Curious-One Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 I talked about those things bc he asked and voluntarily shared his goals and intentions on those things. Hi Loverxxxx can you please tell me when you first met him what made you interested in him. Was it his face did you know withing few minutes that you would be willing to sleep with him because of his good looks and fit body? Or was it after you talked to him and got to know him better and his personality that made you fall for him. Its something that interests me sorry if this is derailing the thread.
Mrs._December Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 A year ago I met my moms boyfriends best friend. Instant connection and hesitant given how we know each other. It has been obvious to everyone that we are interested and drawn to each other. Nothing has happened between us up until a few days ago. We were both out with friends and in the middle of our Saturday night out we ditched our group of friends to hang out one on one. Met at the local bar and immediately was open about our interest in each other and other important things. One of which he hasn’t committed to a relationship in a while.. he wants to get married and does not want kids. LOL. Sure he wants to get married. Maybe when he's 75 and needs a care-taker to look after him. You're a feather in his mid-life cap, OP. An ego booster. Something to brag about to his buddies. And not for nuthin', but it sounds as though Mr. Mid-Life stinks in bed. He told you that you give a great BJ, but did he even bother with any foreplay for you? He couldn't even keep it up for intercourse so I'm guessing your 'hot' night of passion was all about pleasing HIM and him doing nothing but disappointing you every which way he could. Pffft. Why you're even bothering to be upset about this cretin is a mystery. You've been had by a mid-life player who couldn't even play right. Next time, stick with your own age group, not some mouth-breather looking to get himself some young strange.
Mrs._December Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 I do think he has fears of committing. From hearing him and watching him , it seems once he does start falling he ends up putting up a wall that stops him from going further emotionally. I’m curious about that side of him and would like to take the challenge to break through and would Like to understand him. I will step back and not make the first moves but I will continue to reassure him that I’m open and accepting of Him and I. Oh boy. How many precious years of your life are you going to WASTE on a mid-life player whose probably told his girlfriend down in Columbia that he's been true blue to her all this time and is working to earn the money to bring her up here when he's really been jumping on every piece of tail he can find up in the US? Guys like this clown are a dime a dozen. There were a bunch of guys from Ecuador who owned/operated a pizza parlor in the next town over. All were married and/or otherwise committed to women in their home country and would send a good portion of their paychecks home every month. But being away from home for them meant, 'the rules are, there AIN'T no rules!' because all of them acted like nothing short of animals in heat every time a woman was in their presence. They literally chased after every woman they could, even young teenage girls! They were all huge womanizers and cheaters - until one of their wives came up to the US to visit for a couple of weeks and then they'd all suddenly become saints ... until she returned home. Then, it was right back to Animal House again. I saw it continually as my best friend delivered pizzas for them for extra money so we both saw the constant goings on over and over and over. What a friggen joke they were. And your Colombian 'friend' is probably doing exactly what those pizza clowns have done for years. Swearing his loyalty to some woman in Columbia while playing the gigolo up here in the States. Stop romanticizing this overgrown horny teenager as though he's some kind of brokenhearted little boy on the inside who needs to protect himself because he's been victimized and has a tortured soul, but the love of a good woman - you - will magically heal him! You have a better chance of having Elvis sing at your next Birthday party than you do of this happening. Be smarter than this. 1
elaine567 Posted March 31, 2019 Posted March 31, 2019 Stop romanticizing this overgrown horny teenager as though he's some kind of brokenhearted little boy on the inside who needs to protect himself because he's been victimized and has a tortured soul, but the love of a good woman - you - will magically heal him! Women in general are oh so good at this ^^^ Until women wise up, men will always walk all over them and cause them pain... 1
Author Loverxxxx Posted March 31, 2019 Author Posted March 31, 2019 Hi Loverxxxx can you please tell me when you first met him what made you interested in him. Was it his face did you know withing few minutes that you would be willing to sleep with him because of his good looks and fit body? Or was it after you talked to him and got to know him better and his personality that made you fall for him. Its something that interests me sorry if this is derailing the thread. In a nut shell: I’m was actually not attracted to his looks at all until after I slept with him. His personality and our similarities and differences made him attractive to me. We have similar values, same hobbies, his way of thinking and the conversations we have fun all the time.
Author Loverxxxx Posted March 31, 2019 Author Posted March 31, 2019 (edited) Oh boy. Guys... I’m not romanticizing him or me and him.. I’m just someone that was / still is crushing on a guy..: a guy who happens to have some ties that I’ve never had experience with... so I’m asking for advice on some things. I’m not losing sleep over the dude, putting my life on hold, or giving him excuses. Just thinking about it all... Edited April 1, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Loverxxxx Posted March 31, 2019 Author Posted March 31, 2019 Have you heard from him? Nope.. and I haven’t seen him either, I haven’t tried to make any type of contact either after that last text( sending him the facial product stuff)
Author Loverxxxx Posted March 31, 2019 Author Posted March 31, 2019 LOL. Sure he wants to get married. Maybe when he's 75 and needs a care-taker to look after him. You're a feather in his mid-life cap, OP. An ego booster. Something to brag about to his buddies. And not for nuthin', but it sounds as though Mr. Mid-Life stinks in bed. He told you that you give a great BJ, but did he even bother with any foreplay for you? He couldn't even keep it up for intercourse so I'm guessing your 'hot' night of passion was all about pleasing HIM and him doing nothing but disappointing you every which way he could. Pffft. Why you're even bothering to be upset about this cretin is a mystery. You've been had by a mid-life player who couldn't even play right. Next time, stick with your own age group, not some mouth-breather looking to get himself some young strange. And yeah you’re right! He wasn’t good in bed .. a little disappointing ...
TheFinalWord Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 (edited) The girl I am dating a girl and we have the same age difference (he's a little older than me). Many women here don't like the age difference, but they don't see things from an objective perspective in my opinion. Similar to your crush, I am in great shape, and have a 8/10 face (objectively evaluating myself). The 27 year old I am dating has been the pursuer and this is not some naive girl. In incredible shape herself, makes six figures, smart educated, pays for almost all the dates. But I also don't play games with her heart and head. I think one of the advantages of dating an older guy is he is supposed to have his act together, knows what he wants, doesn't play games, and treats a girl right. If he still isn't communicating, I would not wait around. The main thing he is supposed to be giving you, given his age, is maturity. I've dated many women in their 20s and it often works out great. The consistently state they like the maturity factor, which this guy isn't displaying. I still don't think he has ED, but sex can be clunky sometimes at the beginning. Edited April 1, 2019 by TheFinalWord
whichwayisup Posted April 1, 2019 Posted April 1, 2019 Forget him. Sorry to say but he got what he wanted from you and now he's made no effort to see you or text you first. He only texts you when you text him. The age thing isn't the concern here, it's the fact he told you up front who he is (commitment phobe, doesn't want kids etc) and you know he's your mom's boyfriends best friend. How do you think your mom would react if she knew? Or the boyfriend?
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