wreck Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 Hi there, I've been searching for forums like this all day just trying to find some other people to talk to for a comfort. My girlfriend of 2 years left me on saturday and i'm finding it very hard to cope. For a long time we didn't have a very happy relatinoship but we were still trying i put everything i could into it, we had a massive row on saturday and then she left and is determined this is the end and i'ts breaking my heart she's even turned round a minute a go and text me saying "you have to get a grip and get over this SOON!!" then another one sayin "you have to accept this is over i'm sorry". She moved out of our shared house saturday but only with a bag of clothes so i'm sat around all her stuff still thinking believing that she will come home and it's just killing me. I've been heartbroken before i know it gets better in time but damn when you don't want them to leave and you still love t hem and find out they don't love you anymore it's mortifying!!!!!! :''''( x
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 My girlfriend of 2 years left me on saturday and i'm finding it very hard to cope. This is perfectly normal. she's even turned round a minute a go and text me saying "you have to get a grip and get over this SOON!!" This isn't. Not at all sympathetic. And now she has dumped you, it's none of her f**king business how you run your heart and your life. If you want to cry for a month then party wildly for another, she has no say. She chose to make you independent, she must live with the consequences of her actions. So, if you bother to reply at all, tell her to butt out. It's your life now. so i'm sat around all her stuff still thinking believing that she will come home and it's just killing me. I've been heartbroken before i know it gets better in time but damn when you don't want them to leave and you still love t hem and find out they don't love you anymore it's mortifying!!!!!! Word. My advice? No contact, except to make her take her stuff soon. Be emotionally distant and strong.
Author wreck Posted September 20, 2005 Author Posted September 20, 2005 Thanks it's just nice to hear other people say it even know i know what i should be doing. She keeps texting me asking me things adn all i want to do is tell her to get f***ed but then there's the worry if her getting angry which makes it even worse. I just wish there was a pill to take all the pain away :''( xxxxxxx
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 Thanks it's just nice to hear other people say it even know i know what i should be doing. My pleasure but then there's the worry if her getting angry which makes it even worse. Interesting point for meditation: you should ask yourself why you worry about her anger. Provided you're not being deliberately mean, her anger is her problem. Even in a relationship, it's healthy for guys to confront and contradict their girls from time to time. I just wish there was a pill to take all the pain away If there were, I'd be express mailing an entire pack of them to you right now...
Author wreck Posted September 20, 2005 Author Posted September 20, 2005 Interesting point for meditation: you should ask yourself why you worry about her anger. Provided you're not being deliberately mean, her anger is her problem. Even in a relationship, it's healthy for guys to confront and contradict their girls from time to time. Hmm i'm not sure if you guys on this site really are cool with this but i'm a girl too x
Author wreck Posted September 20, 2005 Author Posted September 20, 2005 Also the reason i worry about her anger is we spent the last god knows how many months arguing getting angry etc etc i know there realistically isn't a chance for us ever to get back together but if there is or even a chance for us to be friends EVENTUALLY i don't want to fight with her now then you just loose everything you ever had with that person x even though i guess with a break up you've already lost all that xxxxx
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 Hmm i'm not sure if you guys on this site really are cool with this but i'm a girl too x I'm perfectly cool with this. Thanks for being patient with me - I'm rushing around at work answering these mails between doing other things
Author wreck Posted September 20, 2005 Author Posted September 20, 2005 it's ok i'm also at work! are you in the uk or us?
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 it's ok i'm also at work! are you in the uk or us? Neither.... I'm across the channel. My mum is English though. I guess you're in the UK?
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