daverave2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 im 23 me and my g/f whos 20 have sex about twice a week, she told me that i have too high of a sex drive and that i need to slow it down. i was shocked normally we would get 5 times a week. also the only way shes in the mood for sex is if i start it off. so i always have to make the first move. and when were out wiv my mates, as you do you get abit drunk ectt.... as soon as she saids we should go home i drop my mates during the night to go and have sex, i think im being to easy! your advice would be much apprecated dave
li'l bunny Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 I started a thread saying the same kinda thing except I'm a girl and I'm married and I can't get enough. It sounds like your g/f either has lost interest..? or maybe her sex drive is not as high as yours. I do know women take longer to arouse. Would she watch porn etc with you? You could try giving her massages etc and not mentioning sex at all...just lead her into it?
Author daverave2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 i don't think porn would work, As she thinks it's discusting. lol... back massage tried it just makes her relaxed. and after doing massage for 10 mins it can get very boring....
li'l bunny Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 I don't just mean back massage. I mean nude massage...you get the oil, lay a towel on the bed or floor and she lays down and if she feels uncomfortable being completely naked you can have another towel to put over her while you massage different parts. And you don't just use your hands, you can use any kind of soft material, your mouth etc. Awaken her senses. Does she get aroused if she sees you hard? I know that really gets me going. Say something like 'I can't get up I'm suddenly really hard' and let her see the bulge in your trousers. DON'T take it out to show her unless she asks. I think you have to pretend not to be interested...show her that you're horny, let her know in a subtle way but don't ask her straight out, or make her feel under pressure. I'm just giving my suggestion. When a guy really tried too hard for sex with me it just turned me off. With my H I try very subtle things like walking in casually in a really short skirt with no knickers and bending over. Things like that...
Author daverave2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 thats a really good idea, when she sees that im horny shes like ohh! then she has to tease. but ill try, i could try that also add fruit! but she has a low asteem so the hardest bit will be getting her clothes off. she will ask y? but ill give a shot! what else LIL bunny what would turn a women?
li'l bunny Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 More than anything women love being made feel attractive...In my opinion the more attractive a girl feels (or you make her feel) the more she will want to have sex with you. Compliment her, listen to her, stroke her. Say things like 'oh wow'. Obviously if you overdo any of this it can sound cheesy! I have quite a low self-esteem so I understand but you could try turning the lights off, lighting a few candles or having a lamp on while you're massaging... There are a lot of things women like when they have been turned on but it is VERY important that you turn your woman on before you start going for the goal. If you were playing football you wouldn't just kick the ball from one end of the pitch into the goal, you'd work your way up, past defenders etc, until you were sure you had a clear shot... Kind of the same. You need to do the ground work first. And please don't forget to find out if she can have orgasms through sex alone because I can't and it took me ages to explain to H that for me to come at the same time as him he needs to do some stimulating!!
Author daverave2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 trust me, i can make her orgasm with my hand, we have quite abit of foreplay before hand, but i will try the candle ect... that sounds pretty good. thank you i let you know how it goes.
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