foolinlove Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 As I have posted.....I have gave my MM a deadline....(which is more for myself than for him) in which I will walk out of his life until he gives me ALL of himself. However, I have tried this before (as many have) and failed. I become desperately depressed over the situation. I cry constantly...and when i have no tears left, I sleep. My question is...can medication help you get through a "situation" in your life? I understand people are going to have very strong opinions about the subject and I am open to all input, however, has anyone tried meds? I am not a depressed person, I find great joy in life, however when it comes to my situation with my MM I find myself pathetic and helpless. I consider myself a very strong person, but not when it comes to walking away from the man i love. I guess I'm hoping for a way to ease the pain of the NC without turning to alcohol (that just makes it worse). Can medication help a person get through a tough situation, and if so...what are the long term effects from the substance...will i NEED to take it for life? I find comfort in talking to family and friends about my situation and feelings, however I feel at times I burden them and I become a downer. I do not have money for therapy or I would try that, I'm not a spiritual person, although looking into a few insights...I'm looking for ANYTHING to help me...to help me cope. I hope this hasn't been a topic already discussed on the LS. I REALLY don't want to fail this time around.....thanks for any input.
cherrie498 Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 I personally do not think seeking medical help is a "bad" thing. Medication is an option because it does help when taken properly. As far as the long term effects, each med has varies side effects. You will have to explain to your physician why you feel you need medication, he will decide if he feels that is the best option. You said you cant afford therapy, you may want to check in your state/county to see if they have free/income based drs/therapist that dont cost an arm & a leg, many do. Most important thing is that you do continue to discuss your feelings & not use the medication to avoid the real problem. I hate that you are feeling this way! I read your post & relate it to my own, my heart truly goes out to you & many others here. At one point I also turned to meds (Lexapro) I did take this med & occasionally do now, it gets me through the roughest stages. It doesnt make it go away, so if your looking for a cure all thats not it, well wasnt for me. God wish there was a medicine you could take for your heart. Wish you the best!!!!!
Maria46 Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 My psychologist got me on Prozac years ago when I was going thru rough times. In fact I was on Prozac for many years. It helped me focus and with being able to focus, I could make decisions. See your doctor. Depression sucks!! Good luck
newbby Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 I'm one of those that thinks that if you use meds to deal with a situation or even a mental state, you avoid learning and gaining valuable tools for dealing with different crises. i have tried meds before, for depression and they made me so cloudy i did not feel i was in control of my thoughts. far better imo to try different self hypnosis techniques etc. theres a good website of paul mckenna put it in a search engine, which teaches you how to change the hold that certain thoughts (situations) have over you. meditation is also excellent for calming the mind.
Norma Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Meds can be a good idea, but I am a strong believer that you can almost never manage with drugs alone. I have been going through a bout of depression reccently. What I learned from the whole experience is that if you have had recurring depression, maintainence of your depression is very important, rather than treating things at the peak. Getting meds can be a good thing, but make sure the right person is prescribing it (i.e. someone that takes into account reactions with other meds, your metabolism, medical history, etc.) and its very helpful to accompany your meds with regular therapy. I personally dont believe that the doctor has to be a psychiatrist, but that is because Ive been to crappy, insensitive psychs and my primary care physician took everything into account and gave me the right meds. Im small with slow metabolism, so she gave me a low dose of wellbutrin. This isnt the first one ive tried. Many trial and errors (mostly error)...so be careful cause the side effects can be crazy if the med isnt right for you (i.e. nausea, vomitting, fatigue, influenza-like symptoms, myalgia, headaches). Another heads up (that they dont tell u in the literature or at the Dr's): if you take Zoloft you CAN get some crazy dreams that make u feel nuts. Of course that doesnt happen to everyone, but my doctor said that a lot of other people have that too. If you want to try a more natural non-drug route, try therapy along with biofeedback. Or that plus meds. Ultimately, I would try to think about how depressed you really are and how you react to medications. Cause even if you have a hard time with meds, when you really really need them, I dont think its a yes or no questions....more like which antidepressant and how much. If you are lucky (unlike me) you wont even have any nasty side effects and it will act like a boost for you. As for the post before me, I understand what youre saying completely. Im not sure what you took, but for me, some meds dulled feelings and the wellbutrin im on now gives me the extra boost i need. Make sure to specify what kind of feeling alteration you want (however weird this may sound). Good luck with everything!!!
Norma Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 Sorry, I wasnt clear on your post. Im not sure if you have health insurance or not, but with pinnacle claims and blue cross you can get a big chunk of your payments reimbursed and then it costs about $20/50min. Im just a big believer in therapy, so I hope u have something. Biofeedback has the same reimbursment. Some therapists can give special rates to people who have financial limitations. So ask! Sorry bout the misunderstanding.
TiredOfWaiting Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 FIL: My heart goes out to you. I can identify with the "burden" issue - you feel it's all been said before, and they must be getting tired of it by now! Personally, I went thru a bad patch where I was not sleeping (for about 4 days), and I did approach my GP (general practitioner) and he gave me a mild sleeping tablet for 10 days. This was sufficient to get me over the toughest patch. I turn to natural remedies when I am battling. Rescue Remedy, St John's Wort, Valerian and Passion Flower are all things you could try. In fact, I did not take mine for 2 days and today I am not coping well again. It could be argued that it has a placebo effect, but if it calms me down, who cares, and it will not have adverse effects on my health! I think it is important that you raised this topic. I am sure alot of us here feel the same. Good luck. Thinking of you. Know how tough it is!
DesertDweller Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I was diagnosed by my MD with clinical depression, and I take the antidepressant Celexa. Depression can immobilize you. Antisdepressants can help you cope. Celexa is not a "happy pill" (unfortunately!) like people think, it just takes away the feeling of doom. For instance, you may still feel sad, but not suicidal. And it's not addictive, so you don't have to stay on it forever. However, there can be side effects when you stop taking it. You'd have to talk to a doctor. I would recommend also reading some books on the subject of breaking up: Surviving the Loss of A Love, etc. Good luck!
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