Is this retarded?

[almostthere]

Been dating a friend of mine for the past two weeks. Or I should say an official couple for two weeks after 5 months of friendship. I am a bartender and he was my drinking buddy. After my shift at 230am we'd hit an after hours bar with other friends from my work and get drunk and have a blast. But now that we are dating we are spending every day together instead of once or twice a week. Didnt see it before as friends because we were supposed to go out and have fun...but well...he drinks every night. He also has a very jealous exwife and I dont want to deal with that either. He lets his children (K, 1st and 2nd grade) watch movies like next friday. I am a mom and I am strict on age appropriate behavior and movies, music, games etc. So, needless to say I think after two weeks I need to end things. Mostly because he is really awesome with my children, very respectful towards me and probably the sweetest guy I have ever dated. Not to mention we have a very strong infactuation with each other. In other words...I see myself looking past these flaws and staying with him only to get close and then grow apart because there is a total difference in morals and values. So, I was thinking before things progress and we get close just to call it quits now and maintain the friendship because it's still early enough to just be the non physical drinking buddies we were. Well...which is a problem too because we have already been intimate after we started dating and I am not sure we would be able to be drunk together and keep our hands to ourselves. I get a little touchy when I am drinking. I dont know. Im in a mess. All I do know is there is probably a 99.9% chance we arent going to last through the next few months. So it only makes sense to me to quit while I'm ahead so we can still be friends without any hard feelings. Ok...so is the retarded?

[tanbark813]

I don't think it's retarded but I would bet that you won't be able to maintain a friendship if he still wants to see you romantically. If you are going to try a friendship with him, and assuming he's willing to give it a shot, then at least make sure you're no longer flirtatious or touchy-feely with him at all, otherwise you'll come off as a tease.

[heartnsoul]

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and are thinking long term. Trust your gut instinct because it's more than likely dead on correct. Good luck on the transition back to friends.