Tagalz Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 (edited) Hey! So I see that she's out bowling with other people from snapchat. These people doesn't seem to be the people that she used to hang out with as far as I know. Yeah I have consider that they are just her friends, but what if they are not? I noticed that she followed a guy on instagram now and by common sense he's probably with her bowling with other people. Me and her are dating but we haven't made it official or we haven't have that talk to date exclusive. Now the question is: Is she dating other people behind my back? I'm suspicious because she follow a guy on insta and who knows? she might hit on other guys that are there or otherwise Edited March 2, 2019 by Tagalz
Ronni_W Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 Now the question is: Is she dating other people behind my back?NO! Of course it is not 'behind your back' if you're not officially dating because you haven't mutually decided to date each other exclusively. (If that's what you want, then you need to find your courage to initiate that conversation.) 2
Author Tagalz Posted March 2, 2019 Author Posted March 2, 2019 (If that's what you want, then you need to find your courage to initiate that conversation.) Well yes I will have to talk to her about it. Planning to ask her what she wants first and then say that I want to date her and not exclusively. At this point I think she will say that she wants to date exclusively. But who knows? it's worth a try
Olivia_daviss Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 So are you just dating her or is she actually your girlfriend?
Author Tagalz Posted March 2, 2019 Author Posted March 2, 2019 So are you just dating her or is she actually your girlfriend? No she is not my girlfriend. We are just dating
Olivia_daviss Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 If she isn't actually your girlfriend even if she is dating someone else (she probably isn't) she can if she isn't your girlfriend she has no reason to not date other people 1
Olivia_daviss Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 If you want her ask her out and ask her to be your girlfriend
preraph Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 You are not exclusive, so nothing is behind your back.
Author Tagalz Posted March 2, 2019 Author Posted March 2, 2019 If you want her ask her out and ask her to be your girlfriend I think that's too soon. First I will have to have the talk with her and made my intention clear that I don't want to date exclusive.
Author Tagalz Posted March 2, 2019 Author Posted March 2, 2019 You are not exclusive, so nothing is behind your back. And even if we dated exclusive it would still not be behind my back. I need to have the talk with her don't you agree preraph?
Author Tagalz Posted March 2, 2019 Author Posted March 2, 2019 You are not exclusive, so nothing is behind your back. Have to answer you again so if it comes two answer the first one don't count. this answer do. Yes I do want to date her exclusive because I'm not seeing other girls and I want her to myself. So her going out is she just having fun with friends. I still want to have that talk to see where me and her stands and also to save time so I don't waste it.
edgygirl Posted March 2, 2019 Posted March 2, 2019 Why don’t you want to be her boyfriend given that you’re already stalking her and who’s she’s following and going out with? If you don’t want to be exclusive, let her be. It’s her right to date anyone she pleases. Hope you don’t regret it later. 1
BaileyB Posted March 3, 2019 Posted March 3, 2019 I'm just overthinking am I? Um, yeah. It goes without saying, you are most definitely making assumptions here about a woman that by your own admission, you are not seriously “dating.” 1
Author Tagalz Posted March 4, 2019 Author Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) Just to clear things up. I want to date her exclusively it was just me writing the wrong words. But I won't have that "Talk" with her until the 3th date. It's too soon now. The update: Just came home from the cinema. She's not very into watching movies as she told me but I asked her if it was okay for us to see a scary movie and she said yes. On our way home when we were kissing I asked her if she could kiss with her mouth open because she's kissing me with her mouth halfway open?? she took it as me being rude and was mocking the way I kissed. So I said learn me then? She then said this" I have to get up late so I have to go, but we do it another time?" It's hard to describe how our kiss was. I think she was going for the French kiss? her lips are full while mine is thin so it was hard yes. My personal thought: She enjoyed the movie and it was only the kissing part that was awkward. I know how to kiss and I haven't got any complains from girls who thinks I'm bad at it. I've kissed a lot of girls and some say that I'm good. Maybe it's because of her lips are fuller than mine? Edited March 4, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator off topic
alphamale Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 since you have not had the dreaded "talk", there is no back to go behind. in other words she is free to do as she chooses
Grey40 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 (edited) Holy crap man, you've only been on 2 dates and you're already stalking her and worried about her hanging out with other guys? Stop dude, or you WILL screw it up. You're way too clingy if you're thinking about exclusivity after 2 dates. Also dude, you really called her out about her kissing? You made her feel ****ty, you'll be lucky if she ever contacts you again for another date. Even if the kiss was bad, you don't say that kind of **** to her face, it's rude man. Maybe she didn't really want to kiss you, and that's why she wasn't good at it. Edited March 4, 2019 by Grey40 1
Marc878 Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 With the way you are acting on only 2 dates this isn't going to work out. 1
alphamale Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 there isn't going to be any more dates the way you have behaved
Tamfana Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 Until you make it official or had that talk to date exclusive, either of you can date. If you want exclusivity, have the talk.
Author Tagalz Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 Holy crap man, you've only been on 2 dates and you're already stalking her and worried about her hanging out with other guys? Stop dude, or you WILL screw it up. You're way too clingy if you're thinking about exclusivity after 2 dates. Also dude, you really called her out about her kissing? You made her feel ****ty, you'll be lucky if she ever contacts you again for another date. Even if the kiss was bad, you don't say that kind of **** to her face, it's rude man. First of all how did the stalking and me worry about her hanging with other guy come from? Can you explain it to me? Because this is not true and I don’t know were you got that from. Second of all. She’s a popular girl. Not going to sit around and wait it’s better to have the «talk» Yeah I agree I ****ed up at that part when I called her out, but have a plan to fix it. I say this: «it sounded better in my head but wasn’t the way I wanted it to be when I said it out loud. What I mean is that you should adapt to my way of kissing and I can show you»
Author Tagalz Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 With the way you are acting on only 2 dates this isn't going to work out. How is the way I act then?
Author Tagalz Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 there isn't going to be any more dates the way you have behaved I haven’t done anything wrong. The only thing is the kissing part when I called her out for it but I have a plan that would fix this. I’ll apologize and then I’ll say that I can adapt to her ways or the opposite. Other than that I don’t see anything wrong in my behaviour. She is the one who is most rude. She was mocking me because she’s more popular. She’s saying that I’m a stalker when I’m not. All of these things she says I don’t care
Author Tagalz Posted March 5, 2019 Author Posted March 5, 2019 Holy crap man, you've only been on 2 dates and you're already stalking her and worried about her hanging out with other guys? Stop dude, or you WILL screw it up. I hope you see my answer and reply to it because what you wrote is straight up manipulating me saying something that’s not even true
Author Tagalz Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 Hey! I want you readers to take your time and read it so I can get a proper advice because right now I'm not in a good place. The last two girls who blew me off gave me a reason and I did learn from that. BUT this girl is different. she's blowing me off by a false statement that I'm a stalker. Recap of my last post: As many of you know I ****ed it up big time by being rude. I asked if she could open her mouth more when we were kissing (Btw that was on sunday). I left out one information. She called me out for being a stalker on the way home I don't agree at all and she didn't even say the reason. she just said "I feel" and when I told her that I'm not she just said "ok" Now that's out of the way I randomly met her in the train on my way home from work (That was tuesday). We talked a bit and I asked if she wanted to meet me on friday. She said yes but didn't know what we were going to do. Wednesday: I told her this: I know what we are going to do, so let's meet at 7pm friday? and she blew me off saying "I don't know If I have time" My point is that I need to explain to her why I asked her to open her mouth and I also have to ask her about why she feels I'm a stalker THEN I decided to visit her workplace and I caught her being intimate with another guy. She was sitting in between the guys legs almost as they were going to have sex after the shop closes. That guy is the same guy that she went out bowling with! Then she said "I can't meet you this friday because I'm going on an event with my work. So I finally got the answer. earlier in this post she just said "I'm not sure if I have time" What did I do? well I just said I was nearby and wanted to say hi to her. I obviously could NOT talk to her infront of that guy so instead I was having a small talk with him that lasted 5 min and then I said I had to go. My personal thought: It's not a surprise that she was with a guy because while I was with her I caught her matching with 5 other guys on tinder. ALSO I took a quick glimpse of her using snapchat and she has a lot of guys snapping her. The point is she's a hoe and she's playing games with 10+ guys. I'm sure she will play games with that guy I met today
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