Fleiss Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Hi..36 yo male here. I chatted with this man online last night, whose town I'm visiting on the weekend. Given that I can't host in my hotel, he offered to pay for a room/place elsewhere (for an hour or two), so we could have fun together. I like him, but should I accept his offer? (I feel a bit embarrassed, as this is the first time I have had such a suggestion/offer.) Thanks.. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 It's entirely up to you & whether you feel safe. Putting the ONS morality aside because that is a personal choice, how sure are you that this is legit & he's not going to mug you? If you are OK there & you are DTF, pack the appropriate safety equipment (condoms) & have fun. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LauraXX Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Doesn't sound very safe to me. I'd probably suggest meeting in a bar and if you have a good gut feeling about this guy and are down for a ONS, he could still take you to his place or a motel or whatever. Good luck 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fleiss Posted March 20, 2019 Author Share Posted March 20, 2019 Doesn't sound very safe to me. I'd probably suggest meeting in a bar and if you have a good gut feeling about this guy and are down for a ONS, he could still take you to his place or a motel or whatever. Good luck Sure, meeting first in a public place, and then taking it from there.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 wow how did he make this offer without coming across as a creep?! Link to post Share on other sites
JuneL Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 wow how did he make this offer without coming across as a creep?! My gay good friend gets such offers regularly ;-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fleiss Posted March 20, 2019 Author Share Posted March 20, 2019 wow how did he make this offer without coming across as a creep?! Why should one be necessarily a creep in bringing this up? What is the connection between the two?_ Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fleiss Posted March 20, 2019 Author Share Posted March 20, 2019 wow how did he make this offer without coming across as a creep?! Why should one be necessarily a creep in bringing this up? What is the connection between the two?_ Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 Why should one be necessarily a creep in bringing this up? What is the connection between the two?_ Most women would be affronted if a man was this blunt to them. To us women, such an offer reads a creepy in the mainstream. I suspect fred123 missed the part about you being a gay man. He may have been wondering how he could ask a woman this Q & get the positive response you seem to be giving the guy who made you the offer. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted March 20, 2019 Share Posted March 20, 2019 I'd say just be safe and make sure someone knows that you're meeting this guy--perhaps have them text you midway through your evening to see if you're cool. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted March 21, 2019 Share Posted March 21, 2019 Let your friend know where you are at, maybe take a quick photo of the guy.....just in case something goes bad. I know it's common, but there are predators out there. I guess I worry for people's safety because I watch a lot of crime documentaries. Men fall victim too, just like women. Bruce McArthur lured men on line, and dismembered them, stuffed them in planters where he worked. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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