was fuming mad lol
Author Anello Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 This is really hard to follow - could you explain what’s going on in layman’s terms? Girl A and Boy B are supposedly dating. Boy B has a friend Boy C who professed to her. She rejected him multiple times because she thought he was a two timing jerk. Now she realized he wasn't. She felt bad for the harsh rejection so she ask her date Boy B (or boyfriend?) to pass this note to him on her behalf, to say that she doesn't have such negative opinion on him afterall. Not sure if she likes him. Basing on what she wrote, it seems that she does. Or at least thinks very well of him. Boy B was mad. End of story lol Question is, what is your take on the girl?
bmh Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 So she believed C was a two timing jerk? Was it possibly because he was professing his love to his friends girlfriend? And yes, the boyfriend has a right to be mad in this situation. 1
preraph Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Yes, the key is in why she thought he was a two-timing jerk. If he's trying to steal Boy B's girl, then he's not really a nice ethical person. Now, I can't imagine what prompted girl to ask her bf to pass notes to Boy C. What brought that on? Boy B surely isn't trying to sell his gf to Boy C. Does Girl know that Boy B is supposedly her bf or just thinks he's a friend? I think there's a big missing chunk to this story. 1
kendahke Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Girl A and Boy B are supposedly dating. Boy B has a friend Boy C who professed to her. She rejected him multiple times because she thought he was a two timing jerk. Now she realized he wasn't. She felt bad for the harsh rejection so she ask her date Boy B (or boyfriend?) to pass this note to him on her behalf, to say that she doesn't have such negative opinion on him afterall. That was messed up. IF she liked C and knew he was B's boy, then she should have asked a female friend to pass on that note. She was basically telling B he's just a placeholder for when C decides to open a can of "act right". I'd be pissed with her, too---I mean, what's the point in B dating her further when he's not who she wants to be with? Not sure if she likes him. Basing on what she wrote, it seems that she does. Or at least thinks very well of him. Boy B was mad. End of story lol Question is, what is your take on the girl? What do you mean you're not sure if she likes him? Who would take that kind of risk with their current boy/girlfriend to tell them "oh, you'll do in a rush, but I really wanna holla at your friend..." for someone they didn't like? My question is: who are you in all of this? C?
Author Anello Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 (edited) Not an orbiter. No sexual relationship has been involved with either up till now. She has claimed to like Boy B and claimed that she will accept B. She thought Boy C had a gf, but he has actually already broken up. That was when she felt bad and I guess she is now touched by his thoughts and words when she thought back about everything. We are just not sure if she likes him. I think C felt that B (his friend) hasn't been in an official relationship with the girl yet so he is just trying? Perhaps the girl is at fault after all. I think she is confused, maybe not towards C, but more so that she isn't prepared to accept B so her feelings waver towards an external affection. The affection could be from anyone. She sometimes say that B drains her mentally. I'm related to girl A. I think she doesn't understand the implication of that note she wrote. Edited March 26, 2019 by Anello
JuneL Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 So did you pass the note onto C? Are you still pursuing A, knowing she likes C more? If she asked you to pass her message, perhaps it’s her way of telling you. 1
kendahke Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She has claimed to like Boy B and claimed that she will accept B. Claim is right--because how she's acting is the opposite of what she "claims". Her being naive or whatever is no excuse for treating B the way she did. She's too busy sniffing in behind C. She thought Boy C had a gf, but he has actually already broken up. That was when she felt bad and I guess she is now touched by his thoughts and words when she thought back about everything. We are just not sure if she likes him. What do you have to be afraid of in asking her point blank? You said below: I'm related to girl A. So, cuz, bro, sis, auntie, grampy, whoever you are: what's up with not asking her a direct question instead of asking us to divine what she means by this messiness? I think C felt that B (his friend) hasn't been in an official relationship with the girl yet so he is just trying? This is non sequitur. The fact is your relative is in a relationship with B and what she said to him/did was messed up. Perhaps the girl is at fault after all. Ya think? Of course she's at fault. She should have kept her mouth shut to B. I think she is confused, maybe not towards C, but more so that she isn't prepared to accept B so her feelings waver towards an external affection. Whenever someone is confused, it's always behind them wanting to give intimate space to someone other than the person they're supposed to be with and supposedly care about, but they're too lame to just break up and then go pursue the other--so they keep ahold of the one they're marking time with so they don't have to be alone. IOW: selfish a.f. I think she doesn't understand the implication of that note she wrote. Or she doesn't want to... she wants a pass.
basil67 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 (edited) Not an orbiter. I think she is confused....that she isn't prepared to accept B so her feelings waver towards an external affection. The affection could be from anyone. She sometimes say that B drains her mentally. The second paragraph says that she's not into boy B. If he's not an orbiter, he's not much higher than one. Edited March 26, 2019 by basil67 formatting 1
Author Anello Posted March 27, 2019 Author Posted March 27, 2019 (edited) Of course I have asked her. Her replies are ambiguous. I don't think she likes Boy C. She seems to intend to call it quits with Boy B too. Now she is feeling very guilty towards Boy B. I think her reaction towards Boy C may be coming from her wanting to end with B. Boy C didn't matter, it could be D E F or any other guys. I think it's fair to B that way too. Edited March 27, 2019 by Anello
Inspire Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 This is a love letter? This sounds more like a breakoff letter to boy-b.
Author Anello Posted March 27, 2019 Author Posted March 27, 2019 (edited) Okay her situation is cleared. The reason why she asked me was because she never felt that there was anything romantic or mushy about the content. She didn't understand why boy B was so mad and why the others who have read it were accusing her. I've clarified with her anyway. No, she doesn't like Boy C nor does she really like Boy B. Not in that way at least. She has made it clear to them both. Thanks all guys. Edited March 27, 2019 by Anello
ExpatInItaly Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 Are you all very young? I can't fathom why she felt it was appropriate to write this sort of letter to begin with. 2
d0nnivain Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 Whether she is dating B or thinking about it, since B & C are friends A was dead wrong to ask B to forward her note to C. B ought to dump A for being mean to him. A has no understanding of what she did or why it was wrong, then she has no empathy or sense. She's pitting two boys against each other & lapping up the drama she's causing as a way of validating her own ego. It's all about the attention she is enjoying with no regard for whose feelings get hurt in the process. A is not a very nice person & you can tell her I said so. I'm glad you were able to help her see the error of her ways. 2
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