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How do you deal with guilt after a relationship?

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First step is to figure out whether or not you have done anything wrong. What are you feeling guilty about?

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I try to be the best person I can be, if that isn't good enough for my significant other, so be it. She can leave and I have nothing to feel guilty or bad about.

 

Each morning when I go to shave, I look at that person in the mirror and think about the previous day. Did I do anything wrong, if so how can I fix that situation and never do it again?? If I did nothing unkind or wrong, I complete the shaving process and go on with my day.

 

If you were the best person you could be, you have nothing to feel guilty about.

 

Do you feel you did something wrong or unkind??

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I did something unkind. I thought I was protecting myself, but it came from a place of frustration and a little resentment that I was wrong to feel given the circumstances. I try not to be reckless with other people’s hearts. But I make mistakes and I don’t immediately realize that I had made them.

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I did something unkind.

 

Cut yourself some slack, as you are human... We all make mistakes, try to learn from that mistake and try not to repeat it.

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I did something unkind. I thought I was protecting myself, but it came from a place of frustration and a little resentment that I was wrong to feel given the circumstances. I try not to be reckless with other people’s hearts. But I make mistakes and I don’t immediately realize that I had made them.

 

The fact that you recognize/admit you did something unkind means you are not an unkind person by nature. Forgive yourself. Maybe determine why you did what you did. If you feel inclined, apologize to the person you hurt - BUT maybe you needed to be that "unkind" to get your point across, so don't be too hard on yourself. We all make mistakes.

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I think I needed to get my point across. Later, I apologized to that person. But I wish I did it all differently. I was reacting instead of thinking about it a little longer. Or thinking about the bigger picture because in the moment I felt like I've had it, but now I wish I was more patient. Don't get me wrong, I have patience, but I think sometimes people overplay their hand when they're dating and you feel like you're pushed into a corner. You know?

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