Attraction Comes In Degrees

[Robert01]

It is not a matter of either being attracted to someone or not. Attraction comes in different levels. The interest level scale is very real. Interest level is basically the temperature of romantic feelings/attraction a person has for someone else.

 

It is a percentage and that number can either go up or down depending on how many things one's partner is doing right or wrong. Nobody is perfect. There is no man on this earth who does all the right things in the relationship 365 days a year and no woman does all the right things either. That's why interest level is not at a perfect score of 100% but it can realistically get as high as 95%.

 

One woman has 70% interest level in her boyfriend and another woman has 85% interest level and another one has 95% interest level.

 

If you don't believe that attraction comes in different levels then let me give an example. Say a couple has been dating for 3 years and they are living together. The boyfriend procrastinates doing some chores around the house. Is that a turn off to his girlfriend? Yes. Any form of laziness is a turn off. Is she going to dump him? Depends on how often he procrastinates doing chores. We all have lazy days occassionally. As long as he does not make a habit of it and he makes this mistake only once or twice a year and he does everything else right in her eyes then she's probably going to stay with him, still want sex with him, still be in love with him with 90% interest level. She may take 3 or 4 points off her interest level for the once or twice a year procrastination on fixing a squeaky fence in the yard, etc.

 

So there's an example. Getting turned off happens in different degrees depending on the offense and how often it is committed. Arguing lowers interest level too but it depends on how often. Happy couples argue 2-3 times a year and resolve it in less than 24 hours. That's 1 argument every 4-6 months. I could live with that.

Edited March 5, 2019 by Robert01

[Fair]

I agree with this. There are degrees of attraction just like there are degrees of everything else. And it's why there's always trouble in relationships because attraction rarely occurs between two people to the same degree. If people feel ANY degree of attraction they'll date the person just so as not to be alone, which is wrong. Unless someone interests you enough to sustain it for a long while, you should stay single.

 

But what's the question?

[Robert01]

Yes and more often than not one partner has the higher interest level than the other partner. More often than not the man has the higher interest level.

[MetallicHue]

So there's an example. Getting turned off happens in different degrees depending on the offense and how often it is committed. Arguing lowers interest level too but it depends on how often. Happy couples argue 2-3 times a year and resolve it in less than 24 hours. That's 1 argument every 4-6 months. I could live with that.

 

I agree with your general comments but take issue with this. I think you can be a happy couple and argue more frequently. Frankly I love a good argument get the blood boiling. As long as you can reconcile it I think it’s all good.

[chillii]

Yes and more often than not one partner has the higher interest level than the other partner. More often than not the man has the higher interest level.

 

 

l don't agree with this in the slightest and if you wanna go read a few 1000 posts from girls out there having troubles well. The rest is just one more person among the other 1000s going onto the internet grandstanding and " TELLING" people how it is, blogging , websites, 90% of them are just anyone's sitting in their bedroom with no damn clue or experience or quals. 1/2 of them turn out to be 18 -20 yr olds that can't even get a gf.

So you know , suggesting something is fine , a conversation is fine, but if your gonna go "telling" people how they think and how it all works for everyone as if they're all out of the same box and your some kind of expert well, yaknow.

l'd need to hear about people such as yourself in detail first before l took any notice of any of it. Usually 90% of their crap and ideas are so far off the mark it's a wonder they even get in the damn gate, l see you've put in a whole 7posts. That seems to be another common theme with this stuff, so feel free to fill us all in.

Your view and experience isn't everyone's.

Edited March 5, 2019 by chillii

[chillii]

Oh brother , l just saw one of his other posts, apparently women are influenced by satin if they wanna sleep with him'

 

 

l rest my case people.

[crispytoast]

Who isn't influenced by satin? It's quite a kinesthetically pleasing fabric.

[Robert01]

l don't agree with this in the slightest and if you wanna go read a few 1000 posts from girls out there having troubles well. The rest is just one more person among the other 1000s going onto the internet grandstanding and " TELLING" people how it is, blogging , websites, 90% of them are just anyone's sitting in their bedroom with no damn clue or experience or quals. 1/2 of them turn out to be 18 -20 yr olds that can't even get a gf.

So you know , suggesting something is fine , a conversation is fine, but if your gonna go "telling" people how they think and how it all works for everyone as if they're all out of the same box and your some kind of expert well, yaknow.

l'd need to hear about people such as yourself in detail first before l took any notice of any of it. Usually 90% of their crap and ideas are so far off the mark it's a wonder they even get in the damn gate, l see you've put in a whole 7posts. That seems to be another common theme with this stuff, so feel free to fill us all in.

Your view and experience isn't everyone's.

 

 

 

Statistically women file for divorce 66% of the time. So it does not take a rocket scientist to figure out that women have the lower interest level more often. Men want sex more often than women too.

[Interstellar]

Or instead of arguing, some couples talk things out and reach a compromise.

 

Yes, helping around the house is certainly an aphrodisiac for wives and girlfriends.

 

And whoever has the lower interest level has much less to lose in the relationship.

 

I think I’ve read the stuff you’ve written from some book somewhere...

Edited March 5, 2019 by Interstellar