What Should I do?

[NickInMass007]

OK, I am a 24 year old man recently discharged from the army and looking to get my life on track. I was dating what seemed like a perfectly fine girl and my life seemed generally sound. However, I work at a gym and one day I noticed a new girl who came in. We quickly became friends and had many things in common. I stared to get feelings for her and wanted to pursue relations outside of the gym. I had always wondered why a girl like her was talking to me, not that I am bad looking or anything, but I figured that a girl like her would have been hitched with some guy by now in her life. Well, wouldn't you know, she was married. I had never known this since she never wore a ring and never spoke about a husband/marriage. We had agreed that it was no big deal and we could still be friends, right? Needless to say, she was having marital difficulties in the sense that her and her husband had generally nothing in common except for the fact that they went to church together. As luck would have it, our relationship has grown to a bit more than friends. We spend every waking minuter we can together for the last 7 months and even talk about our "future". At one point in our relationship though, he found out about us and took it pretty harshly exclaiming it was his fault and he should have paid attention to her more. After this bump in the road she agreed never to see or speak to me again, which lasted exactly 4 hours. He, however, has changed. He quit drinking for the most part and has been trying to be the husband he should have been a year ago. Her and I still spend all the time we can together, but recently she has been telling me that she is unsure if she wants to leave him, but definately does not want to lose me. My question to the forum is what should I do? Before putting your two cents in, understand that we do not look at our relationship as an affair at all, we love eachother and are very serious. Also know that although he has become a "better" husband, he still doesn't condone anything she does and wishes she would just "obey" his every wish. Now if you knew this girl you would understand that she is very free spirited and has the kindest soul and best intentions. Many a night has been spent with her crying on my shoulder asking how she allowed herself to get into this situation and how immoral of an act it is, but how could something so bad feel so right? I really do believe we were meant for eachother and should be together, but I am not going to try to sabotage her marriage or force her to make rash decisions. I am stuck in a bind. Do I stay with her and hoope that someday she leaves him for me or do I cut my losses and live the rest of my days feeling like I gave up my soul mate? Please help.