Interstellar Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 In your initial post you didn’t mention how long you’ve known and spent time with her. Since you barely know this gal outside of a little small talk; ask her out for coffee or just drinks instead. If she turns out to be cray cray you’ll only be down 10-15 bucks.
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 You mention she is in one of your classes. I can't believe there are no on campus activities. Go shoot pool or play air hockey in the student lounge. Go work out in the school gym. Check out the art on campus.
The Dude Abides Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 but didn't you already know each other? Not really. She came to the happy hour at the invitation of a mutual friend. I think I knew who she was beforehand , but only because the mutual friend said there was a new person working with her. I didn’t know her last name or even very much about her other than where she went to college. And the ‘go to a movie’ thing was just a lark. Anyway, it wasn’t really a date per-se. But it did work out for the best LOL . Now that I think of it, I went to see Monty Python “Meaning Of Life “ on a first date. It all was going OK until the infamous Mr Creosote vomiting scene. That wasn’t the best thing for a first date. Maybe you guys have a good point with this thread LOL .
Lotsgoingon Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 You're bringing up a great point in highlighting that a first date ... spans a spectrum ... First date could be you have barely talked before ... all the way to ... a first date that follows a lot of talk or electric energy leading up to the date. The more confident you are in your connection with the person ... the more going to a movie or engaging in a fun activity works. On the other hand for online dating, when people really have not been around each other, a coffee shop meeting is good. Meeting for drinks at a bar ... is clearly more sexy and "datey" than coffee ... but you can get a good sense of a person's energy over coffee ... like 15 minutes of coffee ...
frankspeci Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 You barely know this person? Just go sonwhere and talk to her. You're trying to raise her interest in your personality, and see if you're interested in hers. Not her interest in some movie. Any chill venue that is conducive to a fun convo will do. I prefer a bar where I can loosen up a bit. But on the whole the venue should matter very little. It is about what you say to each other and how you vibe. Then once you've got a little bond and familiarity you can start to see movies.
spiderowl Posted February 27, 2019 Posted February 27, 2019 People go to moves on first dates. I don't think it is ideal because you can't talk to each other much during the movie. Afterwards, it's usually quite late with nowhere else to go other than yours or their home. All in all, a drink somewhere nice or a meal would be a better option. The only 'benefit' of going to the movies for a first date is it gives the guy chance to put his arm round you or hold your hand. If you are not ready for that, then may be best avoided.
Happy Lemming Posted February 27, 2019 Posted February 27, 2019 I like the ice-skating idea; lots of opportunities to hold each up and catch one another when you're about to slip. Yes, in my youth, I used to play ice hockey on a rec league, nothing too serious. I had met this woman and we were talking before we went out. She (casually) figure skated (for fun), again nothing too serious, just a hobby. So our first date was ice skating, me on my hockey skates and her on her pretty figure skates. I guess we looked like Beauty and the Beast on ice. (LOL)! All in all, it was a good date. I know the OP isn't much into the idea, but it was a nice memory, GT. 1
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