she's like cryptonite!!!!

[hoppy28]

why am i even contemplating emailing her?? we have had zero contact for a month and a half. the reason she left was for another guy she has had a crush on for 2 years......a coworker of sorts. when i heard this i stopped all contact. when i bumped into her acouple weeks later she was deffensive. gave me the line about being "busy"........"my ex still bothers me"......"im not ready". i knew it was all BS and i never mentioned the other guy. i just "hey we dont have to talk about this here(it wasnt the place) you could call me if youd like to talk. she never called. this was the same girl who couldnt stay away from me.......she would tell me such nice things. i actually really liked this girl and i trully thought she liked me.

one major problem im having is we have mutual friends. my bestfriend and also coworker is soon to be married. his fiance is this girls friend. for awhile the four of us would hangout and stuff. i only found out about the other guy she was seeing from my bestfriend. she obviously told his fiance who in turn told him. this girl doesnt know he knows or i know. i thanked him for that but i fell alittle angry towards the fiance..........for atliest not letting me know.

i know thats not her duty but geeezzzzz....doesnt anyone care about anyones feelings?

anyway.........i know they dont invite me around when she's around and vice versa. problem is i know ill see her sometime and in the future. i dont know what to do or how to act????

early next year i will be my buddies bestman at a small wedding at an island.

this girl who ditched me is also going to be there as the brides maid. how crazy is this??!!!!! its going to be wierd?!!!!!!!! any advice as how to compose myself. when all i really want to do is say "hey how you doing......your the girl that stung me along for awhile and then left when something "better" came along. your a piece of crap.....i hope you choke on that pineapple in that drink".??????????

 

the craziest part is the "better man in me" just wants to break the ice by calling her or emailing her and saying "no hard feelings.....wish you well".

i never even really got to say anything. i swalloed my pride and walked away.

 

the other crazy part is i actually beleieved in her. i never would ahev though she would just ditch me like that. she was "so into me" and then "so out of me" all to quickly. i dont understand and im sure im not meant to.

this has been a learning experience for me.

 

1. never date or attempt to date or even get tricked into dating a girl that just gets out of a very long relationship. even though you both had the discussion about taking it "slow".

 

2. never date a friends.........friend.i had this crazy "vision" of how this could turn out. especially with the wedding. you know how it is "fantasies"

 

3. never let your friends hook you up. mine are 0-4

 

4. never be the guy that "made me realise my ex was an a**h***". she'll soon think your an a**h*** aswell. even though you maybe the best guy in the world in reality.

 

5. if a girl tells you "i see a future with you and i turned down getting asked out acouple times becuase i didnt see the potential i saw with you". what it really means is "if someone i think or see as being better then you comes along i will simply drop you like a bad habit"

 

6. THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT RULE AND MY BIGGEST MISTAKE:

 

dont ever think a relationship that starts with her cheating on her boyfriend is going to last......especially if she tells you 1/2 way though.

[freckles3131]

My advice...keep busy, do things that bring you happiness and.....ZERO CONTACT...nothing, nada, if you hear a song that reminds you of her..change the station...get rid of her email address/delete all phone numbers......pretend she has fallen off the face of the earth....when you do see her...turn and walk away...

[hoppy28]

ive done all you have told me to do...............yet i feel this burning desire to get one last word in. i dont want to know why she bailed. i already know that.

 

i suppose i just want to keep it "open" and not "ackward" when and if we ened up being around eachother. i guess im not the one who should feel this way as i didnt do anything wrong. its hard to compete with a guy she see's regularly at work and has had a crush on for 2 years. i suppose it was just a matter of time before he asked her to go out. what shocked me was just prior to me finding this out she was telling me "i dont want to date anyone else".

 

i dont think this girl every trully liked me...........i get the feeling she was just waiting until he did ask her out. had he not done it then and down the road the results probably would have been the same.

 

woman suck. had i known it would be this way i probably would have never gotten involved with her. i just couldnt resist. im a fool.

[hoppy28]

anyone else have anygood advise??? NC maynot be possable at times as we have friends that are marrying eachother. its not like i want her back i want to show her what she missed out on. she broke policy #1 and thats honesty at all times nomatter what how bad the news may be. so for that alone i cant be with her. she proved that the first night we met and she cheated on her boyfriend of 6 years with me. i was blinded by her beauty and didnt let that faze me. well i was wrong. i shouldnt have trusted her one bit.

[Art_Critic]

If don't want her back then just move on .. Why stoop to a level where you are trying to show her what she is missing out on ?

 

She doesn't care.. She is being banged by some other guy.

 

Just move on.. you are the one that said you don't want her back..

 

Even if you do want her back the advice is still move on.. By moving on you accomplish 2 things 1 is that you have gotten rid of her hook in you and then in the future if you get back together you will be able to handle a new relationship with her and 2 is that you don't have to lose your balls by giving her the power over you of your happiness..

 

Moving on and never looking back is a win/win deal