TwoxeLDd Posted March 1, 2019 Posted March 1, 2019 I have been seeing this girl since January and everything is going great. The week of Valentines Day we exchanged gifts and she bought me some nice sneakers and we aren’t a real couple yet so I was surprised. I took her out and got her some chocolates and a card Two days later she was over and I mentioned a relationship but I was shy around the subject so I dropped it Today I finally got the balls and asked her to be together and her response was “are you serious” i said yes I’m serious am I supposed to be joking about my feelings? Her response is making me think negatively ... did i do something wrong ?
d0nnivain Posted March 1, 2019 Posted March 1, 2019 You did nothing wrong. Only she can tell you why she reacted the way she did but for now I'd drop the relationship talk & let her get more used to the idea
preraph Posted March 1, 2019 Posted March 1, 2019 Hmm. That is odd. I mean, you both bought each other nice Valentine Presents. That in itself kind of means you are at least "a boyfriend," though maybe not exclusive. All I can think is that maybe she likes to multidate and thinks it's too soon to make an exclusive relationship. I mean, it is still a little early, and I have to assume she is also either interested in or seeing someone else as well. You know, women nearly always have one guy they're looking at and hoping will take an interest, though it rarely works out, but it could be something like that. Just don't know. Why not just keep the conversation light and keep dating and say, So too soon? And just see what she says. Don't even ask about other guys. Just see what she says. She's perfectly entitled to multidate as long as you know about it, which I guess you know she might be now.
spiderowl Posted March 3, 2019 Posted March 3, 2019 Maybe she genuinely didn't know if you meant it or were teasing her? It depends on her tone of voice which we were not party to. I agree with others, drop the relationship chat for the moment to allow her to think it over. If she is interested, I think she'll bring the subject up again in some form, but maybe not obviously so. In the meantime, best not to assume she is exclusive with you or anyone. If she genuinely does not seem to want a relationship, then I guess you need to think about whether you want to continue seeing so much of her. It sounds like you two get on really well at least.
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