Author simplygirl Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 You say it like it’s a bad thing....I’m being sarcastic. On and off is a bad sign, it’s either you’re dating or not. Block and delete. To him we were dating, but that's all he likes to do. I'm not saying netflix and sex is a bad thing, and sometimes is all you want, but the keyword here is "sometimes", not every single time we're together. And very often it wouldn't even be netflix, it would only be some tv show. He would say a lot of things he would like to do like go skiing, play tennis, meet his friends, meet his brother, go here and there. But the practical side of it? ZERO. Only tv and sex. And I'm not the kind of woman to sit down and wait for it to happen. I want to plan things and actually do them. As soon as he says something like "let's go to this place", I want the planning too. Not just the words, but the action. If he can plan weekends with his friends, I'm sure he can plan things with me too. One thing with him was also that the conversations were very superficial. The type of conversation you would have with anyone, about how was your day, work, etc. Every time I tried to go a bit deeper, he would stop talking. That's why he avoided confrontations. Because confrontations require you to go deeper. This one time we went for lunch in a restaurant (my idea), and he stayed silent with his face buried in his plate the whole time! We were not crossed or anything. It's just that he didn't make any effort to have a normal conversation with me, despite me trying. It got to a point where I felt embarassed. A lot of other people talking to each other on the tables around us, and we there in silence like some boring old couple who have nothing to tell each other anymore. Not nice. So, although he said we were serious and dating, the end result was the same as something casual (with faking the future). 1
MaleIntuition Posted March 11, 2019 Posted March 11, 2019 Interesting thread, I think you made the right call. Out of curiosity did you plan and invite him on other activities?
Mrs._December Posted March 11, 2019 Posted March 11, 2019 Seriously, I'm confused and drained with all this. And you're still with him because...why? You've only invested 5 meager months into this clown, so why are you clinging to the guy like grim death? 1
Author simplygirl Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 And you're still with him because...why? You've only invested 5 meager months into this clown, so why are you clinging to the guy like grim death? In all honesty, attachment and wishful thinking. Now turning into realization we're not a match. 1
Author simplygirl Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 Interesting thread, I think you made the right call. Out of curiosity did you plan and invite him on other activities? Oh yes I did! Invited him for lunch out on a Sunday, I also booked a stay in a nice boutique romantic hotel around nature, took him for a walk on my favorite park where I usually go, even got him a free pass to my health club spa to spend the day there with me. So yes I actually did plan and invited him on other activities. Not just words like him. 1
kendahke Posted March 11, 2019 Posted March 11, 2019 stop getting back together with him. He doesn't want to be attentive. Consistently playing with me the same game over and over again. To be fair, you are the one who agreed to get back together with him the third time you two broke up. You show up to be played with. I refer you to my tag line below:
Author simplygirl Posted March 11, 2019 Author Posted March 11, 2019 stop getting back together with him. He doesn't want to be attentive. To be fair, you are the one who agreed to get back together with him the third time you two broke up. You show up to be played with. I refer you to my tag line below: Agree. The charity work has ended. If he's so fast and easy to break up, then there's no point in coming back anyway. 1
Interstellar Posted March 11, 2019 Posted March 11, 2019 Oh yes I did! Invited him for lunch out on a Sunday, I also booked a stay in a nice boutique romantic hotel around nature, took him for a walk on my favorite park where I usually go, even got him a free pass to my health club spa to spend the day there with me. So yes I actually did plan and invited him on other activities. Not just words like him. You sound like the ideal girlfriend. 1
Author simplygirl Posted March 12, 2019 Author Posted March 12, 2019 You sound like the ideal girlfriend. Thank you. I do have a lot to give but I guess I need to be with someone who is similar and also values that. I don’t think this guy valued it at all, otherwise he wouldn’t have been so quick to break up. 1
kendahke Posted March 12, 2019 Posted March 12, 2019 Thank you. I do have a lot to give but I guess I need to be with someone who is similar and also values that. I don’t think this guy valued it at all, otherwise he wouldn’t have been so quick to break up. everyone is entitled to their preferences in a mate--and we're not always going to turn out to be someone's preference. 1
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