acapelo_dp Posted March 20, 2019 Posted March 20, 2019 I've been dating a guy for 6 1/2 months. Lately my feelings have grown significantly for him and I know I am falling in love with him. He has not said it yet. I want to tell him but I am afraid he isn't on the same page despite his actions telling me he is committed and into me. Any thoughts or advice? I don't really want to be the first one to say it but I've almost caught myself saying it by accident lol. How long did you wait to first say I love you to your SO?
Author acapelo_dp Posted March 20, 2019 Author Posted March 20, 2019 I can't imagine NOT saying it by that long. Yeah to be honest this is the longest a guy has gone without saying it to me. I mean everyone develops at different paces but I'm definitely feeling it.
Kitty Tantrum Posted March 20, 2019 Posted March 20, 2019 My advice? Say it when you mean it. I don't remember how long it was with my fiancé. I remember I was snuggled up with him one night, just drifting off to sleep, and it hit me. I was a bit scared, but there was a little voice shouting at me: "BUT IT'S TRUE!" So I said it. He didn't say it back at the time, but he squeezed me and kissed the top of my head. Worked out pretty well, all things considered. Says it every day now.
d0nnivain Posted March 20, 2019 Posted March 20, 2019 I'm a chicken when it comes to that. When I have said it 1st, I have always hedged my bets & said something along the lines of "I think I am falling in love with you" or "luv ya" . . . just to test the waters & give myself an out if the sentiment is not returned.
Penguin_hugs Posted March 20, 2019 Posted March 20, 2019 I told my BF around the 5 month stage. I'd been thinking it a while- but kept hoping he would say it first. Or that the moment needed to be perfect etc. But then I realised I would really regret it if he never knew- and what did it matter with regards to the scenario- the important thing was that he knew. So I said it one day when we were in bed- about to sleep. And he immediately said it back. Apparently he'd wanted to say it for a really long time- but was confused about the feelings and meaning. And wasn't sure how I felt! Now we say it a few times a day- and I just love hearing the reminder. Take a leap and say it if you mean it. I was adamant I didn't want it to just be lust which is why I waited a while for confirmation 1
Author acapelo_dp Posted March 23, 2019 Author Posted March 23, 2019 So, last night I told him I wanted to tell him something and not to freak out. I told him I love you and he didn't say it back, he said he wasn't there yet but gave me a big hug and kiss I told him I was embarrassed but wanted him to know and he said "don't be embarrassed it's a good thing" and how he wanted to 100 percent mean it cause he has been burned in the past. Well I'm a little embarrassed to be honest lol I'm not sure why.
elaine567 Posted March 23, 2019 Posted March 23, 2019 Well the fact he hadn't said it for so long was a pretty big clue he wasn't there yet, so not such a huge surprise he said nothing when you laid your cards on the table... How old is he, what is his relationship history like?
Author acapelo_dp Posted March 23, 2019 Author Posted March 23, 2019 Well the fact he hadn't said it for so long was a pretty big clue he wasn't there yet, so not such a huge surprise he said nothing when you laid your cards on the table... How old is he, what is his relationship history like? Yeah I told him I expected he wasn't there yet and that's ok just wanted to say how I felt I'm his second official girlfriend. He dated a girl before me for four years on and off but she cheated on him. They had a great relationship from what I can tell you to when she cheated. That was like 2 years ago it ended officially or something. His actions do say he is very into me though at least which is a good thing. We also get along well and have lots of fun. I'm just hoping he can get there with my. But obviously if it takes another six months there's a problem.
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