ZA Dater Posted March 11, 2019 Posted March 11, 2019 But. She couldn't meet up because she was leaving SA. I chalk this down to a win, albeit a rather hollow one but a win nonetheless. She was nice enough, the type of lady who is fairly easy to be around without being wow. The fact she was foreign is probably why the whole date worked because dates like this don't ever tend to work with locals. Of the foreign dates I have had the Swedish lady was by far the best but this one wasn't bad so I cant be completely useless at this and the more I work through this the more I am starting to realise perhaps I simply don't work with local people. Thinking about it, it seems my way of thinking is perhaps better aligned for some reason with people who don't live in SA. These dates have mostly been quite relaxed rather than the rather "extract water from a stone" dates I tend have with locals. However I cant escalate them beyond dates. Have pretty much given up on even bothering to meet locals, one wanted to meet me last week but I couldn't because of work commitments, never heard from her again.
Author ZA Dater Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 But when is the second date? Not going to happen. She live in Germany.
chillii Posted March 11, 2019 Posted March 11, 2019 Well congrats on that all the same. Would there be enough in it to keep in touch chat and stuff and maybe catch up again , going there or her back ? And ahhhh, hate to be a downer but we've been telling you to look further a field for threads and threads . Anyway , you've certainly been finding them lately that's for sure , just keep at it man and it's only be a matter of time. Good luck.
Author ZA Dater Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 Well congrats on that all the same. Would there be enough in it to keep in touch chat and stuff and maybe catch up again , going there or her back ? And ahhhh, hate to be a downer but we've been telling you to look further a field for threads and threads . Anyway , you've certainly been finding them lately that's for sure , just keep at it man and it's only be a matter of time. Good luck. Well I am not sure, will keep communicating and see. She is a very easy going lady, very efficient. Croatian lady aside the feedback I seem to get from these foreign ladies is much better than the majority of the local ones. Was nice to have a minor success for the change, as opposed to a kick in the face. I don't regret much when it comes to dates but I do regret not working harder with the Swedish lady. My friend doesn't see logic in dating people who don't live here but the flip side for me is the dates are usually very interesting which is more than can be said for local people. If I am going to spend time I might as well spend it with interesting people. Then again I have always liked the idea of more exotic and more challenging so I suppose this form of "dating; fulfils both of those.
Author ZA Dater Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 Is there a reason you cannot move? Lots of reasons. I can live with this sort of compromise, meet someone nice every so often, have a nice dinner or lunch. I'd rather have these quality dates where I learn something/sit with someone interesting that subject myself to more of the same which is dished out by locals. The mire of loneliness isn't so great if I have a few of these sorts of dates.
Normm Posted March 12, 2019 Posted March 12, 2019 I don't understand how you can start a thread saying you got a second date when you didn't get a second date because she left the country? It's like saying I won $10 bucks in a lottery so I decided to try for the MegaMillions jackpot and I won! Except that I didn't play the lottery a second time because I never got around to it so I didn't get any money. 2
Author ZA Dater Posted March 12, 2019 Author Posted March 12, 2019 I don't understand how you can start a thread saying you got a second date when you didn't get a second date because she left the country? It's like saying I won $10 bucks in a lottery so I decided to try for the MegaMillions jackpot and I won! Except that I didn't play the lottery a second time because I never got around to it so I didn't get any money. The point being she did want to see me again, which lets face it is pretty rare for me.
5x5 Posted March 12, 2019 Posted March 12, 2019 The point being she did want to see me again, which lets face it is pretty rare for me. That's easy to say when she was leaving the country. The way to tell if you have gotten a second date, is when you find yourself participating in a second date with the other person present. 2
Normm Posted March 12, 2019 Posted March 12, 2019 The point being she did want to see me again Talk is cheap. Lots of people say "Sure let's do it again" when they have no intention of doing so. It's easier and less awkward (and sometimes safer) than being honest. 1
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