fred123 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 im curious how people here would deal with this situation. so you meet a girl online who lives in another country and both been watsapping a lot most days. you want to go see her in person or she wants to see you but obviously cant happen anytime soon. so you try to make skype date/ video chats or phone calls to get to know the person . but every time you suggest or plan to it neevr happens. she is always too ill or busy amd apologises but always says she wants to. but uet sje has time to go out with her friends a lot . how would one handle this?
Author fred123 Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 no she is real and friends with my friends. thats how i know her
Author fred123 Posted March 26, 2019 Author Posted March 26, 2019 Time to move on. how do you move on? what does one say?
basil67 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Have the two of you discussed anything remotely romantic? If not, assume she's just a casual friend and don't bother messaging her much.
frus69 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 how do you move on? what does one say? Say what? You just move on? As in stop messaging her?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 Don't waste more time trying to get to know her. She's not interested.
elaine567 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She is happy Whatsapping but she doesn't want to take it any further. She is keeping you at arm's length. She doesn't want to get to know you better. It is easy to say "We'll meet up" when that is unlikely or it may occur a long time in the future, but most people don't really mean it, it is just something to say. I guess if you showed up on this girl's doorstep tomorrow, she would be appalled. Relationships need to progress. She is putting the brakes on by being "too busy" to call you. Take the hint. Do not waste any more of your time. An interested girl would be happy to Skype and call you. Busy or not she would make time.
Versacehottie Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She is not too busy. She doesn't want to Skype or talk on the phone.
smackie9 Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 When they are dodgy they don't have any real interest.
DaddyDom Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She lives in another country. Why bother? Focus on women locally. 1
preraph Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 She's just playing on the internet. She doesn't want to meet you. Stop talking to her. What's the point? She may not even be a "she." She may be just an idle person on the internet, or she may be a 300 pound truck driver. 1
Art_Critic Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 To me it sounds like she is just into the platonic whatsup app contact and has no interest in going any further.. About 20+ years ago I answered an ad for an email penpal..the ad was someone who was just looking for an email pal for a few months and that is what we were, we emailed thruout the day an I had no idea who she really was or where she was located and after 3-4 months we said goodbye..she was killing time to not be so lonely.. IMO, That's what the OP's friend is doing and is akin to having an email penpal.. So.. she isn't interested in dating.. 2
hercules22 Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 i wouldn't take someone from another country seriously anyway plus it to hard to date wouldn't you want to be with someone you don't have to travel far for plenty of fish in the sea
Author fred123 Posted March 28, 2019 Author Posted March 28, 2019 Have the two of you discussed anything remotely romantic? If not, assume she's just a casual friend and don't bother messaging her much. yes it has been implied. i prefer foregin girls for some reason! i have plans to fly out there to see her.
basil67 Posted March 28, 2019 Posted March 28, 2019 yes it has been implied. I'd want more than an implication of a romantic relationship to have expectations of her being attentive.
elaine567 Posted March 28, 2019 Posted March 28, 2019 i have plans to fly out there to see her. Why????? The girl doesn't even want to skype or call you, Take the hint... 1
Thingsfallapart Posted March 29, 2019 Posted March 29, 2019 Skype date!?!? What is the world coming to?
ExpatInItaly Posted March 29, 2019 Posted March 29, 2019 yes it has been implied. i have plans to fly out there to see her. Come again? Why? She is barely showing interest in you, OP. You need to learn to take a hint.
Author fred123 Posted April 24, 2019 Author Posted April 24, 2019 so howd u respond if this was the convo. me " if you like someone you want to see them. if you cant do that then you skype." her " i agree but when im busy and i am only home to sleep i cant. but be sure i want it. i really like you" how would people deal with this. move on or she genuinwly interested?
Author fred123 Posted April 24, 2019 Author Posted April 24, 2019 I would move on to the next girl how would you do that withut pissing them off?
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