kuzak Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 Hello I am asking here because i am in a situation that i just cant figure ou what to do. And i need some advice and opinion from more people. There is this girl. She lives in an other city. We met online, kept writing. Then i was in her town for business. I have to travel there every month maybe 1-3times to work and staying for couple of days. So we met a few times and we had a great time. Back there we were just friends. She is also told me that she is not looking for relationship and i wasnt either. That was in january this year. But the last time we met in january. We got more close. Hold hands, hugged and i kissed her (slight kiss). I started to feel something for her. And i also felt like she also do. In february i asked her if she is dating someone, because i wanted to send her some flowers for valentinesday. Then she told me, that she has been seeing someone as a friend, but he confessed to her that he likes her. She answered that she is not sure, because she has feelings for me. I was really happy to know that she has feelings for me (also sad that she was seeing someone else but she is single, so...). I talked and skyped a lot, talking about this situation. I told her that i really like her. She likes me too. And we agreed to meet and talk about it. We wanted to travel together on 1st march and talk about it. The time goes by, we kept in touch everyday. I was waiting for march to come so we can meet and talk about us. I was hoping that she will make her mind and start a relationship with me. But she kept telling me about this other guy. She is only meeting him from january (maybe) and when she told him that she is thinking about an other guy (me) he told her that she is young and she has time and she can try what she wants and that he will be waiting for her. He also keeps going to her place (she is living in a shared place, not coming inside, knocking on the house door and asking to meet). Also going to her university to pick her up and talk to her. He is really obsessed with her and she told me that he says that he loves her. She also told him about our trip. We will be 3 days together. Sleeping at the same place. And he was cool with it. He said that he will wait for her. Because of this guy she cant make her mind. She tells me that she feels how he loves her (he said that he loves her). She also told me that she feels that he needs her. That he has no one and that he would be lonely without her. I told her, lets meet on 1st march and see. we met, we had a great time. We got intimate. i could feel that she really enjoys my company and that she really have feelings for me. It was a great time. On 3rd march she went back to her city and i too. At the same day, that guy comes to her place, knocked and asked to meet and talk. She talked to him. I called her later to ask if she is alright and she told me yeah and also confessed me that he came and they talked for a while. She told him several times not to come to her place or university but he keeps doing it. She always tells me that she cant make her mind. Me or him. She likes me and she said many things she likes about me. The only thing she said about him is that she can feel that he really loves her and somehow she dont want to break his heart (despite she already done with telling him that she likes someone else) today she promised me that she will take her time and clear her mind. Later she called me and told me that she is taking him. I was really shocked. Because what he have a true feelings between each others. Its not lying (i had many relationships and i can tell the different if a girl is saying her true feelings or not). Also without saying i can feel it. I explained her the situation and begged her to rething it. And thats what she is doing. She will rethink it until tomorrow. But i couldnt understand why she choose him. She only says that he says that he loves her, something i didnt say. And she really feels that he means it and that he cant live without her. I told her that he is playing around. That he is just trying to get her (we men dont really like to loose to an other men). How can someone like someone is such a short time by meeting, maybe 3 times a week and just talking (nothing more happened). How can he feel something like this and she doesnt? Also, he keeps coming to her place and university to talk to her. What do you think? Does he really mean it? Do you think what he is doing is right? Am i right? I dont want to loose her. But also despite i really like her. I wouldnt just go to her place or university and try to talk to her. I would respect her space.Also i would be really destroyed if i confess to her and she tells me she likes an other guy. But he tells her he will be waiting for her and its like he dont care that we slept together for 3 days. Plz tell me. Who do you think likes her. Is it me or him?
MetallicHue Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 He could be playing around. More could have happened than you thought. Regardless she picked him so it’s a mute point. Shaking the dust off your feet would be my suggestion.
I'veseenbetterlol Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 Hello today she promised me that she will take her time and clear her mind. Later she called me and told me that she is taking him. I was really shocked. Because what he have a true feelings between each others. Its not lying (i had many relationships and i can tell the different if a girl is saying her true feelings or not). Also without saying i can feel it. I explained her the situation and begged her to rething it. And thats what she is doing. She will rethink it until tomorrow. But i couldnt understand why she choose him. She only says that he says that he loves her, something i didnt say. And she really feels that he means it and that he cant live without her. I told her that he is playing around. That he is just trying to get her (we men dont really like to loose to an other men). How can someone like someone is such a short time by meeting, maybe 3 times a week and just talking (nothing more happened). How can he feel something like this and she doesnt? Also, he keeps coming to her place and university to talk to her. What do you think? Does he really mean it? Do you think what he is doing is right? Am i right? I dont want to loose her. But also despite i really like her. I wouldnt just go to her place or university and try to talk to her. I would respect her space.Also i would be really destroyed if i confess to her and she tells me she likes an other guy. But he tells her he will be waiting for her and its like he dont care that we slept together for 3 days. Plz tell me. Who do you think likes her. Is it me or him? Make her mind up and leave. Do you really want to play second fiddle? If their romance fizzes out, she will only come to you cause she doesn't want to be alone. You need someone who really likes you. Also sounds like she wants to show you how desirable she is. I multi dated, but I never told any guys that another guy liked me. Once I connected w/my partner, I told the other guys I wasn't interested. If she doesn't like you that much to begin w/, you will always be chasing her. The other guy seems to be playing the same game. Think more of yourself and walk away. You deserve better.
Author kuzak Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 He could be playing around. More could have happened than you thought. Regardless she picked him so it’s a mute point. Shaking the dust off your feet would be my suggestion. Thx for your answer. No i am sure that nothing more happened. We talk a lot and also deep. I talked yesterday and asked her to rethink and thats what she is doing now. I hope she can change her mind... but i dont have much hope. Its so painful
Author kuzak Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 Make her mind up and leave. Do you really want to play second fiddle? If their romance fizzes out, she will only come to you cause she doesn't want to be alone. You need someone who really likes you. Also sounds like she wants to show you how desirable she is. I multi dated, but I never told any guys that another guy liked me. Once I connected w/my partner, I told the other guys I wasn't interested. If she doesn't like you that much to begin w/, you will always be chasing her. The other guy seems to be playing the same game. Think more of yourself and walk away. You deserve better. I definitely dont wanna be the second choice. I am waiting for her reply today but i dont have much hope. Its clearly me or him. There is no maybe later if it didnt turn out with the other guy. I just cant understand why do she call me babe and that she likes me and then this.... this is so unfair and painful
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