DaddyDom Posted March 23, 2019 Posted March 23, 2019 Have you ever noticed with online dating how the most attractive person in a group pic never seems to be the profile holder? I've lost count at how many times I will read a profile and be curious, wade through the group pics, and then when you finally see a single CU pic, the profile holder is the least attractive choice from the group pics. LMAO Has anyone ever sent a message asking if their friend was single?
TheFinalWord Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 Yeah, it happens so much, you want to tell women that is the best way to remind the guy checking out your profile, that's settling. Self-sabotage.
salparadise Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 We had a thread on here once about pics and this came up. The woman whose profile it was seemed certain that she'd be seen as more attractive by the association with very attractive women. People told her no-no-no that's not how it works, but she didn't get it and tried to rationalize how it made her look better. Apparently they also don't understand that pics with some bearded dude (brother, father, bail bondsman) are a turnoff, as are pics of them holding babies or surrounded by 14 grandchildren. It's like they just can't fathom that a man would not want to be a part of that scene! And perhaps the most annoying thing ever... snapchat filters that make them look like cartoon bunnies. Good lord get a grip women! That crap is for 10 year olds. 1
elaine567 Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I think introducing one or two attractive individuals to a group, increases the overall attractiveness of the group. Our eyes are drawn to the attractive members and the perception is that the group is in general attractive. But on an individual basis, if you are unattractive, sitting or standing next to your highly attractive friend or friends will only draw comparison and that will just highlight your inadequacies. But saying that if your friends are all butt ugly or odd looking then that does not give out a great impression either. As for bearded dudes, babies and grandchildren starring in profiles that is down to individual taste and that is highly variable.
salparadise Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 As for bearded dudes, babies and grandchildren starring in profiles that is down to individual taste and that is highly variable. Are you serious? It's the female counterpart to men with no shirt posing with dead animals. Nothing scandalous, but it's not what we're attracted to or looking for in a woman. I do not think you'll find much distribution of male opinions on this. What it means is that she doesn't get it. While men may be gracious about a woman's family duties, it's going to be something we tolerate, not something we're drawn to. Accommodating in-law gatherings was one of my least favorite things about being married, even though they would've made great material for a stand-up comedy act. Add cats to the list. 1
Mrs._December Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 Are you serious? It's the female counterpart to men with no shirt posing with dead animals. Nothing scandalous, but it's not what we're attracted to or looking for in a woman. I do not think you'll find much distribution of male opinions on this. What it means is that she doesn't get it. While men may be gracious about a woman's family duties, it's going to be something we tolerate, not something we're drawn to. Add cats to the list. I have to agree with you. Pictures of guys with a litter of their kids in every photo or going on and on and on about how their kids are 'their world' was such a huge turnoff for me. I couldn't click the 'back' button fast enough. I wasn't looking to join daddy and his kids. And any guy holding a cat was an automatic deal-breaker as well. I concur with DaddyDom - there have been a couple of times when I was doing OLD that I was sorry to learn that the cute guy in the group picture was not the guy who had the profile. No, that particular guy was actually the one to the far left - the slightly overweight bald one wearing the velcro-closure sneakers and the ratty grey t-shirt. For some strange reason, when it comes to profiles with group pics the one with the profile is usually the most unattractive one in the group. I can't quite figure that one out. 1
Author DaddyDom Posted March 24, 2019 Author Posted March 24, 2019 For some strange reason, when it comes to profiles with group pics the one with the profile is usually the most unattractive one in the group. I can't quite figure that one out. Yep it's pretty uncanny. I think 90% of the time when you see a profile start out with group pics, the profile holder is always the "granade". Also as a man that loves genuinely curvy women (size 8-10) I've learned the hard way that "curvy" means fat online. Being a personal trainer I try to keep a sense of humor over the irony of repeatedly meeting 250-300lb obese women in person. It is funny though. If a heavyset women reads a profile where a guy is a trainer, is obviously fit in pics, stresses that he is into fitness, wants to share that passion with the woman he is with, etc why would she think he'd be interested in person? Not to say heavyset women shouldn't be happy, meet someone, etc.. I just think that when someone is direct about preferences and interests, you respect that and don't waste someone's time.
Purepony Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 This thread is hilarious because it’s true! Now I’ve messaged asking if the friends are single but I have yet to get a reply 1
TheFinalWord Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 The group is attractive, may be the way a woman perceives it. But I can tell you, it's not how guys see it. Men compartmentalize women they are interested in. If we see you in a pic next to a woman that is much better looking, we just think we're settling. I do agree about the kids things. When the first line is "My kids come first"...you know that means baggage. Right up there with "I don't do one night stands"
TheFinalWord Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I've learned the hard way that "curvy" means fat online. That and when you see a profile with no body shot, but all close ups of their faces with snapchat filters. It's like using incense to cover up pot. It doesn't hide it, it just gives it away.
Author DaddyDom Posted March 24, 2019 Author Posted March 24, 2019 This thread is hilarious because it’s true! Now I’ve messaged asking if the friends are single but I have yet to get a reply :laugh::D:D
salparadise Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 I do agree about the kids things. When the first line is "My kids come first"...you know that means baggage. Right up there with "I don't do one night stands" And the proclamation that they are "brutally honest," and tell you exactly what they think... meaning they have no filter and every criticism that passes between their ears come out of their mouth. Yea, that's exactly what we're all looking for! 1
smackie9 Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 :lmao:Wow are people that clueless when it comes to profile pics? gosh what am I saying, of course they are. I remember years ago on here a guy was so fickle he spent money on professional pictures, BUT they made him look awful...he was so proud of them. 1
frus69 Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 There is one incident that I saw a profile where all the guys in the group pic are attractive. So I swiped right even though I don't know which one i'm swiping on
basil67 Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 I just think that when someone is direct about preferences and interests, you respect that and don't waste someone's time. Because online dating is just sales. It's no different to when you walk into a used car yard and say you're looking for a 2.2 litre, 4 cyl, manual transmission, AWD, good sized trunk etc and they show you a 6cl with auto transmission. Basically, if they don't have what you want, they'll try and sell you something else.
TheFinalWord Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 And the proclamation that they are "brutally honest," and tell you exactly what they think... meaning they have no filter and every criticism that passes between their ears come out of their mouth. Yea, that's exactly what we're all looking for! Yep. That just screams you have to "earn" her. No thanks.
Highndry Posted March 25, 2019 Posted March 25, 2019 ... there have been a couple of times when I was doing OLD that I was sorry to learn that the cute guy in the group picture was not the guy who had the profile. No, that particular guy was actually the one to the far left - the slightly overweight bald one wearing the velcro-closure sneakers and the ratty grey t-shirt. Hahahahahahahahahahaha!!! God love you, Mrs. December, that cracked me up more than you'll ever know. Also as a man that loves genuinely curvy women (size 8-10) I've learned the hard way that "curvy" means fat online...Not to say heavyset women shouldn't be happy, meet someone, etc.. I just think that when someone is direct about preferences and interests, you respect that and don't waste someone's time. Exactly. I haven't done much online dating, but 10 or so years ago I had a profile up and in no uncertain terms expressed that I am health conscious, stay in shape and am looking for the same. I included "curvy" because I thought they meant curvy. I was getting contacted by women that looked like Honey Boo Boo's mom. I quickly removed "curvy" and will never make that mistake again. 1
NuevoYorko Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 We had a thread on here once about pics and this came up. The woman whose profile it was seemed certain that she'd be seen as more attractive by the association with very attractive women. There is the off chance that said woman thought it was a nice picture of a good time she had with some friends of hers and decided to use it ... 1
NuevoYorko Posted March 26, 2019 Posted March 26, 2019 I have to agree with you. Pictures of guys with a litter of their kids in every photo or going on and on and on about how their kids are 'their world' was such a huge turnoff for me. I couldn't click the 'back' button fast enough. I wasn't looking to join daddy and his kids. And any guy holding a cat was an automatic deal-breaker as well. So ... isn't it a good thing that men and women put pictures of themselves up that show themselves with or doing things that are important to them? Seems like several people on this thread are suggesting that if a person likes a cat, their kids or their dad, they should not have them in their profile pic because men / women might not like a cat, kids, or a bearded dad. Isn't it a positive to find out right off the bat that they have different values / lifestyles / whatever than you do? If they follow this line of reasoning, they would be misrepresenting themselves. Sooner or later you'd find out that they have cat, kids or dad that are important to them and you'd be bummed. Good to nix them right off the bat, I should think. 1
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