Ronni_W Posted March 3, 2019 Posted March 3, 2019 i will tell her i cannot continue. That is the best and most constructive thing that you can do for yourself. STAY STRONG about it, yes?
Author InsertHere Posted March 3, 2019 Author Posted March 3, 2019 I don't have the power to do it today. We've just talked ... is strange for me to break-up for no explicit reason, i mean, she thinks i'm somehow past the cheating. 50% of me knows i can't trust her and i can't have a future with her 50% of me still "loves" her and wants her attention and care Please don't laugh, but even though i'm almost 30, she's my first love. I've even had three relationships when i wasn't trying with her, but i didn't loved them. What is interesting about her is that she is trying to mock me and to make me lower my self-esteem. Too bad i know her game.
Ronni_W Posted March 3, 2019 Posted March 3, 2019 is strange for me to break-up for no explicit reason, i mean, she thinks i'm somehow past the cheating. It does NOT matter what she thinks. You do have very explicit reasons for breaking up with her (irretrievable break of trust, knowledge of lack of a future), so telling yourself otherwise is just you deceiving and deluding yourself. What is interesting about her is that she is trying to mock me and to make me lower my self-esteem.No, not at all. But. What is interesting about you is that you are giving her all the evidence and ammunition that she needs to be able to mock you. And it's also interesting about you that you are so willing to just do things that you already know will erode your self-esteem, more and more. You willingly, knowingly, willfully engage in self-defeating behaviour...that is interesting!
kendahke Posted March 4, 2019 Posted March 4, 2019 she should beg for forgiveness, but also have no expectations that that's enough to undo the damage she's done or that you owe her anything just because she can say "I'm sorry". That's nice, but she's still toxic and should be avoided.
Orokotikki Posted March 5, 2019 Posted March 5, 2019 "You cheated. We're over. DO NOT CALL ME. Auf wiedersehn."
Author InsertHere Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 Sunday night i couldn't do it. Monday night she was very sick and tired so i couldn't do it also, but she had the energy to almost fight with me because from 13.30 to 19.00 until she called i've didn't texted; give the situation that she didn't even responded to my morning message and i've had to explicitly ask her around 13.00 if she's busy or upset. WTFFFFF Tuesday night she texted me ( even though we've texted during the day ): we're getting cold instead of the opposite; like strangers. I've called her and i've told her i want to get even colder, colder as possible. She accused me of two things: - i'm scared that she might do it again or run back to him ( even though is impossible for them to move together due to some reasons ) - i've broken my promise that i would try to understand her and try to make things good I've asked her, if he would call to say it would visit you this weekend, will you refuse ? She said: don't think for me. I think this guy gives her amazing orgasm and i don't know what, but wtf. She again told me she's not in love with him.
Marc878 Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 You are wallowing with a cheater. You should respect yourself. The only one keeping you where you are is you. Wake up 2
Marc878 Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 Sunday night i couldn't do it. Monday night she was very sick and tired so i couldn't do it also, but she had the energy to almost fight with me because from 13.30 to 19.00 until she called i've didn't texted; give the situation that she didn't even responded to my morning message and i've had to explicitly ask her around 13.00 if she's busy or upset. WTFFFFF Tuesday night she texted me ( even though we've texted during the day ): we're getting cold instead of the opposite; like strangers. I've called her and i've told her i want to get even colder, colder as possible. She accused me of two things: - i'm scared that she might do it again or run back to him ( even though is impossible for them to move together due to some reasons ) - i've broken my promise that i would try to understand her and try to make things good I've asked her, if he would call to say it would visit you this weekend, will you refuse ? She said: don't think for me. I think this guy gives her amazing orgasm and i don't know what, but wtf. She again told me she's not in love with him. You are doing the "pick me" dance which just lowers your status while making her other man look even better. 1
Author InsertHere Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 She is clearly more attached to him and i’m just a side kick. She even said when i’ve asked her after she cheated if the sex was good, and said: yes. She said a week ago: i will still talk to him because i have no reason not to do it, because i didn’t had a fight.
stillafool Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 So, she just wants attention ? Important question: why she chosed me for anothe 3 relations but she didn’t picked a guy from her town or another guy from distance? More than likely she chose you because the other guy doesn't want her for anything other than sex. He probably treats her like the _____she is and she respects that. One thing I can say about this girl is she's honest. 1
Author InsertHere Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 I'm not a professional doctor, but she seems to be bipolar. On each relationship tentative we got along for two weeks and then she got 180 degrees. Also i've read that bipolars have poor sex judgment, so ... i don't know what to say. I'm not a doctor.
kendahke Posted March 6, 2019 Posted March 6, 2019 The whys don't matter. Your obsession with her needs to be addressed by a professional.
Author InsertHere Posted March 6, 2019 Author Posted March 6, 2019 In fact i have the first visit to therapy on 12 March. I need help, i must admit. 1
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