crispytoast Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 (edited) I have a close lady friend who has a boyfriend. She's an old friend of mine and we discovered that we moved across the country to the same place around the same time, super randomly. We hang out a fair amount at school and we grab beers sometimes when our schedules allow. Something I've noticed is that if a woman is flirty to me while we are hanging out and I reciprocate, or if i talk about some girl that I met that I an attracted to, she seems like maybe she is a little annoyed. I don't feel like it's wrong for me to do these things and I actually didn't used to but I wanted to sort of set a boundary that we are friends and that I am not trying to work game on her or anything, especially because long before her boyfriend we were definitely flirty with each other. It sort of trips me out.. shouldn't she be happy or encouraging when I have love interests? Edited March 6, 2019 by crispytoast
d0nnivain Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 It's a fine line. I think you are walking it well. When with an opposite sex buddy I think it's an excellent boundary reminder to speak about crushes you may have so the buddy firmly understands their place in your life: a friend. Anybody who gets miffed at that may have had improper designs on you so their behavior is telling. 1
elaine567 Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 If a woman is flirty and is getting annoyed about your love interests, then she is probably not really your friend is she? She has other designs on you and if you are not interested then best to let her go and not hang out with her and lead her on... Of course if you are boasting about your conquests or boring her with your exploits, then she may be your friend but is just not interested in hearing about all the gory details. 1
smackie9 Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 She's monkey branching. If you want to set boundaries, stop flirting with her.
Author crispytoast Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 I don't flirt with her anymore. A few months ago when we were having drinks, she opened up that her man was having an emotional affair. We toyed with the idea of fooling around and came pretty close to breaking some boundaries. Sober the next day, we were both very grateful that we didn't do anything. Since then we've both kept it very strictly platonic.
kendahke Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 I have a close lady friend who has a boyfriend. She's an old friend of mine and we discovered that we moved across the country to the same place around the same time, super randomly. We hang out a fair amount at school and we grab beers sometimes when our schedules allow. Something I've noticed is that if a woman is flirty to me while we are hanging out and I reciprocate, or if i talk about some girl that I met that I an attracted to, she seems like maybe she is a little annoyed. I don't feel like it's wrong for me to do these things and I actually didn't used to but I wanted to sort of set a boundary that we are friends and that I am not trying to work game on her or anything, especially because long before her boyfriend we were definitely flirty with each other. It sort of trips me out.. shouldn't she be happy or encouraging when I have love interests? Ignore her annoyance. She's got no grounds for being annoyed outside of competitive jealousy. 1
alphamale Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 Dude this is why we are not friends with chicks 1
Author crispytoast Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 I mean it doesn't hugely bother me, she doesn't try to stop me from flirting or exploring love interests. Sure it would be cool if she'd toss in a good word like "yeah this guy is a legit dude" but I'm not hurting without it. I'd rather be around her than men who get upset if a girl they like is into me, or get jealous when I do better at something they try to excel at.
Lotsgoingon Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 You should ask her about this ... The most obvious answer ... is that dating or not, she's interested in you. Happens all the time ...sometimes the dating person is unaware of how attracted they are to a "friend." Sometimes they're aware. There is no other answer other than that she is getting jealous ... and you only get jealous when you want the attention of the other person ... in this case--You!!! I'm not saying she want to break up with bf ... I'm just saying she is drawn to you.
alphamale Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 sounds like you're quite the ladies man crispytoast 1
Author crispytoast Posted March 7, 2019 Author Posted March 7, 2019 sounds like you're quite the ladies man crispytoast I can't tell if you're being facetious.
alphamale Posted March 7, 2019 Posted March 7, 2019 I can't tell if you're being facetious. a bit of both crispytoast 1
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