Samuel_22 Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 Hi everyone Last night I was with my girlfriend. She is going on a trip so I wont see her for a month, when we wanted to say good-bye we hugged and became watery-eyed with a few drops of tear on my face, well that didn't last more than a few seconds and obviously I regained control fast. it was dark and I didn't think she would notice them to begin with. Now I am worried, do you think she will lose respect for me as a man because I was weak at that moment?
darkmoon Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 NO your actions are the very stuff that women dream of, proof of your love 1
preraph Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 No, as long as you don't follow that display of sentiment by demanding constant contact and being jealous and suspicious while she's gone. That's when you need to act like a man and let her check in on her own schedule. 2
Ronni_W Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 , do you think she will lose respect for me as a man because I was weak at that moment? No, I don't think that she will...and I also don't think that you showing your awareness and genuine emotion that you are going to miss her while she is gone is some kind of sign that you are 'weak'. It is so unfortunate that, in this day and Age, people have to still be burdened by the programming of ancient ideas related to the differences between the genders. Even worse, that, even though we can know better these days, we still choose to keep ourselves stuck with those outdated notions, instead of becoming at least a bit more sophisticated in our own psychology and thinking. 1
basil67 Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 Hi Samuel, all men have weaknesses but not all men are brave enough to let it show. They hide behind a facade and don't let others in because they are frightened to appear less masculine. It's the same facade which leaves men at risk of not addressing mental health issues. Give me a guy who's in touch with his emotions any day over a man who presents a facade of unfailing masculinity. That said, whether one is male or female, there is such a thing as taking shows of emotion too far. 1
alphamale Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 no, everytime I have cried in front of a woman I have ended up sleeping with her 1
basil67 Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 Though there was this one boyfriend (teenager) who had figured out that crying brought female attention. He didn't last long.
chillii Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 Noooo, and even if she did more to the point that;d turn me right off about her actually anyway. My woman loves my emotional sides .
RecentChange Posted March 19, 2019 Posted March 19, 2019 I like it when must trust me enough to be a bit vulnerable. I have no problem with crying.
Lotsgoingon Posted March 21, 2019 Posted March 21, 2019 Dude, this question is from the 1950s ... Men tear up all the time ... why do you think tears upset women? ... Of course you teared up ... you're going to miss your gf ... and you were appreciating your connection to her ... Presidents cry all the time at certain events. You think you can't cry? Your task: have some conversations with people your age, men and women ... because your views out of whack, from another century. Just ask people about your views. 2
c1nderella Posted March 21, 2019 Posted March 21, 2019 “Pain is weakness leaving the body” ... don’t ever feel like your weakness is a negative thing. I have still yet to meet a guy who shows his true emotions. To me what you showed would make me fall in love with you even more. All women know that guys are raised to be strong and men don’t cry blah blah ..when a girl sees you actually break down we see you actually feel.
d0nnivain Posted March 21, 2019 Posted March 21, 2019 She'd be more annoyed that you think demonstrating sadness & missing her are "weaknesses" that you would prefer to hide from. Modern men are in touch with their feelings. Now if you were crying because she was going home for the night & you were going to see her later in the week, that would be over the top.
OnlyHonesty Posted March 21, 2019 Posted March 21, 2019 No, I don't think that she will...and I also don't think that you showing your awareness and genuine emotion that you are going to miss her while she is gone is some kind of sign that you are 'weak'. It is so unfortunate that, in this day and Age, people have to still be burdened by the programming of ancient ideas related to the differences between the genders. Even worse, that, even though we can know better these days, we still choose to keep ourselves stuck with those outdated notions, instead of becoming at least a bit more sophisticated in our own psychology and thinking. Part of it is down to programming, and gender roles, but some of it is also biology. For example: Men have larger tear ducts so are less likely to have tears reaching the point of spilling over the eyelid onto the cheek. Women's tear ducts are shorter and shallower meaning they can cry easier than men. Some scientists also believe testosterone inhibits crying too. So in summary Women are biologically wired to shed tears more than men. I know the OP only mentioned watery eyes, but I think it's important not to forget that it's not just ideas or social roles involved overall. 1
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