Shortest ever relationship but most painful (almost relationships?)

[1231969]

I have been in a few long relationships, one of 4 years and 2 of 2 years - I am utterly beside myself over something that is only a month long

 

Feeling slightly pathetic about it, but has anyone been in an almost relationship??

 

I haven't seen anyone for 2 years and then this guy enters my life, we had known each other from back in college years ago and we reconnected.

 

It became intense very quickly and I feel more on his side, talking about holidays, how perfect I am, good looking, how great we are together and he wish it happened sooner..he knew from day one his work may be moving him and every now and then mentioned it and now it is actually most likely happening and he has gone very very cold! It hurts and I am actually really angry he has pursued this if he knew this from day one and isn't willing to try LD (about 5 hours away).

 

I am still holding out hope when I know I shouldn't be and want to try and move on, but I am kind of just there I feel in case he doesn't move as far away as the 5 hours (small chance it will be closer than the 5 and more like 2). I have offered for him to break it off and he has rejected it saying he doesn't want to miss an opportunity of having me but he can't say yes yet and continues to be pretty cold towards me

 

Anyone experience of an almost relationship? Feel bizzare for hurting so much! It isn't what I am use to, the hurt I have previously experienced was more of having put time into something and sad it didn't work out if that makes sense? But those relationships came to a natural end on the whole with some now being friends

Edited March 18, 2019 by 1231969

[mark clemson]

Well, there is such a thing as an emotional affair (EA) which in a way is like an almost relationship (in that there's no or minimal physical sexual activity).

 

Obviously this wasn't an affair, but it sounds to me like you and this person emotionally bonded. Now he's withdrawn due to the move. He presumably feels like it needs to end and may feel that this is just ultimately the best/easiest way to do it.

 

So, unfortunately, you are left feeling the emotional loss due to the bonding that occurred. It's not fair, but then again what actually makes sense to do in this situation?

 

My suggestion would be to contact him to confirm that "it's over" and he intend to fully move on. If that's the case and he has no interest in a LDR, then try your best to move on as well. You can't force someone else to love you. Your feelings will eventually fade and there will be room for something more real in your life.