ericw899 Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I met this girl on Snapchat about a month ago. We talked, got to know each other, the usual. I got her number, we texted then the conversation quickly died off. Fast forward to last weekend, I saw her post a cute pic on Snapchat & I decided to let her know. We caught up a bit & she seemed to well receive me contacting her. I then asked her for a date, to which she agreed, she just didn’t know what night would work. I asked about Saturday & she said she would check her schedule So I messaged her Wednesday night to check in, & she said she still didn’t know what her plans were yet & then on Friday night I asked her out for Saturday night & she said it was her friends birthday & she forgot she agreed to go out. I understood but as we kept messaging she was given one word answers, so I called her out & said if you aren’t interested it’s ok, you don’t have to try & spare my feelings. This made her pissed & she was like “what makes you say that. When have I given you a reason to think that”. I pretty much just said that with online it’s hard to see where someone’s head is at. I asked if she would like to try another night & she said yes but once again not sure what night yet. After that the conversation died off. Then yesterday I got my haircut & I wanted to show it off to some people on Snapchat & she was one of them who got it. She responded by sending a very pretty picture of herself & told her how pretty she looked. She sent back a smiley face & asked for another selfie of my self. I sent one & got back another smiley face & I jokingly said now I deserve another selfie of her. She said she was working so I said send me one before you go out for your friends birthday. She never did & even ignored a snap I sent of a band I was seeing last night so I’m kind of confused with this girl. Is she interested? Is she not? Should I try and make a date this week?
Lotsgoingon Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I then asked her for a date, to which she agreed, she just didn’t know what night would work. I asked about Saturday & she said she would check her schedule So I messaged her Wednesday night to check in, & she said she still didn’t know what her plans were yet & then on Friday night I asked her out for Saturday night & she said it was her friends birthday & she forgot she agreed to go out. Dude, there are so many "no" answers in this passages above. An interested woman doesn't "check" her schedule (unless she's running a hedge fun or is a high-powered professional) ... she will prioritize you on the schedule. And if she can't go, she'll be really specific why. Friday I got a conference I really can't miss and Saturday is my mother's birthday and we're planning a party. How about X day?" She is clearly not interested and just doesn't have the confidence to say, "I'm sorry. I'm not interested."
TheFinalWord Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 Girls online like attention. Men often mistake this for actual interest. But your just something to pass the time. Sorry. I would just ignore her like she does to you.
kendahke Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 No. SHe's not interested. She likes your attention but doesn't want to see you in person or do anything with you. Proceed with her knowing that. Understand that SC and IG are platforms for getting attention, not finding a boyfriend for these chicks. Keep your feelings in check just because someone sends you a smiley face and a cute selfie--doesn't mean she wants your company: just your likes for her profile page.
smackie9 Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 She's giving you the runaround. You need to play it kool. Don't call them out, just back off and let them chase you. You make yourself look like a total needy jerk when you call them out. When you do, do that, you set yourself up for more jerkin around by them because they know they have you. You only need to ask no more than twice for a date. If you get anything but a yes, it's a no. You move on.
emeraldgreen Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 Another one with the "this happened on Snapchat" stuff. I guess it's a young person's world, but I can't imagine adding that to the long list of motivations to figure out in dating. Judge the real actions in the real world. No date = no interest. Opening a message and sending one back doesn't count as real interest so don't let that stuff throw you unnecessary hope. If she's not meeting you, she's using you for something else, like that little dopamine hit that all of her other orbiters are giving her as well.
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