Pippix Posted March 22, 2019 Posted March 22, 2019 I'd been talking to this guy via OLD, the messages were good and he eventually asked me if I wanted to meet up sometime. We'd been talking on the dating site and then moved over to snapchat. I met up with him last Saturday and the conversation flowed really well. We seemed to have lots in common and at the end of the date we even talked about ideas for date number 2. I messaged him when I got home on Snapchat and told him that i'd had a nice date and he said he had too. We spoke a bit that night and I did notice that he'd gotten slow at replying, normally he replied quite quickly. There's nothing wrong with slow replies btw, just seemed unusual for him. He did tell me he was going on a day trip on the Sunday so I assumed he was preparing for that and getting an early night. I also messaged with him on the Sunday, we talked about how his day trip went. He last messaged me Sunday night and I replied and i've not heard anything from him since. I also messaged him a couple days later, that I hoped he was okay. This is on snapchat and he's not read the messages nor as he removed me as a friend and his snapchat score hasn't gone up either. I also noticed Sunday night that he'd been on the dating app whilst on his day trip as his location had changed to the place he went too, he's free to use the app that's fine but he did say on the date that he'd not been using the app and that he'd deleted it. After he'd not replied Sunday, I went back onto the dating app to see if he'd been active on there and noticed that he'd deleted his account. I'm just really confused and also a bit worried as to why he's just gone quiet. I know it's only been one date and I wasn't expecting all that much but he just didn't seem like the type of guy to just do that. There could be another reason he hasn't been active but it's looking likely he ghosted me. I've been active on the dating site and talking to other guys as i'm very much keeping my options open but I did like him and was looking forward to a possible second date.
Mrs._December Posted March 22, 2019 Posted March 22, 2019 I'm kind of thinking he hasn't deleted his dating profile at all, he merely blocked you so you can no longer see that he's changing the location on it or updating his pictures or when he's on the site etc. etc., is all. I think you're definitely correct that he ghosted you, starting with his cool down after you both met. For whatever reason, after you met in person he just wasn't really feeling it and he's been doing a slow fade ever since. I think you're wise to move forward and continue meeting other guys.
ExpatInItaly Posted March 22, 2019 Posted March 22, 2019 I'm just really confused and also a bit worried as to why he's just gone quiet. I know it's only been one date and I wasn't expecting all that much but he just didn't seem like the type of guy to just do that. There could be another reason he hasn't been active but it's looking likely he ghosted me. I've been active on the dating site and talking to other guys as i'm very much keeping my options open but I did like him and was looking forward to a possible second date. The problem with this line of thinking is that you don't know what type of guy he is, unfortunately. One date and some online chatting is not enough to determine if he seems to be that type or not. He might be a total gentleman, or he might be a player with a different woman every night. I do agree that he has decided not to see you again, though. His silence is very telling. It might have nothing to do with you personally. Maybe he's been dating someone else and decided to stick with her. Maybe he's not even single and his girlfriend caught him. It could be anything, though I know it's hard not to take it personally. I would leave this one in the dust and carry on.
Cersei Posted March 22, 2019 Posted March 22, 2019 Sorry you are feeling this way. Yes he has ghosted you. He was likely not feeling it and trying to be friendly so He did not hurt your feelings. You will find a better match.
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