Alwayscats Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 Hey there So I’ve known this guy for almost 2 years I met him on plenty of fish and recently he told me how we feels about me over a video chat and he asked me to be his girlfriend so I said yeah but I asked him today if he would like me to pick him up tonight so he can come back to mine and he just said he had to go to the doctors today but I couldn’t pick him up till 9pm anyway... I don’t understand as we haven’t met yet and it would be nice to meet him. I’m so alone and I just feel like he’s just not going to meet me. I really want to see him today and I get that I can’t make him but I don’t understand.... Thing is we have plans for Friday and I get that I can wait till then but I have a bad feeling he will cancel on me as he said he was going to the doctors on Friday as well and originally said no to Friday... I’m really confused...
GTR King Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 So why taken so long to meet up? Surly if he was interested would of meet him by now
Author Alwayscats Posted March 25, 2019 Author Posted March 25, 2019 Would of thought so. He said he was getting the money together but I don’t mind picking him up... so you think he’s not interested ??
smackie9 Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 It's possible, he could already be in a relationship/married, and has to come up with an excuse to get out of the house, but atm he can't, hence the "I have a doctor's appointment" excuse. IMO if it sounds shady, that's because it is. Don't let your loneliness make you so desperate you are willing to take anyone no matter what.
Author Alwayscats Posted March 25, 2019 Author Posted March 25, 2019 It's possible, he could already be in a relationship/married, and has to come up with an excuse to get out of the house, but atm he can't, hence the "I have a doctor's appointment" excuse. IMO if it sounds shady, that's because it is. Don't let your loneliness make you so desperate you are willing to take anyone no matter what. Hey there. Thank you for your reply. I don’t know it all seems a bit shady like you said and I would think he had another relationship as well apart from the fast he changed his relationships status on Facebook to in a relationship with me so I really don’t get this...
kendahke Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 (edited) Insist upon meeting him by the end of this week. Any answer except "Yes, let's meet at______" is a "no" and you should stop dealing with him. He's either married/involved with a girlfriend or is a catfish who has no intention upon meeting you in person. He said he was getting the money together but I don’t mind picking him up... so you think he’s not interested It doesn't cost that much to take the bus/tram, so what exactly is he saving up for? Is he even local and how would you know if he was? No... he's being deceitful Edited March 25, 2019 by kendahke
preraph Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 You need to rescind your "girlfriend" offer because this guy is unable to function for whatever reason, marriage, girlfriend, disability, really poor health, whatever. Why are you going along with this. Two years and no meetup? Have you at least video chatted? What was that like?
Author Alwayscats Posted March 27, 2019 Author Posted March 27, 2019 You need to rescind your "girlfriend" offer because this guy is unable to function for whatever reason, marriage, girlfriend, disability, really poor health, whatever. Why are you going along with this. Two years and no meetup? Have you at least video chatted? What was that like? Yes we have video chatted loads and talked on the phone lots. Every time I suggest a meet he says he hasn’t got the money to come to me and it’s not fair for me to drive 1 hour and 30 mins to him so it’s like 3 hours there and back which I don’t mind really. I’m thinking of just leaving the relationship because it’s a bit pointless really isn’t it....
preraph Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 Yes, I see his inability to get over to see you as a sign of a much bigger problem. Like that, as he says, he is poor and maybe not the best organized and he certainly isn't much of a problem solver. But you also must remember, it's possible he is married or something, too, and sneaking around doing this. I don't see the point. He seems not that motivated, to be honest. You deserve someone not too broke to come see you an hour and a half a way. I'm getting ready to drive an hour and a half after lunch, unless I am too loggy!
smackie9 Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 (edited) Hey there. Thank you for your reply. I don’t know it all seems a bit shady like you said and I would think he had another relationship as well apart from the fast he changed his relationships status on Facebook to in a relationship with me so I really don’t get this... You can't base anything what you see on a FB page. People can have more than one FB page. And there are people who don't post personal stuff on there. For years I didn't posted my relationship status. You never know this other person is married he is seeing, or he is multi dating. You can't really know a person over the net. It's also possible he just has horrible anxiety. Edited March 27, 2019 by smackie9
kendahke Posted March 27, 2019 Posted March 27, 2019 Every time I suggest a meet he says he hasn’t got the money to come to me Why not? You're about 90-100 miles from each other, which is probably a $50 bus ticket. How old is this guy? What does he do for a living? Does he even work? I’m thinking of just leaving the relationship because it’s a bit pointless really isn’t it.... This isn't a relationship. Those are conducted in person. It's an electronic pen pal arrangement you've conducted for 2 years.
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