Andre_1609 Posted March 3, 2019 Posted March 3, 2019 About 6 months ago I met a guy at work and we got along good very quickly but only as friends. We have a lot of things in common and we never felt attracted romantically to each other. However, lately I notice that he talks awful about a guy that i am seeing (is a friend in common) he says he is not good for me, that i should stop talking with him, that he is a liar that doesn't deserve me. Yesterday at a party, he started to touch my legs and tried to kiss me. Now I am thinking, does he really is a good friend and wants to protect me or he is just being manipulative? He knows that me and the guy I am seeing are not in a good place now, so why he keeps talking trash about him?
alphamale Posted March 3, 2019 Posted March 3, 2019 your "friend" is a beta male trying to steal a girl away from an alpha male 1
d0nnivain Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Your buddy wants to be your BF. He's willing to try to "steal" you away from your current BF.
smackie9 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 You thought you were great friends, but he thought otherwise. He's been wanting in yer pants for a long time. Yes I agree he's just being very beta. In his mind he is better and deserves you. He is one of those self proclaimed nice guys that are d**&^y and manipulative. It is HIM that you should stay away from. He's had ulterior motives all along.
preraph Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 He's just a weak guy who's been orbiting you and was never and is not your friend. He was just too weak to ask you out and too weak to be someone's boyfriend, but he's plenty devious enough to try to block you from having one. Time to turn the hose on him. Orbiters will try to make others think they are your boyfriend and to stay away and then as you can see get nasty when you actually get a real date. You can't let him stay around or he'll interfere constantly with your life. Unless of course you have some attraction to him. He is not after your best interests. These guys prey on women in a sneaky backhanded way and then get bitter when it doesn't work, but it's their own problem why it doesn't. 1
Lotsgoingon Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Draw a boundary. Tell this guy--politely or not so politely--to shut up. He has no business butting into your affairs ... the exception being if you are with a murderer or someone like that.
Grey40 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Yeah, this is typical weak male behavior..trying to become friends with a girl for months--talking to her, getting to know her and hoping that she'll start to fall in love with him. So many guys do this and it's kind of sad because it very rarely works because attraction is usually there or it isn't. Those movies where the best friends become lovers after several years really is an anomaly, and it's the exception not the norm.
chillii Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) Don't really know about the above l don't date guys haha , but anyone l know who are friends with a chick it's because he or she just don't want any more than that. There's also the possibility though that feelings change down the track. He's interested now whatever the case. On the bf, don't forget women will b@tch it up about their bf or h as soon as they're with their gf's if alls not well , he could be telling the truth. Because a guy will whinge to his mates about love life problems too and some like some women won't be too nice about it either. He could know and hear a lot more about your bf's head than you do. Edited March 4, 2019 by chillii
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