Ether08 Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 (edited) This woman has high interest level of 80%-85% after only dates. That's a good thing. However I think she is moving too fast with the sex and to put the icing on that cake inviting you on a road trip to her family's cabin. 3 dates is not enough time to really know someone well enough to be intimate with them. Come back with an update when you make it past 3 months and tell us how she's doing then. You don't know her and she does not know you. The first 3 months is just an infatuation stage. The real substance comes out after that. I think the longer people wait to have sex the better. There is no such thing as a relationship dying because a couple waited too long for sex. I would politely turn down the invitation to go away with her. If you had 1 year of time in with her that would be a different story. Has she asked you to be the boyfriend? Edited March 24, 2019 by Ether08
Author alexmicah Posted March 24, 2019 Author Posted March 24, 2019 This woman has high interest level of 80%-85% after only dates. That's a good thing. However I think she is moving too fast with the sex and to put the icing on that cake inviting you on a road trip to her family's cabin. 3 dates is not enough time to really know someone well enough to be intimate with them. Come back with an update when you make it past 3 months and tell us how she's doing then. You don't know her and she does not know you. The first 3 months is just an infatuation stage. The real substance comes out after that. I think the longer people wait to have sex the better. There is no such thing as a relationship dying because a couple waited too long for sex. I would politely turn down the invitation to go away with her. If you had 1 year of time in with her that would be a different story. Has she asked you to be the boyfriend? She hasn't asked me to be her boyfriend, but I know she's not seeing anyone else because I've been in the same social circle with her since December and we all go out every Saturday night. The only reason we didn't hook up sooner is because my brothers bff is in love with her and basically "forbid me" to pursue her even though she has no interest in him whatsoever. (There's a whole thread about this if you wanna,read the story) But we've been vibing since we met and finally decided not to let him stand in our way anymore. So,we're not strangers. And she didn't invite me in a "sexual way". She just loves hiking and so do I,but the mountains are 7 hours away so we're not just going to go for the day and drive back. Of course,I'm not stupid. I know there's a high chance we'll have sex in that environment,but if we don't that's ok too. I fall for her more and more everyday and her body language tells me she feels the same, so we'll just see where things go.
Foxhall Posted March 24, 2019 Posted March 24, 2019 Happy days!! seems to be all moving in the right direction, I would have to disagree with Ether on this, seize the moment and avoid having regrets later. 1
40somethingGuy Posted March 28, 2019 Posted March 28, 2019 I really am smackie9. I just like her so much I'm over thinking everything. You sound like a 'nice guy' and that will kill your chances. They always do. You need to make a move and let her determine how far it goes. Being nervous etc and not acting like a confident male will only cause you to come back on here with a 'I really showed respect and she wants to be friends only...what went wrong?' post. 1
Soulinfected Posted March 28, 2019 Posted March 28, 2019 The timing is right is when she wants it...now! So true. It just means she is really in to you. It usually happens by the second or third time and it does NOT mean she's easy. Get it. Enjoy yourself and don't say "I love you" and you will be fine. 1
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