Author Hurtingguy Posted March 24, 2019 Author Posted March 24, 2019 Maybe start by asking yourself this - what is your definition of love? Is it different than being in love? Love means different things to different people, but it's a loaded word nonetheless. Reflect on what exactly it means to you before you bring it up to her. My definition of love is feeling happy w the person I’m with, and knowing that I I would do anything to help them in there life, always be there for them. And always make them feel special, knowing that I feel safe w the person I’m with can talk about anything with them, being able to see a life with her and living for each other apart from ourselves.
Author Hurtingguy Posted March 24, 2019 Author Posted March 24, 2019 Some of us just feel stronger emotions sooner and quicker than others. That's fine ... but you don't have to follow those emotions. That's the gift of being a human--we can think about our feelings ... We can go to a horror movie, have our heart jump in terror and still know in the back of our minds that this is a movie that I just paid money for ... and I want a snack and I know these people aren't real. We can go on roller coasters and scream out of terror and know at the same time that we are safe. So ... for you ... you can feel this strong feeling but use your analytical mind to remind yourself that it's far too early to predict that things are "just right" with this woman. Just don't overly feed these feelings you have right now. ... quit playing all those love tunes ... Don't feed the "love" feeling anymore ... If it's really requited love ... you'll feel it fully and safely in not too long. Again, stick with liking her and relax ... Your job is to enjoy time with her and see if she's really your type. Start going to activities you really like ... that YOU like ... make sure you're not just doing stuff she likes. Practice sharing yourself with her ... going to activities you like is one way to share yourself ... and then she'll share herself ... and you both can see if practically this thing can really work. That was well said, that’s why I like coming to this site to get knowledge from people and know that I have somewhere to go to when needed. I’m trying not to feed my emotions right now it’s just hard cause everyday I feel more and more for her. I literally have to stop myself everyday for the last few days and nights not to just blurt out I love you to her and it’s so hard. I feel like I’m fighting my heart with my mind and well as we all know the heart seems to win a lot more lol. And we do things we both like, she has no problem doing anything that I like and vice vers
preraph Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 No. Too soon. You don't really know her yet. You're in lust. She'll know you're kind of immature on the subject if you say it now. I agree with the poster who said say it with actions, but don't go overboard on that either. Restraint is very important in the first, say, four months of a relationship. Try to remember it takes a year or two to get to know the person. At 7 weeks, she hasn't even relaxed enough around you to be herself, and I doubt you have either.
Author Hurtingguy Posted March 24, 2019 Author Posted March 24, 2019 No. Too soon. You don't really know her yet. You're in lust. She'll know you're kind of immature on the subject if you say it now. I agree with the poster who said say it with actions, but don't go overboard on that either. Restraint is very important in the first, say, four months of a relationship. Try to remember it takes a year or two to get to know the person. At 7 weeks, she hasn't even relaxed enough around you to be herself, and I doubt you have either. Yes I know it takes time to really get to know someone for who they really are. Let me ask you this how long did it take for you to tell your last partner that you love them ?
kendahke Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I don’t know how to keep my emotions under control with this one, I keep telling myself give it more time, but my heart says different. If you don't know how to do that, then you need to work on self discipline. You're an adult--you're supposed to have that one locked down by 37 years of age. But ok, let's say that got past you---go ahead and indulge her seeing that she's in the same headspace as you are--see where it will get you, since it's the direction you're intent upon heading in. Just do it and learn the lessons you need to learn from it.
stillafool Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I do think she is falling for me. We spend so much time together everyday, what was suppose to be me staying over for one night has been me staying with her for 2 weeks now and she’s talking about our future us getting married being a family and so on I just don’t want to scare her off I think if she is talking about marriage and kids with you chances are she's in love with you too and waiting to hear you say it. I think you should tell her if that is what is in your heart.
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