Juliet Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 My ex recently sent me a forward. A blanket email..just a chain letter kind of thing. We ended our relationship and all ties at least 6months ago. It was a volitile break up. We swore never to contact eachother again. The police were even involved. Now 6 months later I get a forward blanket email. I am still in his address book!! Do you think he is testing the waters. I have not received any emails from him until now. My current BF deleted the email because he thinks he is trying to break the ice.
dprelz Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 Well, don't even spend the time or breath analyzing it if you are happy with another BF! Sounds like he is just curious as to what you're up to you.. I would just ignore it(and anything else he sends), for the sake of yourself and your new bf.
heartnsoul Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 I'm speaking from experience on this. He's testing the waters. I recently did this with an ex. I always felt bad for the way things ended up and it was my way of trying to reach out and to spark some kind of response.
georgiagirl76 Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 I agree with everyone and also I am curious as to why you even bothered to post about this. I am not judging you AT ALL. I just hope that if you were able to escape a relationship that had to get the police involved during the break up that you aren't considering going back or even contacting him. Also make sure you are happy in the relationship you are in. Otherwise if you were just naturally curious then no harm done. Hang in there.
Author Juliet Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 We were together for about a year. He was my best friend. He questioned his sexuality during our relationship and met a guy for sex behind my back. He maintained nothing happened and he realized he was straight. After that I did not look at him as my best friend anymore. The trust was gone. He resented me for not trusting him and I resented him for not being trustworthy. I told him I would trust him if he made a promise to me in the symbal of a ring. I really thought a promise ring would have made me feel he was serious about me. I did receive my promise ring. After that he did many things that questioned my trust. Like dissappearing every Friday night without so much as a phone call..claiming he fell asleep. I felt the ring was purchased to get me off his back so to speak. Not a promise at all! When we broke up he wanted the ring back. I said no so he tried to blackmail me with the sexy pctures I once gave to him. After that went down we had no contact at all for 6months. Now the blanket email shows up.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 What difference would it make in your life if you knew the reason behind his email?
Author Juliet Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 On 9/22/05, Juliet> wrote: Rec'd "Spam" sent to me from your address book. Did you forget to take me out of your address book or was there another reason for this? I dislike chain letters so please don't send them. ~j it is to bad you cannot see past the past...i only sent the email for its messege content, it made me smile, not the superstitious aspect. And you said i was the angry one...plz take care...and good luck with everything... Respectfully yours, CW
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Yup... time to move on. No sense in opening that can of worms.
Baz Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 Heartnsoul, What sort of response did you want. Why did you want a response? Was it just guilt?
Author Juliet Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 ME> ok so what your saying is you see "past" the "past"...and the blanket email was your way to break the ice and contact me? I am a little confused by this considering how volatile the break up was. Why now? Any particular reason? HIM> There is no reason other then to send you a piece of literature that may bring you a smile at the the beginning or end of your day... i know how much a smile can brighten ones hectic day... so please don't flatter yourself, i do not want to converse with you, it was "spam" remember, no place for a reply if i remember correctly?...and you are the reason for such a " volatile break up" as you described it...once again, plz take care and good luck with everything... Respectfully yours, I think he is a jerk! STILL!
Author Juliet Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 i guess i just did not know the proper way to react to the email. I heard the advice "not too respond to him" and should have listened! ... glutin for punishment here:(
Author Juliet Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 I sent him his quotes..."There is no reason other then to send you a piece of literature that may bring you a smile at the the beginning or end of your day...i know how much a smile can brighten ones hectic day" "don't flatter yourself" "you are the reason for such a " volatile break up" "i do not want to converse with you" then I said > part of you wants to make me smile and the other part still wants to attack me. Sheesh, Yeah, you take care and good luck with everything as well.
georgiagirl76 Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 Juliet It sounds like the two of you enjoy playing games. I am not sure what kind of advice you want here- I suggested not contacting him. Good Luck
Author Juliet Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 they will just cont to play mind games!
Juliet2 Posted September 29, 2005 Posted September 29, 2005 i am not the one who lashed out vindictively first kittn, in fact i sent you an email to give you smile, one you were obviously not ready to receive from me. You labeled it spam and sent me notification to cease and desist from sending you such mail and questioned my motives, my reply only explained it was not superstitious in nature, and i felt if you needed to question my motives you were not excepting of such tokens from your past, so i assumed you were still angry...not being able to see past the past...a statement you disregarded and then thoughtfully reminded me of how bad it was losing you, "volatile" as you described it. My last email was my only retaliation to your cold remarks...so plz hun don't point the finger...it hurt for both of us, i cannot even begin to explain the excruciating pain i went through pulling you back through the depths of my heart...no rebound...just time...now please, last and for all my love, please take care and good luck with all your hopes and dreams... Respectfully Yours,
littlekitty Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 WTF? So you got back into a conversation with someone whom you had to call the police on? Why on earth would you do that???? Why didn't you just move on and forget it? What does it matter what he wants? You don't want him back in your life, so your bf did the right thing. Delete and forget. Juliet... I really worry about you and your posts.... You ask advice, but don't listen.
Juliet2 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 What i wrote; You can you see past the past? I am still hearing overtures such as "kittn" and "hun" (haunting words from the past) I have experienced a lot these past few months. I know I am quite capable of letting go of my anger now. I will remain a friendly acquaintance.(not rude) and wish you well. (I can sincerely do that.) I never got the chance to read the email that was sent to me to make me smile. It was inadvertently deleted. (not through spite) I would like to read it now. You indicated no rebound just time. I thought you said you had an online Gucci Model GF who you were now seeing. I was shocked you kept me in your address book..i only wondered why? If you forgot or did so on purpose? If you ever choose to correspond with me again. Please refer to me as "Juliet" vs. (kittn or hun) The past, is indeed, the past. ~j What he wrote; then this day forward that is where i shall i keep you, in the past and i call my female friends ' hun' , it was not specific to you... and you would have loved the email...it made everyone smile i sent it to, it is a shame you never got the chance... everyone needs to smile, and i remembered how frustrated you would get some nights, so i thought of you first hun... . What I wrote; I do not think addressing me as "kittn" was proper to do if you are planning a life with a woman impatiently waiting for you 3000kms away. (Kittn was a pet name.. a secret lover's name.) If i called you "puppy" that would be just as wrong and disrespectful to my partner as well. You do not have to sleep with someone to have a rebound. You can have an emotional rebound. Your quote; "i remembered how frustrated you would get some nights, so i thought of you first hun.." You should not be thinking of me and i think deep down you know this too. Personally, I really hope things work out for you. You have been grasping onto this internet relationship for a long time now. You need to have a real one to truly move forward. ~c He wrote; interesting...i want you to smile and that means im not letting go and need to move on? ...and i take back ever trying to make you smile through my email, you are now deleted and blocked so a reply would be a waste of your time, and a long distance relationship is perfect for me! her life does not consume my own and vice versa, and my diluted internet relationship....lol.....well... we are romantic... we meet when she is in Toronto, montreal, or ottawa doing a model shoot, we get atleast one night with one another here and there, we r both full of dreams, and if one leads us apart, there will be no sacrifice for "love", we will go our seperate successful paths..so you can kiss my ass Dr.Phil! PEACE! I WAS JUST CURIOUS IF EVERYONE THINKS HE SOUNDS LIKE THE WORLDS BIGGEST A$$. I CAN'T BELEIVE I WASTED A YEAR WITH HIM. I WAS ABLE TO STAY FRIENDS WITH ALL MY EXES BUT HIM. IT FEELS UNSETTLING.
Juliet2 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 and this Russian girl lives in Vancouver and is moving to new york, she is waiting impatiently for me 3000km away, so until i am finished my studies and can join her in new york, i cannot rebound, and have not... when i said i will let her have me, i meant my heart, not my body JULIET... we have yet to feel the bliss of intimacy, everything we have built has been with communication.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 No new contacts = No new hurts Just walk away. You will gain nothing, and I mean NOTHING by continuing this.
littlekitty Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 I WAS JUST CURIOUS IF EVERYONE THINKS HE SOUNDS LIKE THE WORLDS BIGGEST A$$. I CAN'T BELEIVE I WASTED A YEAR WITH HIM. I WAS ABLE TO STAY FRIENDS WITH ALL MY EXES BUT HIM. IT FEELS UNSETTLING. Stop talking to him. Yes, he sounds like an ass, but so are you for continuing a conversation. Just stop!!!
Juliet2 Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Evaporated from my memory and diisspelled from my heart. He will be the one and only "REJECT" EX. He sucks my energy and thats a bad thing. It is my fault for corresponding.. emtional masochism at its finest!. I am my own worst enemy:(
littlekitty Posted October 5, 2005 Posted October 5, 2005 Evaporated from my memory and diisspelled from my heart. He will be the one and only "REJECT" EX. He sucks my energy and thats a bad thing. It is my fault for corresponding.. emtional masochism at its finest!. I am my own worst enemy:( No offence Juliet, but in this case yes girl... you bought it on yourself. You could have pressed delete, and got on with your life happy and with it all behind you. But you chose to reply and bring more pain and anger into your life. Try to listen to our advice... we might not always say what you want to hear, but it's usually good advice..!! And remember unfortunately we can't always have a good vibe with those we leave behind us in life.
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