dprelz Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 My ex gf of 3 years left me about a month and a half ago. She gave me a bunch of reasons, and led me to believe it was my entire fault. Basically she was unhappy but kept it to herself and at one point told me that I should "understand how she feels even if no words are exchanged". Now to me that was bull****. All the reasons were bull****, because I would never have left her ever, and in the 3 years I didn't lie to her once. I understand how she felt in hindsight, and I know I have change what I was doing wrong for future relationships. Anyways, after a couple days I realized there was another guy and ironically enough my parents (who loved her) saw them together. Before I knew this information I asked her if there was another guy and she said no. Even after this info I still tried to get her back. I know I can get over her, I know I can find another girl but I felt like she was making a big mistake and I tried so hard for her to see that. I tried to write letters and explain to her that he won't love her as much as me, etc. I was in shock that she could be dating 2 days after she left me, and for all I know, she could of cheated on me. The no contact lasted for 4-5 days than she phoned me one day 18 times! Each time I didn't answer, we talked last Sunday before she went on a trip with her friend(Lol...maybe she went with him?) and she was crying saying she was confused and didn't know what she was doing. I had my hopes up. Then I realized she is a manipulating, sneaky girl and she was keeping me as backup. I realized the only time she phoned me was when the weekend was over and he wasn't with her. Or when she was bored at work. I realized that she thinks I am wrapped around her little finger. Now i tried my way, I am totally honest, I never play games and I hate to not answer the phone when she calls but it's the only way to get over her. I haven't talked to her on the phone for a week and she still text's me and emails me. I bought my own apt (im 24) and she asked when im moving in, etc. So I know she is going to go nuts with curiousty about my new life. Sadly, I miss her so bad still and have to literally stop myself from replying. I I know i shouldn't be involved with someone that is so emotionally unstable and that wasn't honest with not only herself but me. But I still love her with all her faults and if she made a mistake I would forgive her. I am so disappointed that she treated me as a backup. And when I look at the clues it gets so damn obvious. Only contacts me on weekdays, only when she's bored. Basically what im asking for is just some advice I guess. I know the hard part is going to come up when she tries to manipulate me and say "why aren't you answering me, do you hate me?". I don't want to completely close the door but I want her to understand that she left so fast and didn't give me a damn chance to show her we should be together. I know nothing about this new guy and don't want to assume anything. All I know is that he's 30 and that doesn't surprise me at all because I bet she thinks she needs security and maturity..
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