Britney25 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 So this guy I'm flirting with has a girlfriend that I didnt know about until I checked out his social media. I'm shocked because he wants to hook up and sends me steamy photos. Why would he want to cheat? Why is he looking to a hook up?
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 What do you mean why? He wants to be with other women because he likes the excitement of variety but he likes being able to lie & say he has a GF. He's a bad guy. What else do you need to know? 3
ExpatInItaly Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Where did you meet this guy? It's likely not the first time he's done this, and you might not be the only girl he's trying to fool around with. He sounds selfish and immature, hence why he does this - he's thinking only of himself and excitement of having a few ladies on his roster. He's showing you he's not a good guy. Don't let him make you his plaything. 1
BaileyB Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Exactly, what do yo pu mean why? I would think that you have enough information now to know that this guy is bad news and to tell him where he can go... no need to spend another moment of your time thinking about him. Block!
Mrs._December Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 So this guy I'm flirting with has a girlfriend that I didnt know about until I checked out his social media. I'm shocked because he wants to hook up and sends me steamy photos. Why would he want to cheat? Why is he looking to a hook up? You're shocked??? You're kidding right? There are tons of men (and women) out there who are looking for any opportunity they can get away with while supposedly being in a 'committed' relationship. And if you hook up with this low life, you'll simply be another foolish woman he's managed to use while playing 'devoted boyfriend' to his girlfriend. I wouldn't give this loser the time of day. 2
introverted1 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Why? Because he thinks he can. Because he wants sex. Because you've expressed interest. Because he's dishonest. Do you want to be a side piece? 3
kendahke Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 So this guy I'm flirting with has a girlfriend that I didnt know about until I checked out his social media. I'm shocked because he wants to hook up and sends me steamy photos. So, when you checked his social media and found out he had a girlfriend, you blocked him, right? Why would he want to cheat? Why is he looking to a hook up? because he's a cheater and he thinks you're one, too, since you're flirting with him. If you were his girlfriend, what would you want us to tell this chick flirting with her boyfriend? 1
Andy_K Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 What would you like to hear? That he's so attracted to you he might want to ditch his girlfriend for you? There are two possibilities 1) Either he is looking just for sex and intends to keep his girlfriend, in which case he's an ass for doing so, and if you continue to engage with him then you're just as bad. 2) He is unhappy in his relationship and is looking to upgrade, in which case you can look forward to being the next girl he cheats on. Either way, same result. He's got poor moral character and you should steer clear. 2
crispytoast Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) They could be polyamorous. You could ask him about his girlfriend and see what he says. Edited March 4, 2019 by crispytoast 1
stillafool Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Ha! You should see what beautiful women get away with. 3
preraph Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 A whole lot of guys do this very thing. That's because a lot of them are not looking for "the one" but for as many as possible. And you're using the "hookup" word, so you surely know that's just sex and not a date, so if you're willing to "hook up" you can't expect the guys to be looking for one woman to date. They're just doing sex. 1
edgygirl Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Fwd the steamy photos to his GF... Kidding. But - hell to the no! Block him. 1
Happy Lemming Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Are the photos on social media, date stamped?? How do you know that they are current photos?? They could be old/stale photos that he never got around to taking down and the person in them could be an ex... 1
Author Britney25 Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 I know they are current because I've seen her social media and she posted 2 weeks ago she loves him. I know he just wants sex but he is so freaking hot and he thinks I dont know about his girlfriend. Maybe I want some fun. Why not? Not my fault he wants to cheat on her.
Happy Lemming Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 I know he just wants sex but he is so freaking hot and he thinks I dont know about his girlfriend. Maybe I want some fun. Why not? Not my fault he wants to cheat on her. Life is short, have fun... In the end, you may be better in bed and he may decide to dump her and date you. He may also be monkey-branching, trying to secure a new girlfriend before dumping the present one. It wasn't called "monkey-branching" when I did it, but in my youth I would try to have the next woman lined up before dumping the present one. 1
crispytoast Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 I know they are current because I've seen her social media and she posted 2 weeks ago she loves him. I know he just wants sex but he is so freaking hot and he thinks I dont know about his girlfriend. Maybe I want some fun. Why not? Not my fault he wants to cheat on her. If you ask if he's poly and he's trying to play, then he will just say yes even if he's not. Then you are absolved of guilt. After all, he lied to you, right?
desperatelyseeking Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 i was in the exact same situation really hot guy ... told me they broke up and actually i wouldnt do what i did. what i did was text his girlfriend and she confirmed theyre a couple but to be honest i think their stale and im sorry i missed out on dating this guy live and learn lol
desperatelyseeking Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 Are the photos on social media, date stamped?? How do you know that they are current photos?? They could be old/stale photos that he never got around to taking down and the person in them could be an ex... Happy Lemming How do I completely stop thinking what if my ex gets married? I am trying to prepare myself. I need to be a lot more thick skinned. How?
rightondude Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 tell him you saw the pics of him and GF and you want a threesome. 1
Happy Lemming Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 I need to be a lot more thick skinned. How? A very wise older Hindu man once told me "Control the controllables" meaning if you can't control it, why waste your energy worrying about it. Can you control what your ex does... of course not, so don't worry about it and don't waste your energy thinking about it. That only causes angst, and none of us need that. Can I control if or when my long term girlfriend dumps me, of course not. So I'll enjoy each day as it is given to me and enjoy her as long as she is in my world. I usually don't quote the bible, but this one seems appropriate. "Tomorrow is promised to no one" - Proverbs 27:1 2
TheFinalWord Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 I know they are current because I've seen her social media and she posted 2 weeks ago she loves him. I know he just wants sex but he is so freaking hot and he thinks I dont know about his girlfriend. Maybe I want some fun. Why not? Not my fault he wants to cheat on her. Just know, if you become that kind of person that can participate in an affair and feel nothing, and in fact seem to enjoy it, you're going into a place where you risk losing your morality. It is your fault. It takes two to tango. You have the information you need to make the right choice. You're going into this knowing full well that commitment means nothing to him, and in principal, nothing to you either. 5
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