desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Hey Feeling uncomfortable when you're on camera talking to long distance boyfriend? Thoughts Please Anyone else in the same boat?
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 Ha really helpful not being sarcastic it actually was never tried talking online before now i guess my problem is the guy is too hot/out of my league
Grey40 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Ha really helpful not being sarcastic it actually was never tried talking online before now i guess my problem is the guy is too hot/out of my league Yeah, I mean if that's how you feel, then you're always going to feel that you're inadequate no matter what. Just do your best to look good or try to not worry about it so much. If it really gets to you, you might have to find guys who you feel are more equal to your level. 2
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 Yeah, I mean if that's how you feel, then you're always going to feel that you're inadequate no matter what. Just do your best to look good or try to not worry about it so much. If it really gets to you, you might have to find guys who you feel are more equal to your level. Hmm I have only dated one unattractive man. Realistically the only man that wanted a relationship. The others were less committed. Perhaps you have a point.
Grey40 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Hmm I have only dated one unattractive man. Realistically the only man that wanted a relationship. The others were less committed. Perhaps you have a point. I mean I don't know what you look like, but if you feel that a guy is way better looking than you, and has options...if he doesn't view you as equal to him in either attractiveness or personality, then he's not going to "commit" because he's looking for something better. Nothing wrong with going for what you want, but you have to be realistic in your expectations.
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 I mean I don't know what you look like, but if you feel that a guy is way better looking than you, and has options...if he doesn't view you as equal to him in either attractiveness or personality, then he's not going to "commit" because he's looking for something better. Nothing wrong with going for what you want, but you have to be realistic in your expectations. Right. Based on comments in previous relationships I am attractive. I really did not feel comfortable talking to the guy tonight in my bedroom without hair or makeup even mascara. It was too soon. I really honest to God do not know if I am really ugly or if it is in my mind. How can I find out? I dont want to find out lol
Grey40 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Right. Based on comments in previous relationships I am attractive. I really did not feel comfortable talking to the guy tonight in my bedroom without hair or makeup even mascara. It was too soon. I really honest to God do not know if I am really ugly or if it is in my mind. How can I find out? I dont want to find out lol If he wasn't attracted to you at all, he wouldn't keep bothering to skype or videochat you. I wouldn't waste my time doing that with someone I had no sexual interest in. 1
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 If he wasn't attracted to you at all, he wouldn't keep bothering to skype or videochat you. I wouldn't waste my time doing that with someone I had no sexual interest in. Right... I guess I think I'm a loser. Lol men think Im hot I get it all the time. It is so not what I think. I want to have children though so now this stuff really matters because I have no idea how to hold on but I need to in order to become a mother. I know how this sounds but it is realistic. I'm in my thirties.
chillii Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Don't worry l was involved long distance for a few yrs and hated skyping or anything too. Dunno why l'm not a bad looking guy but on any phone or computer cam l come out looking like a torpedo faced pit bull. 1
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 Don't worry l was involved long distance for a few yrs and hated skyping or anything too. Dunno why l'm not a bad looking guy but on any phone or computer cam l come out looking like a torpedo faced pit bull. me too lol i guess he knew that i felt that way too and that was why it was so Awful... i hate that he knew i lacked confidence its not the end of the world though lol Ill just save up for surgery, extensions, i hate camers like who looks good on them? lol 1
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 There is a reason TV shows are rehearsed & produced -- so everybody looks their best. Since this is an LDR & the webcam is a lot of what you have, you need to do a better job setting the stage. Do your hair & makeup. Talk from the living room, not your bed room. Pick a setting that makes you feel comfortable & confident. You are in control here. 1
Andy_K Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 I really honest to God do not know if I am really ugly or if it is in my mind. How can I find out? Photofeeler or some similar service. Or link to a picture of yourself somewhere and ask for feedback here.
olivetree Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 What is the exact situation? Have you actually met? Are you in a relationship? You ask a hypothetical question about a "boyfriend" but then in your next post it sounds like some guy you've never met that you're webcamming with. In any case, if you are in your thirties and want children, I wouldn't waste your time webcamming in an LDR/potential LDR.
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 What is the exact situation? Have you actually met? Are you in a relationship? You ask a hypothetical question about a "boyfriend" but then in your next post it sounds like some guy you've never met that you're webcamming with. In any case, if you are in your thirties and want children, I wouldn't waste your time webcamming in an LDR/potential LDR. I’m not in a relationship I never met the guy but seven been chatting since last summer he’s my friends friend.
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 What is the exact situation? Have you actually met? Are you in a relationship? You ask a hypothetical question about a "boyfriend" but then in your next post it sounds like some guy you've never met that you're webcamming with. In any case, if you are in your thirties and want children, I wouldn't waste your time webcamming in an LDR/potential LDR. Right Ok People New Thread: I have been unceremoniously dumped by my ex and since that I am like literally I have no clue about guys they all want me fancy me have feelings for me but the word relationship doesnt come up I need your help steps to getting a boyfriend yes as I said Im in my thirties I know...be kind lol 1
olivetree Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Right Ok People New Thread: I have been unceremoniously dumped by my ex and since that I am like literally I have no clue about guys they all want me fancy me have feelings for me but the word relationship doesnt come up I need your help steps to getting a boyfriend yes as I said Im in my thirties I know...be kind lol Are you emotionally ready to date or still hurting over the ex?
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 Are you emotionally ready to date or still hurting over the ex? I'm ready to date. I'm curious now and I think with the ex I made like all the mistakes... brought up kids marriage I was joking I joke a lot but now I am well I am ready to date. I've a date this weekend but to be honest I dont think Ill fancy the guy the thing about my ex is his looks and I kind of tried to pick someone that looks like him but I dunno in the photos this guy is tall and full lips but he doesn't have the attractiveness of my ex...but I am open minded. Whats your status readers??
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 I'm ready to date. I'm curious now and I think with the ex I made like all the mistakes... brought up kids marriage I was joking I joke a lot but now I am well I am ready to date. I've a date this weekend but to be honest I dont think Ill fancy the guy the thing about my ex is his looks and I kind of tried to pick someone that looks like him but I dunno in the photos this guy is tall and full lips but he doesn't have the attractiveness of my ex...but I am open minded. Whats your status readers?? well tonight was an interesting experience anyone online to chat??
d0nnivain Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 If you want a relationship, put down the computer & meet people in real life.
Author desperatelyseeking Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 If you want a relationship, put down the computer & meet people in real life. Lol says your man online I do meet people but guys don't ask me out they tell me I am pretty etc ah I dunno whats happening I think Im over it now I just wanted to have kids but maybe Ill just get a puppy whats so bloody great about a man anyway lol 1
chillii Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 I'm ready to date. I'm curious now and I think with the ex I made like all the mistakes... brought up kids marriage I was joking I joke a lot but now I am well I am ready to date. I've a date this weekend but to be honest I dont think Ill fancy the guy the thing about my ex is his looks and I kind of tried to pick someone that looks like him but I dunno in the photos this guy is tall and full lips but he doesn't have the attractiveness of my ex...but I am open minded. Whats your status readers?? WTH are you doing going on a date this wkend when you;ve just broken up yesterday ?
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