Tiger-Lily Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 About four (4) years ago my mother died. We were very very close. Actually she was the closest person in my live. I depended on her for support, advice and guidance. After her passing I looked up to my eldest brother to replace her. I did not actually grow up with him since he moved to another country when I was a child. Actually, all of my sibling live overseas and I used to live with our mother. After our mother's passing, he would visit every January around the time of my birthday and I would visit him and my other siblings in July. I did not know much about his personality except that I thought he was an excellent role model and someone I could go to for advice. I was surprised to realize that he had no respect for women and even had sex and fooled around with my friends. I was completely embarrassed by his behaviour and it even got worse when he visited last year when he and his Sugar-Daddy friend met two girls on the beach. Girl-1 and Girl-2. On that actually day he had Girl-1 come along with him to meet me at my job. He was even holding her as if she was his girlfriend and whispered sweet nothings in her ears. I just could not believe that they had actually met that said day. This year however, it was brought to my attention from a friend of the family that Girl-1 had gotten pregnant for another man and had a baby. When my brother come to visit this year he 'hooked-up' with Girl-2. The friend of the family told me that Girl-2 has a bad reputation and a bastard child. The friend of the family was disgusted to find out that my brother would be with that type of person. He never introduced me to Girl-2 and I realized it must be due to her nasty character. A couple months after January's visit he informed me that he was coming to my country, not to spend time with me but to spend time the Girl-2 and stay at her home and not mine. Even though he come, we still hung out and he phoned regularly. A couple weeks ago the friend of the family told me that Girl-2 told her that my brother was coming over again. I was totally in shock. He did not tell me anything. Days before he visited he phoned me up to inform me that he was coming, but to spend time with Girl-2. He did not visit my home and he did not phone. He only visited my job. On the day of his leaving, he did not even give me our usual good bye, have a good flight hug. I did not initiate it because he seemed cold. He did not even phone me to tell me that he landed safely and I am feeling way to rejected to pick up the phone to call him. He used to phone me every Sunday and now all that has stopped. Do you think any sibling should be cold to another because they don't approve of a boyfriend or girlfriend that they may have?
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 About four (4) years ago my mother died. We were very very close. Tiger Lily.. I'm curious about the when you talk about your mother dying. I think that the problem with your brother is linked to this.. Why do you think that it is funny that your mom died ?
Merin Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 While I can understand to a point your being upset about your Brother not spending time with you as you've missed him.. what I cannot understand is why you are so judgmental of someone (Girl number 2) that you don't even know, have never met or spent time with. Just because there is a gossip in your circle of friends doesn't mean that what this person has said about this girl is accurate first of all.. and secondly why is really your concern whom your Brother chooses to date, speak to or visit? Again.. while I respect that he is your sibling he is also a grown man. I'm pretty certain your Brother knows of your "dislike" for this Girl he seems to be persuing (even if it's only friendship) and perhaps he is just as disappointed in your reaction and behaviour regarding her.
Merin Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Tiger Lily.. I'm curious about the when you talk about your mother dying. I think that the problem with your brother is linked to this.. Why do you think that it is funny that your mom died ? I thought the same thing.. but was hoping she used that icon to show tears not laughter...
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Ahhh.. I never thought of the tears.. But the rolling eyes as well.. Maybe she didn't understand the meaning of the emotion icons.
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