Interact The Same Way With All Women

[Tommy85]

To play it safe I think it is best to interact the same way with all women whether I have low interest level or high interest level in them.

 

So what does that mean? I interact with all of them as if I have low interest level. This is not about game playing. It is about doing what is necessary to protect myself.

 

I cannot control my high interest level but I can control how much I reveal. I believe in making decisions in life based on the odds. When I go out on a date the odds are I'm going to have a higher interest level than the woman. More often than not men fall in love faster than women. Men want to be the exclusive boyfriend faster than women. Men defintely want sex much sooner than women do. I'm not generalizing. I am speaking in the context of the odds.

 

Just like the odds are I won't win the lottery so it would be stupid to put down 50 bucks on lottery tickets. It would also be stupid of me to not plan for a short 1st date like 30-35 minutes.

 

In summary interact with all women the same as any woman I have low interest level in.

[smackie9]

Not true not true and uh ya not true.

[Garcon1986]

Welcome to LS!

 

Protecting yourself is fine. If you want to do a couple of things the same way each time - let them be searching for common ground, looking for something to laugh about, and figuring out what makes her comfortable and want to be around you more. Confidence in how you present yourself is a must. The precise answers to these questions vary from woman to woman. That's key.

[smackie9]

I agree if you are confident, no one loses. If you take a look, there are a lot of threads by woman wanting exclusivity pretty quickly too. It's a crapshoot.

[Tommy85]

I agree if you are confident, no one loses. If you take a look, there are a lot of threads by woman wanting exclusivity pretty quickly too. It's a crapshoot.

 

Confidence is overrated. Define what you mean by confidence.

 

Everyone talks about confidence but there's not much talk about challenge.

[Grey40]

No idea what you're talking about. Everything you said is generalizing and there wasn't a reason to waste an entire thread on it. You want us to pat you on the back and say good job? I dont get it.

[Tommy85]

No idea what you're talking about. Everything you said is generalizing and there wasn't a reason to waste an entire thread on it. You want us to pat you on the back and say good job? I dont get it.

 

You obviously did not read the entire thread. You only heard what you wanted to hear. This is not generalizing. It is about playing the odds. If you feel ok about going against the odds then it is no skin off my back. I personally prefer to make a decision based on the odds of a certain outcome for my own peace of mind.

 

It is not a generalization to say that we probably won't win the lottery because the odds are we won't.

[Curiousroxy86]

I think there is wisdom in operating the same way whether you really like someone or don't in terms of sticking to your boundaries and standards and using logic because in dating when we like someone logic goes out the window, you have a like bias, and many don't stick to standards which is why you get women and men complaining about someone they like/love who isn't good for them.

 

However it does matter if the way you choose to operate will get you the desired results you want. Will how you operate get you the type of partner you want to not only attract but keep long term (if that's even a desire) and get rid of people who you shouldn't be with? Or would it get you people you don't want or shouldn't be with and repel the type of partner you want? And even if you do get them in the short term will it be a good relationship in the long term?

 

People who choose a more negative approach to their solution in how they deal with the opposite sex don't count how their new choice will effect relationships long term.

[Grey40]

You obviously did not read the entire thread. You only heard what you wanted to hear. This is not generalizing. It is about playing the odds. If you feel ok about going against the odds then it is no skin off my back. I personally prefer to make a decision based on the odds of a certain outcome for my own peace of mind.

 

It is not a generalization to say that we probably won't win the lottery because the odds are we won't.

 

"Most men fall in love quicker than women." --General statement with no evidence or data to back that up. The truth is that YOU fall in love quicker.

 

"Just like the odds are I won't win the lottery so it would be stupid to put down 50 bucks on lottery tickets. It would also be stupid of me to not plan for a short 1st date like 30-35 minutes"---This makes no sense, how does dropping 50 bucks on lottery tickets the same thing as going on a 30 minute first date? They are totally unrelated.

 

I understand what you mean by playing the odds and that dating is a numbers game, I agree with you there. This isn't about odds though, this is about you not being able to take things slow and let things develop naturally. You fall in love with a women on the first date and expect her to do the same, and now that you've failed numerous times you're going to force yourself to pretend you're not interested and use "I'm playing the odds" as an excuse.

[Tommy85]

"Most men fall in love quicker than women." --General statement with no evidence or data to back that up. The truth is that YOU fall in love quicker.

 

"Just like the odds are I won't win the lottery so it would be stupid to put down 50 bucks on lottery tickets. It would also be stupid of me to not plan for a short 1st date like 30-35 minutes"---This makes no sense, how does dropping 50 bucks on lottery tickets the same thing as going on a 30 minute first date? They are totally unrelated.

 

I understand what you mean by playing the odds and that dating is a numbers game, I agree with you there. This isn't about odds though, this is about you not being able to take things slow and let things develop naturally. You fall in love with a women on the first date and expect her to do the same, and now that you've failed numerous times you're going to force yourself to pretend you're not interested and use "I'm playing the odds" as an excuse.

 

Because the odds of a woman falling in love on the first date to the point of wanting marriage are almost the same as winning the lottery.

[Grey40]

Because the odds of a woman falling in love on the first date to the point of wanting marriage are almost the same as winning the lottery.

 

Ok, I could believe that, but is that what you're expecting to happen? I don't understand what your opinion is on the matter, or what you're trying to say. Why would a 30 minute date benefit you vs a 2 hour date? No woman is going to fall in love after a first date, and probably would be really scary and red-flaggy if she did.

[Tommy85]

The evidence that men fall in love faster is all over these boards. It is not hard to find threads in the dating section of guys who want advice on when to make her the girlfriend. I would never ask that question because I know better.

[Tommy85]

Ok, I could believe that, but is that what you're expecting to happen? I don't understand what your opinion is on the matter, or what you're trying to say. Why would a 30 minute date benefit you vs a 2 hour date? No woman is going to fall in love after a first date, and probably would be really scary and red-flaggy if she did.

 

 

The benefit of a short date like 30 minutes is to prepare for the worst case scenario that there is no chemistry and the conversation going flat. I am willing to risk wasting 30 minutes of my life.

[Grey40]

The evidence that men fall in love faster is all over these boards. It is not hard to find threads in the dating section of guys who want advice on when to make her the girlfriend. I would never ask that question because I know better.

 

It's a small percentage of the population that are on these boards, and they are on here because they don't know what they're doing.