Winger Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 Hey everyone, My girlfriend of 4 years broke it off a little over a month ago, but we still remained quite close. During the moving out process we spent a lot of time together, and remained physical. It started to tear me apart inside because I was hoping for us to get back together - but she is too confused at the moment...about a lot of things. She is a Christian and she wants to focus on reconnecting with her faith - which is understandable. I'd rather get dumped for something like that than another guy anyday. BUT - since she still loves me and I still love her, our feelings were leading to things that go against the values she wants to start living by (no sex etc.) So - due to the fact that neither of us were moving on and the actual breakup wasn't happening, she decided to go NC with me. I've broken it a few times because I'm worried that we'll never have a friendship again - and that is ALL I want at this point. If she doesn't come back to me romantically, I still want a friendship because she is very important to me and I just like her company. I asked her if she wants to be friends and she says that when she has grieved and healed, she will call and see where I'm at, and if I have moved forward as well, we will be friends. Do you think that she is telling me what I want to hear or that she actually does want to be friends? She has also told me on numerous occasions that she is optimistic about the possibility of a romantic relationship once we have sorted out our personal issues...but also to treat this breakup as though it's permanent or else we'll never move forward. I think she is being genuine, but my insecure side is feeling like this girl just wants me out of her life all together...even as friends.
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 All you can do is let her know you respect her wishes on the matter, and walk away from her. Try to focus on the part where she said that the 'breakup is permanent' and not so much on 'possibility of a future' part. I expect the first is the truth, and the second is your insincere consolation prize for such a painful truth.
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