crispytoast Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 What do you think of a movie the first time on a date with someone? Is it cliche or totally acceptable? What's the etiquette? Hit me with your thoughts.
Happy Lemming Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 You can't really talk in a movie theater. Personally, I like a quiet restaurant for a first date, then a walk around the area to talk and learn more about the person. One of my best first dates I took a woman a large aquarium (building) all kind of features, we wandered through and talked and watched the fish, sharks, etc. On the way home, we stopped off for dinner at this quiet Chinese food restaurant. It was one of my better ideas for a first date. 1
Garcon1986 Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 If you can swing a movie date while getting to know the person, that's ideal. Otherwise it doesn't work out that well as a true "date".
Author crispytoast Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 (edited) You can't really talk in a movie theater<snip> Yeah that's what I was thinking too.. only thing is, there really isn't a whole lot to do around here. There's mostly breweries, bars, concerts, and movies. None of which seem to me like I would want to go to for a first date. The quiet restaurant is part of the plan but I want to do something first, y'know? Asking if she wants to grab dinner feels a little unoriginal. Edited February 26, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Truncate quote
basil67 Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 If the two of you are really into movies, then it could be a great date which is supported by mutual interest.
Happy Lemming Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 The quiet restaurant is part of the plan but I want to do something first, y'know? Asking if she wants to grab dinner feels a little unoriginal. Are there any museums in the area?? Art walk?? You are looking for a "walking around" place??
Interstellar Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 (edited) I love movies but I’d save it for the fourth date or something. You can’t get to know someone staring at a screen for two hours. First date ideas? Take her to an arcade, or mini golf, or the zoo and buy her ice cream and take pictures of her and you with a 35 mm disposable camera goofing off with the animals. There is anticipation and mystery waiting for the film to develop. It adds to the excitement. Or a nice restaurant with a personality, like some stuff they have on display which would help with conversation as well. Museums are great too, if she’s into art or introverted. Edited February 26, 2019 by Interstellar
Author crispytoast Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 Walking around place seems nice, aquarium or mini golf would both be fun but there aren't any around here. There's a psychedelic bowling night which could be fun, was thinking I might try that but if she's not into bowling I wanted a fallback plan
Author crispytoast Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 (edited) I'm more of a mischief kind of guy. And she's a snarky kind of woman, fiery as hell and quite the sh*t talker. Dunno if ice skating would be the right fit . I'm gonna see if she's into art and if she is, maybe see if she wants to f*ck around with spray cans and canvases. Edited February 26, 2019 by crispytoast
d0nnivain Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 Another vote that movies are not for the 1st date. Don't the breweries have tours? That might be OK.
hippychick3 Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 First dates are just getting to know each other. You can’t do that in a movie theater. The best first date is just dinner and/or drinks so you can talk to each other. Reserve fun places and movies for subsequent dates. 1
Cersei Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 I always thought a round of golf would be a great first date provided you both like golfing and it's not winter where you live. With this date there is lots of time to talk and goof around. Years ago one of my first dates was a day fishing trip then we had a bbq afterwards. So much fun. The guy ended up being a loser but he showed me a great time. Do you already know this person or will this be the first time meeting? (I don't really recommend going off in a boat or to a golf course with a complete stranger. Lots of places to hide bodies. Lol) I think a good first date would be a little walk and some appetizers.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 Not crazy about the idea of a movie for the first date. You can't get to know each other.
Author crispytoast Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 Well that question is thoroughly answered. By the way, this woman is in one of my classes which is part of why I don't want to ask to dinner and drinks. With something that seems datey, she would be thinking that if things don't click, then we still have to see each other for the rest of the semester and she doesn't know me well enough to know if I'm the type to get weird. Nor do I know if she is. Also, we don't really have the chance to get to know each other during classes and we both have other classes immediately after. We talk a lot during class, popping jokes and stuff. But that's why I want to do something that isnt perceived as quite so datey. It would give us a chance to see if we get along and if the chemistry is there, I can take her to dinner and drinks afterward. If not, then it's a simple "that was fun, see you around" and things go back to normal.
olivetree Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 No to movie date. You said you didn't want to do something cliche... it's totally cliche, and thus "datey". Do something where you can talk and get to know each other. Doesn't have to be original and creative.
GorillaTheater Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 I like the ice-skating idea; lots of opportunities to hold each up and catch one another when you're about to slip. My first date with my wife was a double date to one of those carnivals where we road all of the rides, ate junky but delicious carnival food, and generally had a hell of a blast together.
alphamale Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 What do you think of a movie the first time on a date with someone? Is it cliche or totally acceptable? What's the etiquette? Hit me with your thoughts. the idea of a first date is to talk and feel each other out (not THAT way!). it's hard to talk when you're watching a movie. dinner is the best for a first date...
Author crispytoast Posted February 26, 2019 Author Posted February 26, 2019 To be fair, the movie question wasnt about this person, I was just trying to get a discussion going. There wasn't a "two of us" in my head til someone mentioned it and I thought to myself hmmmm who would I like to take out on a date? So let's move past the movie? Any thoughts of my assessment of taking the woman from my class out? Am I overthinking it? To be fair I really don't know if she's into me, she is hard to read.
alphamale Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 crispytoast you need to clearly delineate that you are going on a date. 1
introverted1 Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 I want to do something that isnt perceived as quite so datey. It would give us a chance to see if we get along and if the chemistry is there, I can take her to dinner and drinks afterward. If not, then it's a simple "that was fun, see you around" and things go back to normal. So ask her out for drinks, which can be casual or not, depending on how things go. There's got to be a nicer (read: quieter) place you can go so you can talk and see if things click.
The Dude Abides Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 Crispy, Mrs Dude and I had our first date.....by going to a movie. In reality, it later on retroactively was labeled as a date. But at the time it wasn't considered a date and just something to do because we both were free that day. We ended up going to a movie together because I casually mentioned something about a movie I wanted to see as we walked out of a bar after a happy hour meeting with a mutual friend. It was merely an offhand comment and she said she was thinking about seeing the same movie but her roommate wasn't interested.....so we said oh why not see it together? So, there is one time a first date movie worked out for the best.
Gretchen12 Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 I have nothing against a movie date. There is something relaxing and comforting about it. You are not on display and you're not judging each other. It's not an interview or stand up comedy. I like how it is so not goal oriented, like you are not trying to check off a list. Sometimes the "get to know" becomes too Q&A. You might leave each other not having acquired a lot of info, so in that sense it is not efficient. But if you had fun, why not?
alphamale Posted February 26, 2019 Posted February 26, 2019 So, there is one time a first date movie worked out for the best. but didn't you already know each other?
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