JhnZ71 Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 Hi, Im 18, my girlfriend was 17 weve been on and off for several months. I am really crazy about her because at first we worked out so well. She is everything I could ask for in a girl except for a few things. Lately however we have been fighting alot, and decided to break up. I really love this girl alot, but she said that we should just be "friends". So I guess I kinda got dumped. I feel horrible and cannot stop thinking about her does anyone know what I can do? Id like to have her back but she doesnt want to at all. I cant get my mind off of her which Is why I joined this forum, maybe if I got some of it off of my chest then I could be happier.
CantDecide... Posted September 19, 2005 Posted September 19, 2005 be here friend for bit, then when the timing is right, pull NC, like wait till an arugment, and ignore her for a week or two, shell be putty in ur hands, this worked for me first time aroundw ith my ex...of corse it didnt work 2cd time around...but thats a whole nother story in itself. but when the timing is right pull Nc NC=no contact
DesertDweller Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 I agree with NC. A former boyfriend used to call it "denying her of my presence." For some reason, we females are likely to renew our interest in a man if he keeps us guessing. But, if we're not interested, it's out of sight, out of mind. Tricky, I know. I probably shouldn't have added that last bit...
kscholze Posted September 20, 2005 Posted September 20, 2005 how do you know when its out of sight? My ex said she was done and then after a month of NC I saw her and she said she still loves me. I was over her until then. She has now said she is done again (after I pressured her to tell me what she wanted) I have started NC again. When do women mean it and how do I know?
Author JhnZ71 Posted September 20, 2005 Author Posted September 20, 2005 Yeah im the same way, I like her so much that I want to be friends with her. Im also too eager to find out what she is thinking, usually just angering her. I guess I really have to just move on. What hurt me the most is that she didnt seem to be too broken up by our break up, she didnt seem sad or anything. It was a 50/50 breakup, we both realized that things werent working.
CantDecide... Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 im gonna tell you what i learned the hard way, i hope your smart and take this advice i wish i listened when somebody said this to me. DONT for a second try and push her into a realtionship. If she wants to be friends leave it at that, dont make a move on her(kiss), keep her guesing dont tell her about ur life, if she asks then. let her come to you. let her call Im email txt you. everynow and then you should but let the majority of it be from her. and most importantley just dont be a pain in the ass and weak. woman can see a weak guy a mile away and it makes them sick. just be cool, go out date new ppl, talk to girls, not necesarily hook up, just talk..busy urself with things to keep u preocupied, and remebr when the timing is right. do no contact.
Author JhnZ71 Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 I talked to her best friend tonite, she told me that my EX just wanted space. We were supposed to go out for a friendly dinner this sat, i already made the reservations, should I cancel it? Im really crazy about this girl, but if shes gonna treat me like $h!t then i dont know.
CantDecide... Posted September 21, 2005 Posted September 21, 2005 take my above advice...it really will get u far
Author JhnZ71 Posted September 21, 2005 Author Posted September 21, 2005 CantDecide... I know your right. Because the more I follow your adivce the better that I feel.
Author JhnZ71 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 I saw her tonite, I want her back so bad I could die. I always get kinda frustrated and angry, why?
kscholze Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 cantdecide, when my ex told me she loved me I pushed her. She then got pissed off and said she doesn't want to be with me. What did she expect me to do after she said that? How can she tell me she loved me when she was with the guy she is dating. Then in a phone call she said that she DOES want to be with me. I couldnt just sit back and not do anything. Even though it only ended up pissing her off. She txt me 3 days ago, do I txt back? I really want to.
lilmoma1973 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Hey Jhn , Most the time when someone breaks up with you because "they need space" that usually means you crowding me and i see something better out there and i want to see how it goes... Good luck hope it all works out for you!!
CantDecide... Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 cantdecide, when my ex told me she loved me I pushed her. She then got pissed off and said she doesn't want to be with me. What did she expect me to do after she said that? How can she tell me she loved me when she was with the guy she is dating. Then in a phone call she said that she DOES want to be with me. I couldnt just sit back and not do anything. Even though it only ended up pissing her off. She txt me 3 days ago, do I txt back? I really want to. sry for the late response i have been away for the weekend, i wouldnt txt her, if she really wants to talk to u she can be more personal and call you. let her wonder what ur doing, and try and stick with NC....i seriosly wish i had the strengh to do no contact from day one, but i played games, im intoa week of NC right now and i feel ok, im not great but im really not that bad. If its ment to be it will be, i know this sucks hearing this but maybe she just needs to go out hook up with sumbody new just to know she can, and u know what more the reason u can to. So to the original question i wouldnt txt back, let her txt u againall you or Im you, something a little more personal
Author JhnZ71 Posted September 27, 2005 Author Posted September 27, 2005 Ok guys, So ive tried to be her friend. We hung out last sat night, bad idea. She kissed me and we ended up making out for a while. Then I said we gotta stop this cause were not going out she says that she still loves me but doesnt want to be with me now. I got really pissed when one of my supposed friends starts hanging out with her all the time, when he tells me that he doesnt like her like that. They hang out all the time, I really think they like each other. I now am going to begin a permenant NC, i cant believe she would do this to me what a huge b*tch. I really feel that she is a huge waste of my time, im a nice person and I really dont deserve to be treated like this.
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