ironpony Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 (edited) Not sure if this is the right forum for this, but the last few of months me and my gf have been hanging out, she keeps falling asleep. We hang out on days where we have the next day off normally, so we can spend more time together with our schedules. The last two times we wanted to hang out, we were going to do dinner and a movie, but both times after dinner, she couldn't stay away at all for the movie and she was just ready to crash. Before this we would hang out with my friends, or her friends, but she will fall asleep at the get togethers, and we would have to cut the evening short and I would have to take her home. It seems that she is sleeping 12 hours a day, cause after dinner she is just ready to crash, even when I talk to her on the phone or text her on work nights, etc. So it seems we can still hang out, it's just I am on a 2 hour window, so it's just hard to plan anything to do with her, that would take more than two hours, and I feel we are on a ticking clock, which takes the fun out of the evenings. Plus, this doesn't seem to be normal tired, after a couple of hours of hanging and she starts to fall asleep, her eyes go blood shot read right away, which has me concerned. She said it's because of jet lag and she is still trying to adjust when she came back from Hawaii, which is a 15 hour flight where we are from. But that was weeks ago, and she is sleep for 12 hours a day. I've never been on a flight longer than 4 hours so far, so is that normal for some people? But it's starting to frustrate me cause I hardly see her anymore in this relationship and everytime I try to call or text her to make a plan, she sleeps right through it, and I won't catch her till the next day possible. But I have to catch her right after she comes home before work, cause she is going to fall asleep right after she eats dinner most likely. My friends and family even say it's strange how I have a gf but I never see her, and I'm thinking in my head 'tell that to her, she is the one who is choosing to sleep through a lot of this relationship. I almost feel like telling her that I don't know if I can date a woman who sleeps through a lot of the relationship and who can't stay awake while she is with me. But she kept telling me before, when I brought up this concern, that it's not me, and she really likes and is trying really hard to stay awake. I believe her. She made an appointment to see a specialist but she still hasn't had the appointment and it's taken so long now. Not sure when it is. What do you think? Edited March 26, 2019 by ironpony
amaysngrace Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 It doesn’t sound normal to me. Has she been to a doctor for it? Maybe something’s going on with her health. I’d be concerned too.
Author ironpony Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 She went to a doctor, who referred her to another doctor for some tests, and then he now referred her to another for some other test after. Not sure what is going on there. One thing I noticed is that I never see her drink water ever. She may drink different drinks like if we go out to socialize and have alcoholic drinks like with dinner, but she never drinks water ever, that I recall. I told her that maybe that's the problem and she will try to remember to drink more water, but she keeps forgetting and I still haven't seen her drink any. And usually my mind is on other things when I am with her, so I never think to remind her when with her, cause it's hard to remember to remind someone to drink water since it's such a naturally occurrence for me to and I always do it without thinking. But come to think of it, when she eats meals at home I don't think I've ever seen her drink any. Could that be it?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 I doubt this level of fatigue would all be down to a lack of hydration. She should drink more water for general health, but if her doctor is ordering tests, he/she is obviously concerned that something more is underlying this. Has she ever displayed any symptoms of depression, by chance? Some depressed folks suffer extreme fatigue and find even the smallest tasks draining.
amaysngrace Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 I’ve never heard of that but I guess it’s possible. Why doesn’t she drink water? It’s really important that she does since our body is mostly water. Would she drink Hint water? Their blackberry is really good or how about some water at home with fresh lemon juice?
healing light Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Did you date her before she started falling asleep? Or is this a new relationship and she's always been this way?
emeraldgreen Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Has she done a sleep study for Sleep Apnea? Before I was diagnosed, no amount of sleep was ever enough because the quality of sleep was horrible for years. 1
PinkPampies Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Have you looked into depression? Or drug use? Sorry, but those are valid reasons why people sleep a lot as well
Harcel Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 It’s good that she’s seeing a DR but honestly this happens to me after long flights I get jet lag so bad it takes me up to a month recover. However, I am also being treated for depression so I don’t know if that is a contributing factor but in general I don’t sleep for that long unless I have been without sleep for a while either due to travelling or partying a lot.
JuneL Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Has she done a sleep study for Sleep Apnea? Before I was diagnosed, no amount of sleep was ever enough because the quality of sleep was horrible for years. This. Is she overweight by any chance? Does she snore?
elaine567 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She went to a doctor, who referred her to another doctor for some tests, and then he now referred her to another for some other test after. Not sure what is going on there. As it sounds like there is a problem then you need to just ask her.
Wallysbears Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Does she get a solid sleep? Restful? Maybe her thyroid needs to be checked.
JuneL Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Does she drive? If yes, she should be extra careful!
smackie9 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Low iron.....women suffer from this because of our periods,.... and maybe the lack of red meat. Is she vegan? or just eat chicken and fish? Maybe she should try some supplements. Is she on some crazy diet?
preraph Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 I didn't drink water at all when I was young and really until the last couple of decades, and I had plenty of energy. But I am a long sleeper. I do stay in bed 12 hours and not all of it is sleeping but takes me a long time to wind down and I sleep fitfully so that's why I need more hours, nose problems, have to go to the bathroom frequently, and that's been my whole life. Now I also have pain that is normally what wakes me up. She's been to the doctor. Just be sure she follows up. Has she had the blood tests yet? That should rule out iron or anything basic. It could also be low blood sugar, so hopefully they do an A1C on her. That will make you feel like you must lay down and can be dangerous. Just be sure you know she's done blood tests and let the doctors figure it out. Yes, jet lag will do that, but for no longer than a day or so.
Author ironpony Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 Okay thanks. Yes she does snore and is overweight. If it's sleep apnea, like it was suggested, she is getting tested for that next. This started when she came back from her three week trip to Hawaii. She says she thought it was jet leg, since that is when it started but is jet lag sometimes this bad, and last this long? 1
Els Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She might have caught something from the trip. Just be patient and wait til the tests come back. Is there a reason why you two can't go out during the day on weekends?
preraph Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Apnea can make you tired because you are oxygen deprived and she isn't sleeping well. Depends on how intermittent her apnea is, really. I have apnea sometimes. A humidifier would help mine when it gets bad. Or just running the shower. Bad apnea will wear you out.
Author ironpony Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 She might have caught something from the trip. Just be patient and wait til the tests come back. Is there a reason why you two can't go out during the day on weekends? I work a lot on weekend days compared to her work schedule, but sometimes we can, depending on which weekend days I have off.
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